If I am asking my girlfriend to marry me is it best to buy a nice but cheap ring so if she says 'yes' she can then buy one of her choice or do I go straight out and buy an expensive ring that I like? I think it is best to give her the choice but would like your thoughts.
2007-12-12 09:15:13 · 39 answers · asked by Richard W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i would say buy the ring as its more personal when the man buys the ring and it shows they are very commited to the idea of getting married to the person
good luck :)
2007-12-12 10:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by in love and its great 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how she would feel about it. Is she more of a sentimental type or a practical type? My husband and I picked out our rings together (engagement ring and the wedding bands); I wouldn't have it any other way - he knows nothing about jewelry, and would have never known what to get me. However, we're both practical people, and it just seemed a sensible thing to do. Not everyone wants to be sensible and rational in such a sentimental matter - many women would prefer a total surprise.
P.S. She might not want an expensive ring at all. I would have killed my husband if he had followed this "two month's salary" nonesense. :)
2007-12-12 10:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy Ego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first of all, the ring is not the most important thing here, its the proposal of marriage, and it doesn't matter if you propose with a hula hope (ok, maybe not a hula hoop, but you get my point) if she loves you she will want to marry you whatever the ring. I don't necessarily believe in buying expensive rings,thats wasting money that could go towards other important things, i.e your first home, the wedding etc.
When I got engaged to my husband he was pretty skint and gave me a ring which he was paying weekly for in his mums catalogue, that ring meant the world to me, and I wouldn't have had it any different.
2007-12-13 01:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by MissEssex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you want to marry her is a blessing and a good thing many just want all the fun and none of the commitment and for this I am proud of you.
Rings diamonds etc are WAY overrated get her a nice ring and like you said let her make a choice of what she wants.
Dont go into debt over a ring. My ring is 1/4 carat and I love it because my husband brought it for me and we are married 14 years I wish you and your intended all the very best:)e4g
2007-12-12 09:44:01 · answer #4 · answered by encourager4God 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that she won't say yes??
Anyways, you should know what your girlfriend would like in a ring - however, if you're unsure, there's nothing wrong (in my opinion) of asking her to marry you, and then going shopping for a ring together. That way you can be sure that she gets the ring that she'll adore :D
2007-12-14 21:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was suprised with a ring (ie, he went out and bought the "real" ring without my consultation)
I think its better that way, because, its THE REAL RING that I will wear, and always look at and think thats the ring that HE CHOSE for ME....
but I am a simple girl, and have very plain taste, and whatever I am presented with, I always love...especially if it was picked just for me. If your girl has particular taste, I suggest buy the REAL ring that you want her to have, and if she doesn't like it, then you can return it. Besides, what would you do with the "cheap" ring, when she says yes, and you want to go buy the "real" ring?
2007-12-12 13:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by lovesapples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know her taste and are confident that you will pick something she likes than go ahead and buy her the ring, to be fair she should be more interested in the proposal than the ring, and the cost of it should not matter. If you are at all unsure it is better to take her ring shopping with you and choose something together.
2007-12-12 18:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go and get the expensive ring that you like! Heck, if it's expensive any girl would like it! She might feel disappointed with a cheap one, and even though you offer, embarrassed to actually go get another one.
If it's not a total surprise, I'd stop and browse in a jewlery store together,now and then before the proposal to get a general idea of what style she might like.
My husband asked the jeweler if it would be possible to exchange the ring for another if I really didn't like it. He offered that to me but I wanted the ONE he proposed to me with. It already had sentimental value!
Good luck!
2007-12-12 09:36:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very romantic to pick out the ring yourself. If she wants to marry you, then she would want something that you hand chose for her. Thats what makes proposing so special :)
The only advice I can give you about getting the ring is...
don't go to a jewelry store...I can't tell you how many times I've heard people talk about how they spent $5,000 on a ring and then went to get it appraised by an outside appraiser or even go to return it, and its only worth $1,200. Its pretty sad.
My husband got mine in an online auction for below Rapaport (diamond wholesale pricing). So now I have a $2800 ring that has a stone worth its value.
and...avoid "prong" settings. They get caught on EVERYTHING! In your hair, sweaters...it gets really annoying!!
Look for some type of "bezel" setting to avoid this. It is also a hot style now!
2007-12-16 06:13:53 · answer #9 · answered by luckygrrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main Diamond is what is important. I suggest buying the setting and the Diamond seperately, you can always change the setting. Buy a good Diamond, pick out a setting that you like, and than if she doesn't like it, you can always switch out the setting.
Does she have any idea your going to pop the big question? Maybe ask her mom or if she has any sisters if she has said anything about what style diamond or ring she likes. Good Luck!
2007-12-12 11:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by MeL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋