I've wanted tattoos ever since I can remember. I want to start planning some things to get done soon but my boyfriend is so adversed that I would "want to do that to myself" or I'm "too pretty for that", even though I have piercings now. my family reacts the same way but they've known me longer, so they aren't as bothered. I think tattoos are beautiful and as long as they're original, I don't think you can go overboard. that's just my opinion though.
what have you dealt with and how have you resolved any conflict about your choices?
2007-12-12 05:07:19 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Tattoos
I moved 2k+ miles away when I was 18 (admittedly for college), so maybe I'm talking from an unusual perspective. I'm used to being extremely independent.
Personally, I tended to be nice early on - "this is what I'd like to do" - and not be too in their faces about it. It's more, where appropriate, notification for them; something so they won't be too surprised. It allows for them to ask *polite* questions. They even sometimes have good questions/suggestions that I can take constructively.
If they get in my face, that's when "this is what I'm *GOING* to do" comes out. A supportive bf/gf/spousal equivalent would be supportive, and I don't have any problems letting them know that. Some questions are okay, but those laced with subtexts are warning signs that set off red lights in my head.
Truthfully, I tend not to inform folks often. Barring those I need to, like a gf, I just don't see the need to let them in on it. I'm not informing them of the car I'm buying, probably more appropriate to bring up, so why something personal and private? If I want advice, sure, but I wouldn't do it all the time.
2007-12-12 05:51:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've gotten everything from snide comments to being thrown out of my parents house. And that was over the little 1" by 1" celtic knot on my hip. My second one was taken a little better because it's a blacklight tattoo, but they still didn't like the fact that I did it. The sixteen hours of work on my thigh...well, by that point they gave up. It doesn't matter what they say. Get the tattoo for yourself. If they don't like it, that's fine. It's on your body, not theirs. And if they pull the whole "your body is a temple" stuff, tell them you've already hung a few new chandeliers, and now you're putting up some paintings.
2007-12-12 05:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would wait till I have a better grasp on handling their reactions. Similar situation, I moved to California to live with my boyfriend and nobody supported our 'living in sin', I was over it though so I just said to everyone, this is my choice, my life and im doing it. And if they lecture to much about how we 'HAVE' to get married right away I just say no were not going to quite yet, we havent decided yet when we are going to and thats that. I have that conversation every other week.
2007-12-12 05:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by MNgirl@thebeach 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I resolved it by not ever letting it be an issue. If someone else has an issue with my body, whether it be about the size of my boobs, the chipped polish on my toes, or the tattoos, its their issue and not mine. I don't give a fiddler's fart what someone thinks of my tattoos, period.
If you're so concerned with what others think, you may not be ready for a tattoo.
2007-12-12 05:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by slushpile reader 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i got sick of my parents going through my stuff so i put my room under lock and key.My mom argued that its her house while I say its still my things.I just insisted that as long as I'm using the room that space is mine to protect.Then as usual she plays the mother card and i said as a son i can only allow her entry with my permission and then yadda yadda for four hours then we call it quits but I still get to lock my room. The trick is to get a stalemate and not winning.Then slowly they'll agree.
2007-12-12 05:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by araisuwilliams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a butterfly, in an inconspicous place not seen by anyone except thru intimacy. I find tattoos visually seen by everyone as disgusting. I think tattoos can be tasteful if placed where it is not seen by everyone. Not knowing your age, and thinking maybe you are somewhat young....Remember, many jobs you try to get, will view tattoos as distasteful. Plan on covering them up completely for a good paying job. Think about that before you damage your skin permanently.
2007-12-12 05:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by Toffy 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
As for your boyfriend, it's not his choice in you getting tattoos. Get them if you want to. As for your family, they have already accepted that you aren't conformed and they wont react any different. Your opinion is the only one that matters, I have two and love them, my family accepts them and me. Go for it, get them!
2007-12-12 06:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by ~Les~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and his family are all tatted up, even his dad, so i had no issue there.
my parents on the other hand are totally against it but have gotten used to it over the last 6 years that i have been getting tattood and pierced.
2007-12-12 08:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some folks like them, then there are others who consider you a whore for having them. I've got one, and was very hurt by someone I really admired because of it. If you're going to get one, choose your location wisely.
2007-12-12 05:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never cared about what they thought. They don't like them but what can they do. It is my body. If your bf dumps you over the tattoo then he is a jacka$$ anyway. Do what you want... life is too short to try and please anyone but yourself.
2007-12-12 07:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by sickwell3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋