Ive liked this girl for a few years. We often flirted and met up recently as we live in different cities. Well we kissed and I would have loved sex but she just held off and said not now. When she said this to me, I said to her 'then when'. She didnt answer me. Do you think she is just not really into me? What did she mean by 'not now'?
2007-12-12 07:52:36 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because she has a brain
2007-12-12 07:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by lman 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
What did she mean by 'not now'? She means that she doesnt feel ready to have sex with you. Your response of 'when then' was probably the worst thing you could have said. A response of, "there is no rush" or " I dont just want you for sex" etc would have been a little better. There is a major difference to flirting and actually having full sex with someone.
Sounds to me like you want another notch on your bedpost. If you like the girl then be patient. Wine and dine her, treat her with respect. She could be the best thing that ever happens to you.
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2007-12-12 16:07:48 · answer #2 · answered by Smithers 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no it means that at that moment all you were after was sex and thats insecure and she wanted more to you then that and thats why she held out because youve known her for a while and she wanted it to be right but all you came up with was "then when" you should get kicked in the nuts for that dawgg lol call her and apologize and take it slow if you like her
2007-12-12 16:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by Karo G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You talk about "I would have liked sex" and "I like her" and it's "me, me ,me" in your question.
You don't get ENTITLED to have sex with someone, just because YOU want to.
She's got her own reasons, feelings, and comfort level. If you want an actual RELATIONSHIP with her, you can wait a little bit for the sex. If you just want the sex, then you need to find a 5lut somwhere, because obviously this girl respects herself, and you should respect her too.
2007-12-12 15:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's worried that if you don't see her very often, that you may not bother contacting after you've slept together. Maybe she's not into casual sex, she may want something more from you than just sex. You won't know til you ask her. Good Luck!
2007-12-12 16:34:53 · answer #5 · answered by heather c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SHE WASN'T READY!!!! and the fact u two wernt even a couple, u cant expect someone to jump straight into giving such a special thing like sex.
2007-12-12 16:00:03 · answer #6 · answered by Maria 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would she? that's what I can't stand and a man he always want to have sex maybe she just not ready now and you know what to do with yourself right?since she didn't lol
2007-12-12 15:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by cynthia e 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
take note,this means she is not ready,and any future experiences may depend on how you reacted at the time,there realy are too many men in jail because they diddnt understand,and think she says no but her actions say she wants it.learn to back off,use ur brain not ur willy!
2007-12-13 01:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by fozz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means exactly that. She's not ready to ave sex with you YET
respect the fact that she respects herself
2007-12-12 15:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she wanted to be in a proper relationship before she had sex?
2007-12-12 15:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by Louisa 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't push her into something she doesn't want to do, she probably just isn't emotionally prepared. If you like her then you'll respect her feelings and wait.
2007-12-12 16:50:33 · answer #11 · answered by abc123 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋