So my 3 year old uses this excuse.?

Question

Ok everytime you ask her to do something be it help her sister clean their room, or something as simple as walking across the room. This child comes up with excuses for everything my knee hurts (fake had it check) I don't feel good etc.....

How do I fix this problem?

Answer 1

Then tell her "Okay then let's go to the hospital so you can have a shot" This usually makes them perk right back up. Unless your child likes shots, I have a nephew who likes to get shots so this doesn't work for him.

Answer 2

At her age, she really isn't aware that lying is naughty. They can't tell the difference between lying and making up stories. After all, we read them fantasy stories all the time - what's the difference? Ask her, "Are you SURE your knee hurt/you don't feel well, or is it just that you don't want to do what I told you to do?" If she answers the latter, tell her you're sorry she doesn't want to but she needs to listen and do what's she's told. If she tells you the former, then tell her it's off to the doctor for a shot to make her all better. I know it sounds mean, but it will get her to listen to you.

Answer 3

My 3 year old does the same thing to me, lazy little turd!! We usually try lay the guilt trip on him, his baby brother was just born. We tell him stuff like, Don't you want to be a great big brother and show Ryan how to clean up?" Usually, it works, but sometimes, not. Time-out works well for us too, if he doesn't comply after asking nicely, then being stern. If it's really an unimportant little thing, we have to realize that just like we feel lazy and tired at times, so do they. Hmmmm, all that energy and none to clean!

Answer 4

ignore it. when you say anything or focus on it, she is getting attention. negative attention is just as good/bad as positive attention.

when it is time to clean the room and she gives an excuse...simply go to her and get down to her level. give her a hug and tell her it is time to clean. let her know that by not listening to you then she will get time out. make it her choice; not yours. you can pick her up and place her in the room to help clean. set a timer and tell her ok if you can clean up in so many minutes then you will get ____________. if she still doesn't listen and gives excuses set her in the timeout chair. explain to her why she is in timeout.

Answer 5

trying telling her, "i am sorry you don't feel good" (or that your knee hurts or whatever), but that doesn't change the fact that you need to ____" you could even go on to explain that sometimes you have to do things like cook dinner or fix her hair, whatever when you don't feel good because those things are important. it is important for her to listen to you, whatever her "problem" may be at the moment. don't focus to much on the excuse or the fact that she is using them, it create a bigger problem!

Answer 6

Just don't buy into it. People think 3 year olds are too young to manipulate, but - wrong answer. They know exactly what they're doing. Blow her off. Say okay, you don't feel good, but whatever, you still have to do what I say. Be firm, not necessarily nasty, but firm. Children know exactly who they can play and who they can't. Don't be the toy.

Answer 7

Tell her she feels just fine and will be dealt with you if she does not get moving now. Also write down her excuses and tell her she already used that one on page....good for a laugh...And if you find the excuse she is in trouble.

Answer 8

with my son it took only once saying well let my call the doctor and get a shot. he was very quickly healed he was then punished for lying he was put in time out and given an extra chore

Answer 9

Punish her for lying, plain and simple. Explain to her why lying is not acceptable (maybe tell her the story of the girl who cried wolf, etc.) and make her sit in time-out each time you are sure she has lied.