Ok i have been dating my boyfriend almost two years and he says he is going to propose to me the day i graduate from high school. What should I do? My parents say that i can't tell that he is the one but i can what do i do!
2007-12-12 07:46:44 · 8 answers · asked by Shea 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should evaluate your life goals. Do you plan on attending college? If so, how would you pay for it if you're married? You'll also have to pay for a mortgage/rent, car, and many other bills.
How financially stable is your boyfriend? Can he provide for you?
If you think you'll be compromising your life goals by getting married, then you should talk to your boyfriend before graduation and explain to him that although you love him, you feel that it is too soon to get engaged.
2007-12-12 07:52:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to tell that young. You still have a lot of growing to do and you might end up growing apart. Just because you are a perfect match in High School doesn't mean you will be in a few years. I got married when I was 20 and I would advise waiting a few more years to be sure. No reason to rush it and get married only to regret it later on.
2007-12-12 07:54:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your parents.
Yeah, I know, you love him. But both of your are still changing, becoming the adults you will be. You'd be amazed at how much some people change between, say, 18 and 25. What if you change in different ways and no longer share the same values, work ethics, needs, sense of humor, religion, politics, etc.?
Stay together, but don't accept his proposal. Tell him it's not that he's not your true love, but that you're both too young.
2007-12-12 07:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that's a tough one..
Do you guys know where you'll live..
I don't mean to lecture but before or even if you do get married ask yourself these questions...
o i heard them on Oprah..
Question #1: What percentage of our income are we prepared to spend to purchase and maintain our home on a monthly or annual basis?
Question #2: Who is responsible for keeping our house and yard cared for and organized? Are we different in our needs for cleanliness and organization?
Question #3: How much money do we earn together? Now? In one year? In five years? Ten? Who is responsible for which portion? Now? In one year? Five? Ten?
Question #4: What is our ultimate financial goal regarding annual income, and when do we anticipate achieving it? By what means, and through what efforts?
Question #5: What are our categories of expense (rent, clothing, insurance, travel)? How much do we spend monthly, annually, in each category? How much do we want to be able to spend?
Question #6: How much time will each of us spend at work, and during what hours? Do we begin work early? Will we prefer to work into the evening?
Question #7: If one of us doesn't want to work, under what circumstances, if any, would that be okay?
Question #8: How ambitious are you? Are we comfortable with the other's level of ambition
Question #9: Am I comfortable giving and receiving love sexually? In sex, does my partner feel my love for him or her?
Question #10: Are we satisfied with the frequency of our lovemaking? How do we cope when our desire levels are unmatched? A little? A lot? For a night? A week? A month? A year? More?
Question #11: Do we eat meals together? Which ones? Who is responsible for the food shopping? Who prepares the meals? Who cleans up afterward?
Question #12: Is each of us happy with the other's approach to health? Does one have habits or tendencies that concern the other (e.g., smoking, excessive dieting, poor diet)?
Question #13: What place does the other's family play in our family life? How often do we visit or socialize together? If we have out-of-town relatives, will we ask them to visit us for extended periods? How often?
Question #14: If we have children, what kind of relationship do we hope our parents will have with their grandchildren? How much time will they spend together?
Question #15: Will we have children? If so, when? How many? How important is having children to each of us?
Question #16: How will having a child change the way we live now? Will we want to take time off from work, or work a reduced schedule? For how long? Will we need to rethink who is responsible for housekeeping?
Question #17: Are we satisfied with the quality and quantity of friends we currently have? Would we like to be more involved socially? Are we overwhelmed socially and need to cut back on such commitments?
Question #18: What are my partner's needs for cultivating or maintaining friendships outside our relationship? Is it easy for me to support those needs, or do they bother me in any way?
Question #19: Do we share a religion? Do we belong to a church, synagogue, mosque or temple? More than one? If not, would our relationship benefit from such an affiliation?
Question #20: Does one of us have an individual spiritual practice? Is the practice and the time devoted to it acceptable to the other? Does each partner understand and respect the other's choices?
2007-12-12 07:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by just a girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
High school? Too soon!
You have now completed mandatory schooling! Have fun. I didn't marry until 23. And am I glad I waited! I would recommend waiting to everyone.
When I got out of hs, I travelled, got a good job and enjoyed life. My opinion: wait. You won't regret it!
2007-12-12 07:52:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it fairly is stupid. Its fairly moronic. they'll in all probability finally end up breaking apart as quickly as he/she is going to college. the area frequently kills those issues. and regardless of in the event that they dont wreck up and get married. assume it to final some 12 months max till now issues go south. intense college sweethearts are so stupid and ninety 9% of the time fail miserably down the line. INB4 "Me and my intense college sweetheart and nevertheless jointly and in love" no one cares. you're pathetic.
2016-11-03 01:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot of time for love and romance. Go to college first and then after that, get involve in love. Don't make mistakes. kiddo.
2007-12-12 08:03:59 · answer #7 · answered by Mario Vinny D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel ,after you have thought through the responsibilities that you are agreeing to, and still there is no dout in your mined , then why not!!!!! Best of wishes in what ever you decide
2007-12-12 07:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by 121aloraphotos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋