when i was 4 to 8 years old my mother used to put chili in my tongue whenever i sinned, she is an Orthodox. i didnt like chili at that time, it used to burn my tongue. now i am 13 years. my question is:
was she right by doing this or not?
2007-12-12 06:03:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
in the years she did this, i was becoming good
2007-12-12 06:10:42 · update #1
I know many who still do things like that, But I do NOT agree with it, altho she surely meant well, and do not harbor any resentment.
Yes, we are called to obey and there are horrible consequences when we dont. God has to dicipline wicked ppl, whatever it takes to reach them, He must do. He cant give up on us easiy, because He loves us so much. WE can live truth and speak it, and tell others about the judgments of God, but we cannot be the ones using punishment to get them to hear from God. PUnishment of the wicked is Gods job Its our job to live Gods truths and speak them boldly, without fear or compromise. Then, we step back and allow the Holy Spirit to do His work in the convicting. But, whenwe try to force someone to obey God, we are doing more than God will. As HE never forces anyone, He will guide tho and will dicipline. But He is God and we are not. Nor are we to play Holy Spirit jr. in an attempt to convict someone thru shame or suffering.. NO.
Its our job to love them in and show them Gods love, as He is the one to guide them to all truths.
No child should have hot stuff put in their mouth. That only tends to make kids rebel, and if they do obey, its from fear or punishment, not becuase of the love God has for them and of the love they give Him back.
God wants our heart, and yes we will fear Him, in the right way, which is being in awe of Him.
WE know GOd loves us and will do all He can to take us to the full truths we need to have to be able to do all we are called to do for Him. Shaming someone will never ever work. God wants us to freely choose to serve Him, not serve Him from force. Even God gives choices. BUt your mom probably did not know anybetter. Ask God to forgive her as you forgive her, and then know not to do that with your own family. God bless you.
2007-12-12 06:29:07 · answer #1 · answered by full gospel shirley 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Last time I checked, "spanking" was the standing order of the Bible for the discipline of children by their parents. However the way children are disciplined by Orthodox Parents varies greatly by family and culture. Since you made it to 13 years old, I suspect the chili
was not that harmful, although I would have chosen another method myself.
And while I believe in spanking for serious offenses, I do believe that there are other methods of discipline not including the "spicing of the tongue" for varying degrees of
correction.
I Cr 13;8a
2007-12-19 06:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some methods of punishment border on being abusive.
I would have chosen a different method.
The thing to determine is, did you learn from it, that there are consequences to your actions?
This is the thing. In life, there are consequences sometimes for our behaviors. This is part, only a part, of the training a parent should give to bring a child up properly.
Unfortunately, some methods suck. The popular one around my family was a bar of soap, only for certain infractions. I never got it with that though.
While she was right to punish, the method used may be considered a little extreme. But, you'll sure remember it.
Apparently, she loves you enough to teach you. This is important.
2007-12-12 14:14:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an Orthodox Christian, I personaly don't think this was a good idea it is better than hitting you but I think she could have come up wtih better solutions. My sister and brothers give their kids time out since being asked to sit still is bad enough for most kids. One of the good questions is how has it shapped you, as its about renforcing behavior? and rememebr she was doing what she felt was the best aporach.
2007-12-12 15:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Linemaster, I'm a softie and would not have chosen that punishment, but I don't know what your "sin" was at that early of an age.
You have to choose your battles with children. whatever you did , did the punishment fit the crime? Did you learn your lesson or are you harboring resentment?
Whose to say it's right? Your mother was doing the best she knew how probably.
But if you are asking my opinion I think it was rather harsh.
I wish you well and God bless you.
2007-12-15 03:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by gabeymac♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your mother was trying to teach you even at the tender age of 4 that there are consequences to sin.
Was she right for doing it ?
I've put soap in my girl's mouth when they would say bad words.
So i think she was doing what she thought to be right as a mother,being held accountable to God Himself for training you up in the ways of the Lord.
Most would say this is child abuse.
But children have to be taught right from wrong,starting at a very young age.
This is something i feel very strongly about..Look at the kids today.
They don't respect authority ( most of them),they disobey their parents..the list could go on. Blessings to you
2007-12-12 16:30:10 · answer #6 · answered by Isabella 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am sure your mother was just doing what she thought was right but I probably would have chosen something else like soap or taking away priviliges. I can not judge your parents though. God Bless.
2007-12-13 17:09:28 · answer #7 · answered by k-9fanatic 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That might be a bit extreme as far as punishment goes.
I used to get soap in my mouth for swearing and stuff but......chili?
Wow..............
I can't be the judge of what your parents do..........but it's still your duty to respect their authority.
2007-12-13 14:33:06 · answer #8 · answered by primoa1970 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well I'm Christian but not Orthodox, but I think it's better than being smacked, and it taught you some things not to do right?
2007-12-12 14:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet <3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In some places misbehaving children get spanked in front of the entire church when they do something wrong....
2007-12-12 20:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jacob Dahlen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋