How benificial is Pre school for children?

Question

Has anyone NOT put their child through pre school? and if you have not, did it cause them problems in kindergarden?
My son is very smart, he is adding and subtracting, can (kind of) write and reads 3 letter words BUT HATES the parts of pre school where he has to sit on the rug. It has caused MANY problems including the teachers calling for me to pick him up.
They also suggested a "worker" come in and be with him for the duration of the school at all times, but when I asked the HEAD of the preschool, she said that is "not the first step" and that first a "worker" comes in and helps the teachers figure out better ways of dealing with ALL the kids.
The teachers also have asked me to pick my son up half hour earlier than the other kids, when this was brought up to the "head", she told me that this is not usuall and talked to the teachers who now will not talk or even look at me.
I am very discouraged here, my son hates pre school and says its boring!

I don't know if I should just take him out? My family says I should and that he is "too smart" however I'm scared he won't get the social part of the education.

Answer 1

How is it that children 16 years old graduate from college?

By taking things at their own pace, not their nap-time partner's pace.

Answer 2

I agree with you on the social part. Your son will have to deal with teachers of this sort at different intervals in his life. Pre-school is a good choice for all children it is there to prepare them for what I call real school (lol). Don't give up. I know he's smart and could stay home. Encourage him to be patient and explain to him that he is above some of the other kids when it comes to learning. Also teach him not to act out with the teacher. I don't know your son but I have had some experience with children who are advanced and active. Also see if he could take a placement test which will decide if your son can move onto the next grade.

Answer 3

I feel your pain. My youngest son had the same problems. He didn't understand why he had to do the "little kid stuff" the other kids did because it was boring and he hated it. He was doing his brothers 1st grade homework (unbeknownst to me) for a couple of months when he was only 4, and algebra by age 7.(basic concept stuff) The problem with leaving him for the social skills is, is it worth it. For so long my son was like a little 40 yr. old in a little kids body, he was really miserable doing pre-school work and I eventually had to move him to a place where he would be taught things more appropriate to his level. Not a private school or anything, there was no way I could have afforded that, but if you look around and ask enough questions you can find one that's better for him.

Answer 4

It's sounds like he's misbehaving. Many kids don't go to pre-school. But he needs to learn to be still and follow rules even if he doesn't want to or kindergarten will be the same thing. It sounds like the head of the school is beating around the bush with how disruptive your child is being. It sounds like heis teacher can't handle him or have just give up so a change may be in order. A child can be smart as a whip but if he doesn't have the self control to pay attention (to a level that is appropriate for his age group) that won't be nurtured.

Answer 5

Your son sounds bored because he is probably at a level farther than his peers. Pre-school is good for social skills but if a child who is a bit too advanced for it finds it boring (even in regular school) they will cause find ways to make it interesting and that isn't always the best situation. If you have a program for gifted kids in your area I'd talk to them about enrolling him there.. after all where your son is if he can add, subtract and can somewhat read and write - most kids don't learn that until kindergarten.

Answer 6

Part of preschool is getting them used to the social implications of school life, rather than getting them prepared academically. I'm not sure if it will cause any notable problems to take him out of preschool (if you can, that is), but, the thing is, he should probably not be catered to like that. If he isn't being challenged enough, you could try to teach him a few tricks and challenge him academically at home. But, much of early schooling is going to resemble preschool, and if you let him get out of it by acting up about it now, he will have no incentive for tolerating similar cases that bore him in the future. There are many social lessons to be learned in preschool, and one of them is that you cannot always have things your way.

Answer 7

I wasn't put through pre-school. The only problem I had was where to face during the Pledge of Allegiance (I kept looking at the speaker and not the flag).
I was already reading at a high level in kindergarten. My parents emphasized books as a toddler.
I've ended up being on the A/B honor roll my entire school career. Not going to pre-school did nothing to me.

It doesn't sound like he needs pre-school. He should be fine going straight to kindergarten.

Answer 8

I didn't go to preschool and I was reading novels by age 5. My child went to preschool, and didn't excell in reading as quickly. It all depends on the child. But I was a happy kid not having to do preschool, and I wish i could have kept my child home until they started kindergarten but I was single and had to work and go to school at the time. Home is always best in my opinion. They can learn more from you, as you can teach them everything that a daycare can. Either way it depends on the child. If you got to work, then you got to work.

Answer 9

Before quiting preschool all together, I would maybe look into other preschools. If he is having a problem sitting at preschool, then kindergarden is going to be even harder. Preschool helps kids get used to things like sitting and listening. Try calling around to different preschools and get some opinions, ask your pedi as well. It sounds like at the least you need to find a preschool where the teachers and the "head" are in agreement, and who are willing and able to take care of the needs of all the children and be able to speak with the parents no matter what.

Answer 10

Hello,
As parents, you're the most important first step in your children's journey into the wonderful world of reading. It is up to you to create the most supportive environment that turns your child on to reading - such as reading aloud to them often during the day and before bedtime, and placing age appropriate books for children around the house, so that the child will have access to plenty of books. Reading often to your child will help develop their interest in books and stories, and soon they will want to read stories on their own.

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Cheers.

Answer 11

I never went to pre-school and neither did any of my siblings and we were all straight-A students and never had any social problems.

Honestly, pre-school is a glorified day care. Your son can learn just as much by watching an episode of Sesame Street.

Pull him out. Sounds like he's just not ready for that school environment.