I Hurt My Girlfriend. :(?

Question

My girlfriend and I live an hour away from each other. I see her every weekend. And, sometimes, I stay with her for a week.

A few months ago, I hurt my girlfriend really badly. My friends made fun of her. And, I just sit back like an @$$hole and let it happen. I feel so terrible about it. She brings it up all the time and it makes me feel like crap.

I love this girl, a lot. She means the world to me. And, the fact that I hurt her, bothers me more than ANYTHING in the world. I want to make her happy. But, feel as if I can't because of what I did.

The reasons I didn't retaliate is because, I'm afraid of conflict. I don't like arguments and fighting. But, I know I should've said something.

Is there anything I could do to make it up to her? :( I want her to be happy. But, I don't know what to do. :(

I know what I did wrong. Way to make me feel worse about it. :|

I really do love this girl. And, I don't want to lose her. But, I feel maybe I should let her go. :'(

It's tearing me up inside. :(

She said this to me:

"if this is love then whydoes it make me cry :("

I think maybe I do need to let her go. :'(

I'm an unemployed 18 year old. I'd LOVE to get her something nice for christmas. But, I just can't afford it. :(

I may sell one of my Guitars or something to buy her something nice for Christmas.

Something she deserves. . But, if my apologies to her don't make her happy, and possesions will, that would hurt me. :(

But, I guess I deserve getting hurt after all I put her through. :(

Answer 1

You wimped out. Women don't like men who wimp out. You will lose her unless you change.

Answer 2

You might start by telling her exactly, word for word, what you said in paragraph three of your question. What retaliation? What conflict? Love isn't a competition for points to see who can get one more over on their partner. It's about forgiving the other person when they make a mistake, and asking for forgiveness when you do. Tell her how sorry you are, tell her what she means to you, better yet, show her some way, too, and ask her to forgive you. Suck it up, take responsibility for a mistake, say you're sorry, and maybe you'll both learn something from that. Good luck. Doing the right thing isn't always easy, but it's always the right thing.

Answer 3

I've known some girls with this problem.. The septate hymen layer is a good explanation.. if so, removing the septum through surgery would help. I don't think there's anything else you can do- and it's not your fault.. Just be gentle with her if you really need to have sex. And there's other ways to be sexual that don't involve penetration. Fellatio, Clitoral Stimulation etc etc.

Answer 4

Apologize to her and try not to hurt her again. Since the Christmas Holiday is coming up why don't you get her something nice like some jewelry just to show that you still care.

Answer 5

People are saying to buy her things. If buying her things makes her happy or less mad at you, shes not worth it. You just need to apologize to her and tell her what you said on here to all of us. People are saying you dont deserver her, but you just might. I dont know you personally. But just because you screwed up once doesnt mean you dont deserve her. Just apologize and be better to her than before. Good Luck!!

Answer 6

try talking to her at a dinner somewhere just the two off u about what was all that.and u should tell her that she is the world for u and u don't like getting in conflict and u didn't think that all that will mean so much to her in that moment. try making her feel loved and be sure that she understands it

Answer 7

First, maybe you can tell your girlfriend exactly what you told us. Women are a lot more loving, compassionate, forgiving, etc. than we guys are (generally speaking, don't throw rocks at me guys).
Second, the event was not a bad event. It basically let your so called friends expose themselves for who they really are. I'm sure they make fun of other people too, maybe even behind their backs, maybe they even make fun of you when you are not around. This is a perfect opportunity to weed out your real friends from your fake ones. You already know who are who. If you don't just listen to your heart.
Third, promise your girlfriend you'll never let her down again and mean it. Even tell her that from now on you'll be more choosy on how your friends are and mean it.
It sucks now, but this situation was going to happen sooner or later, just get it over with now. She'll understand and she'll forgive you. Trust me if she hasn't dumped you by now she is not going to dump you over this issue.

Answer 8

you should surprise her go and see her and take her roses and take her to the nicest restaurant and talk to her and tell her you feel bad and you don´t know what happen and say you can´t forgive your self in till she forgives you.and with that she will.and don´t do it again.stand up for your women.or what you can do is re live it tel your friends to come over and your girlfriend and make them make fun of her and and do what you should have done.good luck

Answer 9

Well dont explain why you didnt....cause she will lose faith in your ability to provide protection to her given a moment.....but
You should sit her down and explain to her that you feel like crap when she says this because you didnt defend her at that time and you know it was your responsiblity to do it....but you didnt and for that your sorry and be like you just dont know... it seems as if you cant make her happy after the incident and that you dont know how to make her happy.....but that your trying....and you be straight....

Answer 10

Whilst your in a r'ship with her,
If and when other people make fun of her, you should be standing up for her and defending her in terms of viewpoint, opinion.

Why didn't you gesture to her for you two to walk away (perhaps) from these other people, when were making fun of her? Otherwise "put them in they're place" so to say.

Answer 11

Take her with you when you gather with your friends next time. Then loud enough and firm enough for them all to hear, you say, if anyone ever makes fun of (her name here) again I will beat the holy crap out of them on the spot.

Think about it and realize it is better for you to get your own butt kicked than it is for her to be hurt that way. She will love you for standing up for her.