I want to go see Larry the Cable guy in Feb and told my boyfriend. I asked him to go with me but he said its stupid and refuses to go. He says I shouldnt go beacuse he isnt going. Is this a control thing or something else. Would you go? If it was him and I asked him not to go he wouldnt but the thing is I wouldnt ask him not to do something he really wants to do. We're on the verge of ending our 2 year relationship over this. If I do give in isnt it going to just be something else next? And how do I tell my parents and everyone that I dont want to go because of him even. I'm only 17 right now. What would you do or what have you done?
2007-12-12 09:30:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Definitely go. If he thinks that you two must be joined at the hip in order for your relationship to work, then it *is* a control thing. Maybe he's insecure and thinks he has to control you to keep you (which is no excuse) or maybe he's just extremely immature and thinks that unless two people can't stand to be apart for a moment that they must not be in love (also no excuse).
And I bet it will be something else in the future. Plus, if you let him make you cancel things you want to do just because he doesn't want go, you will end up:
1. Sad 'cuz you lost those opportunities
2. Hating him because he stopped you
3. Kicking yourself for not sticking up for what you want
Go. Have fun. I don't know if you two will break up--but you have got to go. If you don't you'll be missing a lot more than the show.
2007-12-12 09:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by YearoftheRat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should never let a guy have so much control over what you do, and giving into him in this instance would be exactly that. He knows you would enjoy going to see Larry the Cable Guy (heck, I would love to see him!), but for some reason he doesn't want you to go and have fun without him. He is insecure, and there is nothing you can do to change his insecurity. That is HIS issue, and HE needs to learn to deal with it.
2007-12-12 17:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love him and want to be with him it may be worth not going to, talk to him and see if hes ok with you going and not him maybe. im 17 also and i know its hard i have had fights over stupid things like this with my boyfriend of almost 2 years. dont go into it with a negative view either like its just going to be something else im sure it will work out.
If it winds up being where you aren't going to go just tell your family or friends that you dont want to go anymore.
and it probably is a control thing. yah know...guys...testosterone...control just calmly explain everything to him.
2007-12-12 17:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by ari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that , it is controle go have fun see how it test your realtionship. in a week you will prob think he is a jerk and want to date someone else. never let a man controle you it stifles your growth as aperson and only gets worse as time goes on
2007-12-12 18:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by saintlouisheat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say byebye to him.
He has no control over what/where you go and do.
So, go to see Larry the Cable Guy.
2007-12-12 17:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD STILL GO...IT SOUNDS LIKE A CONTROL THING. DO NOT LET UR SELF AND GO...HAVE FUN YOUR YOUNG. AND IF HE DOES NOT RESPECT THAT THEN LET HIS *** GO
2007-12-12 17:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by caramel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋