you form a close attachment to soon....you are very needy, you have very low self esteem....and as soon as people pick up on these things, their off and you finish up always being rejected, socially rejected.
im 30 years old and have borderline personality disorder...because of this problem, ive never formed any friendships or relationships, ever. never had a partner.
ive always been rejected because of this problem to...i was bullied throughout secondary school and couldnt mix....i didnt enjoy going and i ended up dropping out of school.
since then, from 15 onwards, ive been homeless, been attacked, mugged in the street. sustained head injuries in a street attacks. been in a psychiatric hospital.
plus i was sexually abuse at 3 years old.
now iam 30, ive physically aged, im overweight, have 2 missing teeth, front bottom row. torn ankle ligaments....could have diabetes because im always thirsty. im bald.
so im worrying the odds of me finding a nice partner in life seem like remote
2007-12-12 09:17:52 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
plus i feel so bad about myself i never even no how to talk to girls or women......and because of my extreme low self esteem, i always get rejected.
and the clingyness, and my un self assured demeanor frightens them away.
im really depressed and frustrated because ive spent all my life like this now.
plus i feel i have a small manhood....so i get low esteem from this to
2007-12-12 09:20:41 · update #1
freeD : what are you talking about you complete idiot - do i know you? i dont recolect that i do prk !
stay away from my questions, save your verbal diareah for others.
2007-12-12 09:49:11 · update #2
The cure for clingyness and dependency on people is to learn to depend on yourself and not expect others to give you what you need.
Seriously look into the principals of Buddism & meditation.
Although with the anxiety levels you have meditation would take some time for you to master because it can't be done with circling thoughts - but if you could meditate it would help you. Read some self help books about detachment.
We are born into this world alone and we die alone.
Even if we find a special person - there is never a guarantee that the bond lasts.
2007-12-12 13:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by flip 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG you poor thing. You've had a pretty tough life. But to be honest, you have recognised that you are 'clingy' as you say, and find that you scare people off by appearing too needy. So now that you know that, you can rectify this behaviour. You don't say what your financial circumstances are now. I assume since you're emailing, you're a little better off than you were. If this is the case and you're worried about your appearance, perhaps join weightwatchers and go for regular walks to reduce excess weight. Perhaps social welfare would help with some dental work if you're not in a position to fund this yourself right now. I find that when you feel more confident in yourself physically, you can set about rectifying other areas in your life you're not happy with. If you are entitled to social welfare help, perhaps talk to a welfare officer about counselling or some form of psychological help not only to address your present behavioural problems but also to help deal with the abuse which took place as a toddler.
Whatever you decide to do, I wish you well.
2007-12-12 17:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by tarasheridan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I like you just the way you are! Peace!
2007-12-12 17:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by sandra b 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
feel like making anything else up? are you sure you weren't raised by apes or wolves or something?
and if you are homeless, who let you onto their computer?
more Lithium or Prozac might help beyond anything else.
2007-12-12 17:29:53 · answer #4 · answered by freeD 3 · 1⤊ 6⤋