We broke up one week ago, she wants to be friends. says that we can be friends, start from the beginning, and take things slow. She doesn't want to see me right now bc she says i still have feelings and only when i can be her friend we can see each other..
We started out our relationship really fast from the gecko, three weeks of knowing each other and have been dating. for 2 months, until last week.
It is so hard to see her as a friend than a gf.
She says she wants to be single, have fun with her friends..
what should i do?
is it the end?
this is really bothering me.
2007-12-12 05:55:27 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She wants to be left alone? Leave her alone and move on. You can't make someone to be your girlfriend if they don't want to.
I hate to say but it's the end. Find someone else to be friend with and she may want to come back to you. Don't wait for her.
2007-12-12 06:00:43 · answer #1 · answered by Phoenix 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only be her friend if you think you can swallow your emotions. I know that my ex personally still wanted me in his life as a "best friend" and that was after 10 months of dating. It is hard, you're right, to look at them as just a friend, especially when you have memories with them that are as more than that. I personally had to stand up to my ex, and just say, that I couldn't do it anymore, because I still loved him, and as long as we spent close time together, those emotions were going to continue. He's off and married now to some other girl. As for you, I think you just need to ask yourself if being her friend is going to help or hurt the situation. No one can tell you if it's really over or not, only she can tell you that. You never know what may happen in the future though. I'd go with your gut instinct, and run with it. Just know that it probably will hurt either way, but you'll get through it, I promise! Best wishes to you.
2007-12-12 06:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by Alesha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE try to move on.. I can't say if it's the end, but really why would you want to give your all to someone who wants only to be your friend? You could have 487253 friends.. and that's not what you wanted from her. I would try to move on. Date other girls. BUT do not follow her rules and contact her when you no longer have feelings. This is your life and she doesn't make the rules in your life. If she doesn't want to date you, then it's over. She doesn't get to have her cake and eat it too, that being still get to enjoy your friendship without the commitment of a relationship. Get it together and start seeing other girls. There are tons of fish in this sea who would love to be more than just a 'friend' to you. Good Luck.
2007-12-12 06:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by Blond&Tall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if you are guys are young when a girl says she wants to be friends. from my experiences it means get lost. its nearly impossible to be friends with a girl you are attracted to and have dated. now if you have been intimate also it is impossible. move on there are a lot of women out there as hard as it is to hear. when i was in high school the girl i took to prom and she went to my graduation dumped me because she was on the chearleading squad and was a big flirt, and i didn't like dating a flirt. she broke my heart but a month later i got over it and moved on. life is short have fun. get some buddies together and go somewhere. it tends to be easier to meet women when your at a young age when you have your friends with you. they can be an ego booster to keep you motivated. i feel for ya man ive been there a dozen times before i found the right one. it will happen again trust me. but its worth it when you find the right one. have fun
2007-12-12 06:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by davimich1975 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it easy respect the way she feels do as she ask mabey shes just seeing if you are the right guy for her don't get your hopes up just yet some times girls wanna see how much respect a guy has for her weird i know but thats how we work sometimes so back up give her space and time show her you care for her it will most likely pay off in the end!! good luck!!
2007-12-12 06:00:36 · answer #5 · answered by party_lovergirl65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if she "wants to be single" that's not a good sign man. Personally, I don't stay friends with ex's unless there are benefits. Yes, it's possible she'll come back--but I'd move on all the same if I were you.
2007-12-12 05:58:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that Doors song - The End. Well it sounds like that's the case in your relationship. Don't despair, the sea is full of fish.
ps: It's "get go" not gecko.
2007-12-12 06:00:02 · answer #7 · answered by Bill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes its the end, move on. Somewhere in those 2 months you became a pussbag...oh whatever you want and pouring out your feelings to her. Made her hurl and move on. I'd say its too late and just let it go. Move on and try not to be such a P-youknowwhat.
2007-12-12 05:59:12 · answer #8 · answered by gvizzacco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you move to friends it is over. You can't maintain the friendship and you can never rebuild. It is her way of letting you down easy. Just accept it and grieve. You will be fine in end.
2007-12-12 06:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by sickwell3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, get yourself a pot of Ben and Jerry's.
Good?
Ok.
Just lay off it a bit, act like a friend, and then maybe after a while she'll start to come around again. otherwise, at least you've got the memories.
2007-12-12 05:59:27 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋