Recently, a friend of my family died when her car crashed into a tree one night. She was found by her husband five hours later when he went out looking for her, concerned that she hadn't returned home.
On the day of her funeral, one of my uncles joked that her husband was more than likely sick and tired of her so he probably hit her over the head, drove her car into a tree and claimed it was an accident. Only my mother and I heard this joke. (Which is a good thing. This woman was very loved by her family and community. Her husband is inconsolable.)
Later on, I mentioned to my mom how inappropriate I felt my uncle’s joke was. She shrugged it off and said that her brother has a “warped” sense of humor. I feel this goes beyond warped.
In your opinion, was this joke beyond the limits of good taste?
2007-12-12 04:39:06 · 23 answers · asked by Avie 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
When I say the woman was a friend of the family, I mean she was a friend of my mother, father, brother, husband, and me. My grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, etc, didn't know her from Eve. My uncle was not in mourning and he had no opinion of her one way or the other, as he did not know her.
2007-12-13 00:28:12 · update #1
Oh yes, you are sooooo right!!!! That is WAY OVER THE LIMIT!!!! That can't even be classified as poor taste. It was cruel and thoughtless.
Tell your uncle that when he thinks he's being humorous he should try looking around and see if anyone else thinks he's being funny, if not, he might want to remember the old adage- "It's better to stay silent and have people think your stupid than to open your mouth and REMOVE ALL DOUBT!"
2007-12-12 04:45:22 · answer #1 · answered by dunns_kitty 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I know plenty of people who have that sense of humor. Those people really need to try and keep quiet because what they say is very offensive. To be honest though, he may have not realized how offensive it was so he said it out loud thinking it would get a couple laughs. I have a good friend who I swear has little to no heart and he makes jokes about how a person died all the time. His whole take is " Who cares, they're dead. When I die, you can all make fun of me. I wont care because I'll be dead!" Some people are hard to understand!
2007-12-12 04:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's terrible!!! You should tell that was not right to say, just for your thoughts, ever if its late. At least you will teach your Uncle, those type of joke are not right. I have notice that in this life that alto of people do not ever get the point when its too much and get carried away. With everything in General. Most people, know whats right from wrong. So, he obviously makes jokes like those because he is unsecured with himself, and by hurting other people he gets some type sick higher power for himself.
2007-12-12 04:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how close you all were and how the uncle knew the woman. Someone could be described as 'well loved' but may still have enemies. However there is a time and place for everything and I don't think your uncle should had said what he said.
2007-12-12 04:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by MaryBlue 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when I am stressed I become emotional about little things. If you ask your uncle he probably was trying to lighten up the mood. Sometimes when people are stressed out they say things that they don't mean (meaning they don't think before they speak). If you are that concerned about this it may help to talk to your uncle about this and tell him that you feel that it was inappropriate. He may understand. What's the worse that can happen if you told him how you feel about this?
2007-12-12 04:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by jen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people deal with issues using humor, especially dark humor. And some people are just plain crazy (Tim Burton anyone?). It might just be your uncle's way of dealing with tragedy, as comedy provides a type of relief that doesn't require directly confronting the issue.
2007-12-12 04:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by Cowman 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 00:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very rude, nothing like that should be joked about! Only something like that should be said if they really did have a concern of that being the case!
2007-12-12 04:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by Sunny 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This "joke" was WAY beyond any limit of taste. If anything like that happens again, I hope you have the courage to call them on their bad behavior.
2007-12-12 05:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by tawniemarie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If a joke offends, then it is in bad taste but most jokes do offend. I would tell this man that he shouldnt be making unkind remarks at such a difficult time and then try to forget about it. Deepest sympathies to you all.
2007-12-12 04:45:03 · answer #10 · answered by rachel h 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋