Well i have a problem with my parents. Dont get me wrong, i love them to death its just that they kinda have to get in-touch with this century. I'm 13.
Problems: (please help)
1. They wont let me wear make up,
i know this exucuse is well heard but still, everyone wears eyeliner, and i dont want to wear alot too. At first i thought it was cuase of my culture but my cousin wore eyeliner when she was 12.
2. They dont let me date.
My Sister (15) said that she "secret dates" but i cant do that to my parents. I realize 13 is a little too young but i cant until i;m 18... outragous?
3. Never let me hang out with friends.
My friends always ask to hang out with me but they always say no. It's too dangerous. but its not i live in the safest city in the state. and i realize that when my friends ask me to go somewhere that is out -of-town i say no. cause i realize that that is dangerous.
Please help. doesnt need to be all of them. at least one please?
2007-12-12 07:28:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my mom is okay with verry verry thin eyeliner. my dad flips out.
2007-12-12 07:41:35 · update #1
Parents have a hard time letting go sometimes.
There are two ways to look at this.. one they care enough to tell you no.. there are lots of kids out there that are basically on their own, beause their parents dont care enough to even know what they are doing.
The other is you have to prove to them that you are responsible ( are you?) Do you take care of your stuff without being told? Do you help with out being asked, Do you come home on time when you do go to a friends house?
It never hurts to ask them why you can't.. and do you have explanations as to why you would be responsible. At 13 many kids are experimenting with lots of different things, I 'm sure they do not want you to be involved in it.
13- makeup... maybe you could ask you mom how to wear just a bit.. ask her what is appropriate, can you wear it when you are together as a family.. can you wear it at home.. practicing for when you do get to wear it out.. never hurts to ask.
2007-12-12 07:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's kind of weird. I'm fifteen (I'm a girl) and I started wearing makeup when I was thirteen, and I thought I was young for it, and would have been okay wearing it later on. I have never even wanted to date, and I don't hang out with friends, so my parents have raised me the same way. The difference is, I don't want to do the things they don't let me do, so I am allowed to do what I want, because they trust me. Try being a little more trustworthy, (maybe you already are) and then you probably won't even want to do the things you aren't allowed to do after awhile. Good luck :-)
2007-12-12 15:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by Keith C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents should be proud of what they have done with you---you now practice what they have instilled in you---"I say no cause I realize that that is dangerous." Your parents are just trying to protect you, trust me I have seen what happens to kids without adult supervision and it is not nice. Take your time and when the time is right 18 years-old you will be ready to date. Kids are kids and at your young age the only true thing is that you will get in trouble, One area to help you with---ask your parents to let your friends come over so they can know them and develop a trust with them. Moreover, your sister knows she is doing wrong "secret dating" and when hope not she gets in trouble yor parents will be so devestated becasue they were betrayed by your sister. and kids say parents' don't trust us"well guess why. Parents are just trying to protect their children it is the children that are not aware of this.
2007-12-12 15:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by Lifeline 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I agree with your parents! You don't need to wear make up, you are way to young to date. The only thing I would give on is allowing you to have friends to your house. Sorry, I've been there, let our daughter go to a friends house only to find out the Mother was letting the kids drink beer and run around with an older sister, when she was supposed to be at their house! She was only 14! Luckly nothing bad happened because of it! It's up to us parents to keep you kids safe, and since your brain isn't fully developed, you make unwise choices that can get you into trouble! Just sit back and watch what happens to your sister!!
2007-12-12 15:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow hun i have to say!!!! why dont you sit down with yuor parents and say when ur sister dates u can date beacuse from what u say shes is dating.
2) eyeliner or makeup isnt a big deal that how most get judege.
3) the point you dont get to hang out with ur friends is b.s.
oyu should be able to have a social life even if it means ur friends coming over to ur house
2007-12-12 15:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by ima k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I understand the not dating at 13 thing. but the no makeup rule and not being able to hangout with your friends is a little too overprotective. You should sit them down and just say "I'm older now and I just want a little more freedom & I want to be able to just go with my friends to the mall, or movies or something every once in a while."
2007-12-12 15:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by Stephiie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the way you feel it. They're a little too strict. I suggest you break some of the rules. It's like they're too protective. I understand parent's should be protective but you have a life and they can't make all the decisions.
2007-12-12 15:41:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't WANT to wear make-up when I was your age except to cover up little spots. And, I started dating when I was 16 because I could actually drive to my dates. But, my parents let me hand out with friends when I was 11. I don't know why they won't let you go places with them. Good luck with your parents and they always know what the best is for you. (:
2007-12-12 15:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your parents are having trouble adjusting to their little grl growing up. They still want to protect u and treat u like the baby u used to be. Tell them that "used to be" is the key phrase here, and that u are growing up. They cant protect u forever, and they may as well start getting used to it now. The sooner they realize this, the faster u can get on with growing up and becoming ur own person. And who better to tell them, than the person they're trying to control.
2007-12-12 15:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm rebellious with my parents, I argue the point over till they give in. You should argue that you should be able to date at atleast about 15. It probably is to early for you to be wearing make-up, start that at 14. You should be able to hang-out with friends. Tell them your willing to have a curfew or something and they should be able to compromise.
2007-12-12 15:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋