i am 14 and i am ready 2 be a mother?

Question

im 14 but i am great with children i practally raised my sisters baby boys (whom is 21 now ) and i am ready u mits say i have my whole life ahead of me but my nethews was my life and now they have moved away i am ready to have my own baby dont jugde me but can i just have some advice pleaseee thank you xxxxxx

Answer 1

my best advice is... finish school, get a job, then have a baby. You might be good with kids, but in reality that isnt going to feed, diaper and clothe a baby. You cant expect your parents to do that for you, that would be YOUR responsibility.

Answer 2

Jade, you have gotten wonderful preparation to be a mother some day.

Problem is, this is NOT that day.

Seems as if you might be lonely and perhaps bored. Honey, take the word of a LOT of folk here, having a baby is NOT the way to fix that.

At 14, you are not aware of it, but your body and mind are just now really taking form. It will be at least another 10 years before you pretty much arrive at the basic woman you'll be as an adult.

During those years, you will experience immense physical changes that wildly affect your feelings for yourself and others, influence how you cope with each day, and even whether you will be almost too tired sometimes to get out of bed.

On top of that, you will go through many emotional events that structure your whole personality as an adult.

Getting through all of this is a BIG job just when you are responsible ONLY for you. With a baby, it's even MORE challenging.

Don't worry about whether anyone will love you, or if you are good enough for others, or similar feelings. Lots of girls your age feel that, too. It's part of that lonely, inside-yourself experience of becoming yourself. Babies are dependent, yes, but they can't do anything to make you know, trust and value yourself - that's YOUR job.

Don't think that giving boys what they want - your body - is any substitute for liking yourself, either. Sex is wonderful and good, but not now. Now it is confusing, misleading, and even dangerous to you. Let the boys wait, you'll be ready, on YOUR terms, after a while - and you'll be MUCH happier about it then, too.

Here are a couple of facts you should know in general:

YOUNG mothers, such as you, have trouble all the rest of their lives. They have trouble getting educated, trouble getting jobs, trouble raising their kids, and often trouble EVER having a fulfilling relationship with someone else.

You are at the highest possible risk of being poor all your life. You are at the highest possible risk of suffering disease and depression all of your life. You are at the highest possible risk of being an alcoholic, or drug addict, or both. You are at the highest risk of dying very young - and leaving behind helpless children who will also suffer poverty, misery and danger.

Dear, go volunteer to work with babies in the nursery at the hospital. There are many newborns who will be there a long time and desperately NEED YOUR attention. They need to be held, kissed, talked to and played with. You will save their futures by doing this.

This will save YOUR future, too - and give you good friends with whom to talk and from whom you will get excellent help when you need it.

Good luck!

Answer 3

That was very nice for you to help raise your sisters children. But a 14 you still have your future in front of you. You maybe ready but are you mature enough for the job like the 2 in the morning feedings or the time when there sick all night and they only want there mother to hold them and you still have to get up and go to school. And don't think about quiting. Just sit down and really pray and think about what you want to do As the others said wait.

Answer 4

The problem is that you sound like your mind is made up. The BIGGER problem is that you - and only you - are going to be responsible for providing clothes, diapers, food, medical care and housing for another human being, and you will have a very hard time doing that - or you simply won't be able to - if you cannot write a proper sentence. Getting a decent-paying job is hard enough as it is. Getting one without skills or an education is next to impossible. At your level of education and age, you are not going to make more than minimum wage - how are you even going to pay day care with that? Most day cares cost more than what you will be making. How will you buy food or pay rent? Please sit down with paper and pen and make some solid plans and include your parents when you make such a big decision. Have you thought instead of continuing in school and studying child psychology or perhaps becoming a pediatrician or working part-time in a day care center or nursery or perhaps volunteering your time with abused children or being a mentor to a young child? There are so many children NOW who can benefit from you - but having your own at this age is selfish.
There will be plenty of time for having your own baby (many women wait until their 30s or even 40s now!) but make sure you give your own baby every possible chance by providing a financially stable home and working on becoming more educated and mature yourself. Set some goals for yourself - income and education goals - say by age 18 you'll have a diploma and make at least $27,000 per year (not much but enough to support a baby, barely) --- and if you can attain them then I say go for it.

Answer 5

In the real world you need money to live, and a job to get money, a work permit to get a job, and sixteen trips around the sun to get a work permit. So no, you aren't ready to have a baby.

In a year or two you could probably get a child care job that is more regular than typical babysitting, more like being an au pair. That way you'd get the joy of helping kids grow up without the hassle of holding down a job to feed them.

Answer 6

you need to worry about school and not having a baby you are too young and not ready.

answer these
how will i provide for my baby?
they are very expensive doctor appointments labor and delivery plus hospital stay.
your not old enough to work so you have no job there for no insurance and no home of your own your a little girl yourself

and how could you raise someone who is older than you,

focus on school you need an education to get a job

who will watch my baby while i work or go to school
how will i pay them
what if my child gets sick how will i pay the doctor
how will i buy diapers and formula and food
how will i get a job when i an neither old enough to legally work and i have no education
working at mcdonalds will not provide enough for a home childcare and all the other things a baby will need

and dont expect some 14-15 year old boy to help wont happen

Answer 7

Before I can advise you, I need to to answer the following questions: How will you financially support this baby? Where will you live? If you work, who will watch the baby when you are at work? Do you want to live in poverty for most of your life (statistically, most teenage mothers live in poverty)? What do you want to do with your life (besides have a child)?

When I was 14, I was so concerned with how I was going to get into college, I didn't have time to think about having a child. But I did know that I wanted to be established so that I could provide for my child.

Answer 8

YOU ARE NOT READY!!! How much money do you make a year? Not enough....you need to be thinking about high school...not babies....im not judging you i just believe trying to skip a few necessary steps to having and raising a child.... Why skip you youth... really...think about that... no more time for you... you still have yet to turn 16... or 18... or legally able to drink and party.... you wont get to do any of that... thats for sure.. that is a really really bad idea.... why dont you speak w/ your parents or guardians... or take a babysitting job.... anything but have a baby.... really you still have to grow up....

Answer 9

Do you have a father figure who will be around for the rest of your life? Do you have a stable job that earns enough for you to have a house and provide your baby with great opportunities? Have you graduated high school? College? Are you ready to give up the rest of your life for your children?

You have a lot of growing up to do before you have a kid. Being a parent is not like babysitting.

Answer 10

I would finish school first (High School ) at least get your diploma or a GED. Cause once the kids are grown and gone. you will have a very hard time finding any kind of a job to do anything. Girl, you have your whole life ahead of you, grow and experience it, public aid is no fun and unless you have some one that's gonna take care of you thats whats gonna happen. Wait, grow up, then make that decision......and this is advice from a guy.

Answer 11

Grow up, finish school, get a degree, get a well paying job and then get married and then have a baby. Babies are expensive and deserve the best start possible. The best start means that you need to wait until you and your life situation are ready for a baby. It wouldn't be fair otherwise.