Is it okay for a girl to make the first move..like ask him out on a date, pay for the date, kiss him first and call him?...do guys like that kind of stuff...and also do they like flowers??
2007-12-12 06:11:04 · 35 answers · asked by ladywetherell23 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Never Ever Chase a Guy!!!! You let Him chase you!!!! It's more fun that way. Besides he will respect you more for it.
2007-12-12 06:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 2⤊ 5⤋
If your going on a date, the male should AT LEAST pay for the first dates meal! That's just common courtesty. When your on that first date, you just bring enough money for YOUR meal, not his. That way when dinner is done, and he doesn't have money, you pay for yours and walk out of the restaurant. Shows how he's not a gentlman.
Flowers are an iffy for men.
It is perfectly fine to call the guy first.
It's only right for you to kiss first if you feel he was trying to kiss you.
It is sometimes okay to make the first move (no perverted touching!) Maybe a hug after the date.
It's kinda different when a woman asks for a date, it sounds kind of desparate. Let the man ask.
See, it sounds better when a man says, "Can I take you out on a date?" Now play that in your mind as if a woman was asking, doesn't sound right, does it?
Now if a woman asks this, "Wanna hang out some time?" Sounds better, dont it?
Men can say either, it just sounds better.
Hope I helped.
2007-12-12 06:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by Respect Is What It Is 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with a woman making the first move. Alot of guys may feel insecure with the idea of a woman making the first move and yet others may be ok with it. It all comes down to the two people involved. there are some guys out there that may like flowers but a safe bet is not to get him flowers anything but. As stated it is all up to the individuals involved. Good luck
2007-12-12 06:28:45 · answer #3 · answered by brian C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I cannot speak for every guy, but I am the shy type that I guess wouldn't mind if it was the girl stepping up to make the first moves. It is against a lot of traditional practice, but not unacceptable. I guess, you have to be careful not to seem desperate.
And yes some of us like flowers. It was one of the sweetest things she has ever done for me, give me flowers that is. I did the asking on the first date and the first kissing, but it wouldn't have bothered me a bit if she started all of it. So yeah, it's okay
2007-12-12 06:27:27 · answer #4 · answered by stormdog3269 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont do the flowers but yeah ok to make the first move as for paying for the date go dutch
2007-12-12 06:14:47 · answer #5 · answered by paulcryo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't the 1950s...of course it's ok. Just so you know, some guys like it, some guys don't. You need to talk to this guy first. Just kind of lead into a conversation about what he prefers. By the way...it's one thing to ask a guy out or pay once in awhile, but don't do it all the time and don't be too clingy. I know it's all confusing, but that is part of life I guess. You just have to figure men out, one guy at a time.
2007-12-12 06:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by thesoccerchick87 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. I have asked guys out, but when I go to pay for the date, they refuse to let me, and I pretty much go with whatever happens when it comes to the kissing and calling thing. I wouldn't buy a guy flowers.
The guy I am with now approached me first, but I had to turn him down because I was with someone.. so when that relationship ended, I approached him, and now I am in a great relationship.
You will never know if you don't take a chance, but you don't want to come on too strong, either.
2007-12-12 06:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you are asking is a fair question. But it depends on the guy. Would he be intimidated if you asked him out, etc? Or would he be pleased if you kissed him first? I let my boyfriend do quite a bit of the 'first' stuff, but I do sometimes and he likes that. Ask a mutual friend for more personal advice. Good luck!
2007-12-12 06:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by the_red_head02 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally no, guys do not like flowers. To us flowers are pointless (don't hate us for that). No, I don't like when a girl asks me out first. A guy will as you out if he likes you. If he doesn't ask you out, it means one of two things. 1) he doesn't like you and why would you want to take out a guy who isn't interested in you anyway. 2) he is afraid to ask you out because he doesn't know if you like him back. For case number two, let him know you like him. How? Flirt with him and playfully touch him (nothing too straight forward, touch his arm or something like that) and pay extra attention to him. As far as paying for a date, if you have a boyfriend offer to pay every once in a while.
2007-12-12 06:26:31 · answer #9 · answered by agassi8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys don't like flowers, But For the first move, It depends on who they are, If they are the shy type, you should make the first move and see where it gets you. But if you want to see if he needs you, then let him make the first move
2007-12-12 06:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by Kilgallon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes to everything but the flowers. Receiving flowers from a girl is embarrassing for a man and somewhat emasculating in my opinion.
2007-12-12 06:14:43 · answer #11 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋