Okay. we always talk on the phone, and I really like who he is and his beliefs and everything. There's a few speedbumps though. First: I'm 17 and he's 21. Is that too much of an age difference? Am I too young for him? I seem to be pretty mature for my age, and I'm sick of dating guys my age, they're so immature. Second: He's never had a girlfriend. I know that seems odd, he's 21! He's a great guy too, and it's hard to believe he's never had a girl. We have the same beliefs, we get along amazingly and all that, but should I? Could this work? ANY advice is welcomed!
2007-12-12 07:09:39 · 12 answers · asked by Chase 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a four year difference. Hardly any age difference at all. Especially since you two are pretty much at a mature age.
Yes, if you believe it can work, then it can. Just remember that he hasn't had a girlfriend before, so he is new to many things. Don't expect him to know the routine =).
2007-12-12 07:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by niiro13 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, you are not of legal age. You may be mature for your age, but he is way older than you... Also keep in mind that he might not be telling you the truth about not ever being with a girl... Men say a lot of things girls like to hear to get what they want....
Secondly, are you living with your parents? Because if so, I'm sure they will not allow this relationship to continue and they have every right to press charges if the both of you go further then just talking..
Really think about the situation, before you make a move. Think about the consequences that the both of you especially him will have to face...
Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-12-12 07:16:11 · answer #2 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude. He is 21, you are not even legally an adult yet. Guys and girls are so different when it comes to maturity level. Especially a 21 year old guy who has never had a girlfriend.....that's weird.........there has to be something there and you need to find out what it is.
Honestly, you are so young and nieve at 17 that you may think you are mature and ready to be with someone that much older than you but you're not........I mean you're really, really, not.
2007-12-12 07:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there for her and check out and get her to speak to her mother and father... By her speakme to them offers her extra choices on wether or now not she needs to hold it and even adoption she has extra choices now than she's going to later. Her mother and father will uncover out finally simply make certain it isn't to overdue. And be a well buddy and check out and support/consultant her to make the offerings she needs and now not what any one "needs" her to do in view that she am has to manage it afterward in lifestyles it doesn't matter what she comes to a decision... And like the lady earlier than stated her mother and father will develop to the concept and sure there is a danger they are going to free it however the will not hurt her or the youngster. So inspire her to make her selections with a purpose to improvement her ultimately.
2016-09-05 09:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by manly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all if in the USA...he would be committing statuatory rape if you got it on...So be careful there, as your parents could press the charges if they find out. Now if you are that interested in him then invite him to your house for a family event, or dinner with your parents. Let them be comfortable with him and his age and you all at one time. I was 16 1/2 and dated a guy (lied to me) 21...he was 26. The event was my Prom...and up and until that night we had not really dated. Then it appeared that I was going to be stoodup...my MOM freaked and called him and in no certain terms told him to get his butt in gear and take her daughter to the Prom as Promised. He did. We dated once more after that.....and that night.....I got told to put up or walk home. Before I walked I found out his actual age....and that he was married with children.......I did walk....until I found someone to make a call to my parents to come and get me....They wanted to press charges...I wanted it over...so no charges were pressed. I always carried mad money after that....as he lived in a scary part of town...for a young girl to be out walking in at midnight. I sure learned my lessons young....because I didn't listen to my folks......I was just lucky.
2007-12-12 07:24:40 · answer #5 · answered by Toffy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah you can totaly date him! you two are only 4 years apart! i know it seems a lot longer away than that, but look at it this way:
13 year old dates a 18 year old is the same as a 22 year old dating a 27 year old.
2007-12-12 07:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand exactley where you are coming from ! Go head and talk to him but make sure he doesnt take advantage that you are younger than him ! Get to know him ! and youll be fine age aint nothing but a number!
2007-12-12 07:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by babygurl02 R 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
his age is a big difference and if he isn't ling about not having a gf then if you ask him to wait till your 18 and just keep in touch with him Intel then keep it intersting without oafishly calling it dating
2007-12-12 07:17:46 · answer #8 · answered by strech 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not that big of an age gap. Just take things slow.
2007-12-12 07:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by AnarchyONtheSHORTbus 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think u should flirt with him but if he gets that uncomfortable face THEN HE IS NOT INTERESTED BUT IF HE IS BL USING then u scored and by the way hes not to old 4 u but ask u are mom or some1 else
2007-12-12 07:16:04 · answer #10 · answered by nickybento99 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋