I had a dream about having a "date" with this guy and we had the most delicious sex (not that I recall details much) but at the end, his attitude changed to one of a user and I wish I could recall his exact words, but I remember replying "No, not now, just don't say that now", meaning to spoil the wonderful sex that I had just experienced. Even though I now knew it meant nothing to him, I wanted to finish the 'fantasy' on a good note and deal with the rejection later.
I remembered the dream, I had a full day, forgot the dream, but now just remembered it as if it was a real memory slamming into me.
SOooo,... any words to help me deal with my created rejection?
2007-12-12 08:32:08 · 4 answers · asked by Valeria 4 in Social Science ➔ Dream Interpretation
I've now been married for 20 years.
Not sure how that fits to the HIM being my husband other than my husband ignores me and berates me.
2007-12-12 09:11:54 · update #1
I like the 'gage' idea, but I can't figure out where the 'valve' is!
2007-12-12 09:13:20 · update #2
Yes Benedict, my husband is very controling. I keep telling myself that one day I'll leave him (when the kids come of age in another few years), but now I'm re-resigned to stay with him. He's done a good job of teaching me that all men are scum and that I will never survive w/o him.
Anyway, why is my dream torturing me by not even letting me enjoy my private time in my own mind? Isn't it bad enough that I get called names when I'm awake? I feel trapped. Oh, and I tend to hate December because of all it stand for.
2007-12-12 10:24:16 · update #3
Oh, and I forgot to add, he's been to counciling with me twice.. but he's into playing games.. he acts 'normal' for the doctor.. and plays on the fact that *I'm* the one that needs the counciling for some odd reason b/c he's happy.
2007-12-12 10:26:26 · update #4
I think you're wanting some quality intimacy in your life without the "crappy" baggage that accompanys it! Can't blame you! Keep going to the counselor!! Also a good book - Boundaries and Safe People by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend.
2007-12-12 10:34:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would seem that from your dream you're concerned about being used. I'm guessing the guy is real so just talk to him and size him up. People aren't too hard to figure out. Just listen to what he has to say. If he's a user, it'll be very obvious when you talk to him. If there's a certain callousness or indifference in his behavior then your dream of him was accurate.
Anyway your dream of rejection sounds like a fear. Talk to him and you will confront your fear.
But be careful. Trust your instincts.
Whoa. You're married. Okay this is an entirely different situation. Your husband ignores you and berates you?
Okay if you think your marriage is beyond counseling then go for this guy. The fears stemming from your horrible marriage is being projected on this guy in your dreams. You're afraid he's just like your husband.
But seriously think about marriage counselling. If your husband won't go with you, drop him.
If he was a loving husband he would go with you.
2007-12-12 08:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by Benedict V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could simply be that you just had been considering her due to the fact she method plenty to you no longer due to the fact you supposed for it to occur. Its well that you just consider that its ill, this indicates that it wasn't intentional. The undeniable fact that its been in your brain is ordinarily why its occurred once more or nevertheless routinely its occurred . You see your sister within the boy due to the fact your considering your sister no longer being within the boy if that is sensible. i am hoping that this is helping, if no longer then i am sorry :)
2016-09-05 09:53:06 · answer #3 · answered by teirtza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gage is registering near the red danger mark, indicating high internal heat and pressure. You must find your 'safety valve' and open it before your boiler burst!
2007-12-12 09:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋