Our 5 year old has has surgery done a year ago for a swollen lymph node that never went away after it appeared a year prior to the surgery. He had that one removed and biopsied and it was benign. Our daughter also had the same surgery and it was benign a year before him. Now he still gets swollen lymph nodes he is healthy but the dr thinks b/c he is skinny thats why they are more apparent. He decided to go ahead and have our son see the surgeon again to see what he thinks. He doesnt go until feb of next year. I would like a test ran but in ordfer to do that I have to have a 2nd opinion. So he sees an pediatrician tomorrow and hopefully I can get some imaging test done to find out what is going on. My husband is starting a new job at the beginning of the year but was afraid if he needed surgery we wouldnt have insurance due to the probation period. I dont want to wait I have asked to push the dr visit sooner but he is full. Am I wrong for making this decision w/ o my husband?
2007-12-12 07:18:01 · 9 answers · asked by hotmoma1 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
My son never had had any imaging done when he had his surgery. I want to know why these gland keep popping up like they do especially since he isnt sick. My husband wants him to see the same surgeon but if he has to have surgery again he wont have insurance. We have insurance now but I dont like waiting. If we can find out whats going on now he can start his new job sooner. All I want is a second opinion.
2007-12-12 07:29:53 · update #1
We dont know if he needs surgery again I hope not when he had his previous surgery no test were ran I was told they would have to remove the lymph node and have it sent to pathology to get it tested and thats what they did. I do agree w/ my husband needs to know but he thinks I am crazy and theres nothing wrong w/ our son. I was the one who had to make the decision to get his first surgery done by myself and he was angry at me but he could have went w/ me instead of looking at chicks on the comp. The dr I was going to take him to his a ped. His dr is a family dr. I just wanted to see what the ped had to say I wasnt going to have some surgical procedure done. I am just worried is all. all my husband cares about is cost I dont care when it comes to me kids health. I would take a bullet for my kids. My job is being a mother and that means doing whatever to make sure their healthy. If I am a bad mom for trying to do everything to make sure my son doesnt have cancer then I dont deserve him
2007-12-13 01:57:50 · update #2
No you are not wrong! the health of your son comes before anything else. I can understand your husband worrying about the probation period, but if by getting a second opinion your son can be treated sooner if necessary, then that is what counts surely?
2007-12-12 07:23:29 · answer #1 · answered by Tammy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry, but you are wrong for getting another opinion from another doctor without you husband's knowledge. Your child is also his child and he has every right to know. How could you keep something as important as that from him? You need to let your husband know and get his opinion that is his son also and you two are in a marriage 50/50. Both of you need to sit down and discuss this and discuss how each other feels about getting a second opinion together and decide together how you both would like to proceed on your son's health. You are taking your husband rights of knowing about his son situation from him and that is so wrong on so many levels.
2007-12-12 07:30:28 · answer #2 · answered by Christina C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't need surgery to biopsy a lymph node. You can draw lymph fluid with a syringe, and this is much more informative than imaging. Something doesn't add up here.
2007-12-12 08:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by formerly_bob 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You arent wrong about wanting another opinion, but you are wrong on not telling your husband.
What kind of marriage are you in that you have to hide going to the dr. to save your kids life?
Talk to your husband, he will understand.
2007-12-12 07:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by stargirln13 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The radiation from the imaging tests can be damaging. Stop subjecting your child to pointless tests and surgeries. He's healthy, let him stay that way.
2007-12-12 07:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by mrsdanielknox 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
no. you are doing the right thing. your son's health is more important right now. your hubby can get another job. your son only has one life. take him and be sure that nothing more is going on.
2007-12-12 07:23:03 · answer #6 · answered by mrs_pipesmoker 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are wrong getting a 2nd opinion.
2007-12-12 07:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes your husband should be entitled to know everything about your children. and you should feel comfortable about talking to him about everything. if not consult a counselor to work out your differences
2007-12-12 07:22:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think he should know about it
2007-12-12 07:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by Julie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋