Every one who loves her has the same problem, so I need lots of good ideas to choose one that she won't get a dozen of!!! I am looking for a great idea, but one that everyone will not have already thought of?
Have at it! What is a good idea? Even if some one has made a better suggestion, my best answer just might be yours!
Others are in the same boat as me. MANY inquiring minds want to know what you think.
I ask on behalf of all the Yahoos, or net surfers, out there who have a similar circumstances.
If it matters, for your answer, she is a Roaming Catholic, who got married in the protestant church of my choosing (as I was "best man" and wedding coordinator).
I think she remains a nominal Roman Catholic, but it is something we never talk about (we live far away). I think she and my brother were never in a church again, after the wedding, except when my church staged "Heaven's Gates & Hell's Flames" which they hated
I think this question is worth a star? Do you?
2007-12-12 04:46:44 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
New Life - New Beginnings.. . . . . . For example , a great young houseplant that's unique in it's own way ... . something to nurture and grow . Motivational books are great too . . . . at her lowest moment she'll reach for that book .
Companionship - Phonecalls , letters , emails , messages of caring and love .
Things to look FORWARD to - Family gatherings , a weekend at your house. . or longer , just always reminding her that you care .
EDIT***- Here are some suggestions that I found recently from a Christian website . They're specifically referring to your situation --
Simple Ways to Help Hurting Families this Christmas...Continued from page 1
Kim Wier
Contributing Writer
• Mention specific memories you have of that person.
• Mail an encouraging card. Include scriptures that are appropriate to their situation.
• Invite him or her to lunch or coffee and be a good listener. Some great questions are, "How are you really doing?" and "What are you struggling with most?" So many people avoid the subject of grief that you may find your friend is longing to talk with someone about what they are going through.
• Send a note to children who have lost their grandparents. A good time would be when they accomplish something their grandparent would have enjoyed seeing. Remind them how proud their grandparent was of them.
• Put the person’s name or picture on the refrigerator and pray during the holidays.
• Make a donation to a cause that their loved one cared about, then send a note to tell your friend what was done in their memory.
• Place flowers at the front of the church in their loved ones memory.
• Encourage other friends to mail notes throughout the Christmas season.
• Be available.
God entered the world that first Christmas to carry a burden we could not carry ourselves. What a wonderful season to do the same for others.
2007-12-12 04:56:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
An animal should never be gifted to a child without an adult able and willing to assume full responsibility for the pet if/when the child loses interest and the newness wears off. Is there an adult in the home who is willing to be responsible for training and care of a new pup if this happens? Really, the best thing to do is to gift new puppy supplies and then sit down with the child and discuss what they want in a dog. Help them choose a breed that is good for them and help them find a good trainer before acquiring the dog. Also securing a vet is a good idea too. ADDED: Think about it this way, if someone were going to get you a dog as a gift, wouldn't you want to be part of the selection process in type of puppy and such? That's a big part of getting a dog is picking the one that is right for you. Your little bro would probably really enjoy being part of that!
2016-04-08 22:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My honest opinion is that no matter what the gift, she will appreciate it.
Something very common like a stuffed animal or snowglobe can be about ten times as special with a card that simply says "For my Sister With Love".
Sometimes grief can be a time of uncertainty and fears, no matter how unreasonable, that the rest of the family may disappear to. Some reassurances never hurt. Somethign just to let her know she has his family in her life still.
I don't think there will be any wrong choice with you thinking of her this way.
2007-12-14 02:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just want to say that I did the photo thing with my mom after my stepdad died. I blew up every picture I had of him and family members into 8x10's and put them together in a book...Well, it was a nice thought, but she had an emotional breakdown. She was a mess, I was crying, my brother in law was consoling us both. It was not a good idea.Just get her regular gifts this year like you would give anyone else (you've gotten some great suggestions for some gifts that won't work on her emotions.) I like Rainbows idea of seeing if she might enjoy a new pet, or Maries idea of a cross necklace. Spend time with her, let her know you care and keep her spirits up. Save all the photos and sentimental stuff for later, after she's had more time for healing and getting strong (maybe next year). Trust me, I know this answer from experience.Some of your answerers said that they enjoyed getting these types of gifts, they were evidently at a place where it was good for them, but you can't know that she is ready yet. More than just showering her at Christmas time, make plans to get together with her throughout the year and do fun things like bowling or going to movies. Get as many family members involved as possible and just keep her busy and surrounded with loved ones.God bless!!
P.S. I thought of something not at all sentimental that I would love to get as a gift if I didn't have one... A Bissel Flip It. I just got one recently and the thing is GREAT! It's cordless and actually has great power. It vacuums your hard floors, then you flip it around and it mops. I vacuumed my entire 1st floor (around 1200 sq. ft.) and it never ran out of power or slowed. The pads it uses are machine washable so you don't have to keep buying those disposable ones. Another gadget I have that is pretty cool, is a Spin Spa. A battery opperated , spinning brush that has multiple heads and greatly helps one to wash their back.
2007-12-12 07:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by BERT 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your brother. My sympathies.
How about a trip to the tropics, or to Florida? Maybe getting away will give her a break from everything that reminds her of your brother.
Tickets to the theater is another way to escape.
A gift certificate to use at the local spa is a girl's best friend. Manicures and Pedicures too.
Books, movie passes.
Gifts that go to the charity, like for the blind.
A fuzzy animal. Kidding. She'd probably kill you.
Robe, slippers, gloves, scarf.
I know how to kick back.
2007-12-14 13:43:40 · answer #5 · answered by su·i ge·ne·ris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In addition to spending more time with her and always considering her a part of the family even if and when she moves on someday, ask her if she'd like a feline.
Sometimes an animal, despite some hard work, can be very helpful and reduces some stress. Having a constant furry friend companionship can help some.
Does she have any children? You can offer to help with shopping for the kids,
Or if you're willing, offer her a day where you'll take the kids if she has any, so she can have some fun time for herself.
2007-12-12 13:02:13 · answer #6 · answered by Яɑɩɳɓɵw 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about a gift card for a massage, facial, manicure and pedicure.
Or a gift basket full of pampering products such as bath oils, foot products, face creams, lotions, bath salts, bubble bath, shower gel, cuticle cream, manicure set, and so forth.
Perhaps she'd like a journal, address book, pretty ink pens and other office/writing supplies in a basket. Or a desk set such as trash can, pencil cup, business card holder, paper clip holder, post-it note holder (or all-in-one).
Does she have any hobbies? You could purchase products that pertain to those (or Gift Cards).
What about a plush robe and slippers along with a gel eye mask that can be cooled/warmed.
They also make shoulder warmers and slippers that you can place in a microwave to warm them up. They're great for achy muscles or a cold night.
Wine Country Gift Baskets have a nice web site for gift ideas, also.
I think it's sweet you're thinking of her!
You could always throw in a small book or two about Jesus, as well. Go to your local Christian Book Store for ideas.
2007-12-12 06:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by Answer Annie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would give her something living. I would give her a small blue spruce tree in a planter (so it won't grow overly big) together with a plaque that bears your brother's name and dates of birth and death. This is a living reminder that your brother is always with her and that his love for her continues to grow. By having it in a planter, if she moves, she can take it with her. It will bring her a source of peace. I brought a tree when my husband passed away, and was amazed at the peace and solitude it brought to me over the past five years. I hope that you both find peace and happiness. God Bless you and Merry Christmas.
2007-12-12 06:32:30 · answer #8 · answered by Diane B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best gifts are needed items,what would come in handy for her that she could use all year round? What ever it is wrap it up pretty and give it to her with lots of love and let her know you will always be there for her and her family. Merry Christmas to all and to all a good night!
2007-12-12 17:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by warriorbabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a painting of there family. Meaning a painting of Your Brother and Wife along with the kids if any. Something she could hang over the fire place and latter pass down to the kids if she decides to remarry.
Merry Christmas
God Bless
2007-12-12 04:54:45 · answer #10 · answered by Dawnnelle J 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋