it and he tells u dont be afraid to ask but when u do he acts like he doesnt wanna give it to u.
2007-12-12 07:26:15 · 25 answers · asked by Robynn C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you make your own money? He obviously doesn't want to give you his! So just get a job.
2007-12-12 07:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by E.P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure that this is an answer - but been there too - you would think that being in a relationship with someone that you wouldn't have to ask for anything that you need - especially if they have the means to help you out - in my experience - the ones that you have to ask aren't in the relationship for longterm - it is a real shame that people today are so materialistic about things instead of wanting to help the people they love - if he don't want to offer the money on his own or when you ask him for it start giving him shopping list and tell him that the things on the list are the things that you need and see if he would rather be your boyfriend or your personal shopper
2007-12-12 07:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by mommy4the1sttime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are, but it would be a very good thing for you to learn how to be independent. It will serve you well now and until the day you die. I'm not saying you should never let a man help you if you need it, but girl, you need to be able to take care of yourself.
I'm 50 years old and I can honestly say I've never asked a man for money. I don't plan to ever have to either. Hell, when I was 17, my Dad borrowed money from me. I'm not saying you have to go to that extreme, but you do need to have some pride. My fiance told me a few months ago "how come you never ask me for money? I've never had a girlfriend that didn't ask me for money." I was in shock. Well, I told him, I guess I don't ask you for money because I don't need your money. I have my own and if I need anything I buy it myself. Made me pretty proud to be the only girlfriend he'd ever had not to need him for his money.
I've been working and making money since I was about 12. I would hope most people would never have to do that but there's nothing wrong with getting a job, learning how to save, and depending on yourself for what you need and want.
Stop asking him for money. That's a very good place to start especially if you want to prove you're not digging for someone else's gold.
2007-12-12 07:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's using money to manipulate and control you! NOT an uncommon thing for guys, especially husbands(!) to do! I know lots of guys who hold money over their girlfriends' or wives' heads like somebody holding out a treat to a dog...just to see how high they'll jump...then they humiliate them.
This guy is a jerk and has a serious control issue. DITCH HIM (and get a job!). When YOU have the dough, you can tell any guy to take a hike if he treats you badly.
2007-12-12 07:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I actually know who u are Robbie so Ima just say hurry up and get a job. You told me that he asks u if u need it but when u do, he acts like he has a problem. If u can't talk it out with him, then just leave him. I will give u a application if u want me too. If not, just work on the corner.............
2007-12-12 07:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by M. G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a gold digger.. you're doing what he has told you is okay for you to do. You're asking him for money when you need it.
The best thing to do is to just make your own money and let him know that you dont need him. Then eventually he will feel like he's not good enough to support his girlfriend and he will ask you about it. When he asks you about it.... that's when you tell him that he called you a gold digger even though he told you to ask for it!
That's the only way he will realize that he is just confusing!!!
Good luck! :)
2007-12-12 07:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by HaiLeY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One strategy is to go and get a job. (Whatever job you can get.) When he complains that you aren't spending time with him anymore, point out that you have a job and that you wish you COULD spend time with him. When he wants to go to a movie or a concert, insist on paying for your own ticket. If it's something you can't afford at the time with your limited resources, tell him you're sorry, but you can't afford it. Maybe he'll get the point.
2007-12-12 07:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by "G" 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He thinks you're a gold digger because you are a gold digger. He probably likes it though, because he can control you with money. I agee with the other 20 people that said "get a job".
2007-12-12 08:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by Smart Alec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd get a job and support myself. That way I would not have to worry about asking for money. If he is supporting you, he should make sure you have money in your pocket, for incidentals and emergencies.
2007-12-12 07:29:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to keep his money if i was a woman and work at a strip club and make allot of money .
I may get thumbs down but that's what i would do
2007-12-12 07:31:23 · answer #10 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋