I am a genuinely happy person. I have a good family and a lot of friends. Of course all my family and most of my friends live in another state. I feel sometimes as if I missed my window of oppurtunity. I have a lot going for me. I care about my friends and everyone in general. I try to give of myself and uplift others. I just feel like I am missing something or someone in my life. I am a very spiritual person and my faith is very important to me. It does bring a sense of fulfillment and wholeness to me. I just feel as if something is missing. I think some of it might have to do with my last relationship and not being able to repair it, but I know that is not completely the reason. Any advice will be appreciated. And if you want to know more to give a better answer, you can email me. What do you suggest? Thanks. I am asking this in this section because some of you know me, and I am not afraid to be a little vulnerable. I am being completely honest here. My guard is down.
2007-12-12 04:35:31 · 27 answers · asked by plastik punk -Bottom Contributor 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Punk - I will email you shortly -- sensed you've been struggling a bit lately and wondered how or even if I could help -- thanks for asking.
2007-12-12 04:51:39 · answer #1 · answered by strplng warrior mom 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have been feeling so very similarly. It seems like the only moments of peace and happiness that I feel are moments when I am teaching the Gospel and tesifying of Christ. But once I am faced with work and family and friendships, I feel a sense of stress, tension, lonliness and anxiety. It has made me focus so much more on doing Christ centered things, but still I go home and feel anxious and unfulfilled. As I have prayed about it and talked about it with those who are close enough to care, I get alot of different ideas and suggestions. The suggestions from family seem trite and almost judgemental, and the answers from friends are generic statements like "you are doing just fine". The only thing that has actually helped has been the nagging thought that I need to fast more often and learn to better control my "appetites" (in that spiritual sense of addictions and habits.) It's a very specific answer for me, and one of the most difficult things for me to do, but I am convinced that it nags at me because it is the answer to that prayer I have had for help. I don't know if it will change anything or not, but your quesion really echoed in my heart. I guess I will just have to let you know how things go as I make my efforts.
Don't know how much this will help, because I am still searching for answers to the same question. It is very possible that your answers will be different than my own. Press forward, keep the faith, and keep your covenants. I am sure that nomatter what hell we pass through in this life, if we keep our covenants we will eventually find happiness.
2007-12-12 05:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by alwaysa(ducky)bridesmaid 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling. Don't we all? at some point in our lives, we all have felt lonely.
I have 2 suggestions for you. Both practical and so simple they're almost laughable: service and exercise.
Get out there, keep you head up, and serve as much as possible. You will find more meaning and you will also have the opportunity to make a develop new relationships.
Exercise is just plain old good for anyone. Scientifically, we know it releases endorphins and makes you feel better. Beyond that, you will feel that you are not only doing something constructive, but you are doing it for yourself.
View this as a time that you can have tremendous personal growth because you have the means and opportunity to focus on yourself. When you get into a marital relationship (or even a dating one) your focus becomes on other people. Take this time to solidify who you are as a man and a human and as a child of God.
I wish you the best of luck. I have always appreciated your questions and answers on here and I hope you can find the peace you are looking for.
2007-12-12 04:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by gumby 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I find meditation help me when I get a similar feeling. Prayer could do the same thing I am sure. Both will get your spiritual energy in a better place, and that can bring about surprising results. If you feel like you need more spiritual strength, mind-body exercise or other exercise, a healthy diet, and not overindulging can help. Go searching for inspiration on what could be missing, and what course of action might help you find what you need. God should help with inspiration and guidance. Your dreams in sleep may give you a clue.
2007-12-12 04:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by astrogoodwin 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My family lives a 48 hour drive away...so I know how that feels. The truth is time heals all wounds. You literally get used to it. I can't tell you how much money I spent on phone bills and trips home for the first 3 years. It's been 10 now and I can get by with a phone call a month and 1 visit a year. It gets easier...just keep busy.
2007-12-12 04:43:21 · answer #5 · answered by Blame Amy 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
"Some thing is always missing." How well I know that feeling,
Happiness is wanting what you have, Acceptance is the key
word, if you can't change what is. People need people, even
God knew that, so God came up with Eve. Many people have
blue feelings this time of year. Try to keep the attitude of gratitude, reason for the season, with thoughts of all other
lonely people, and those in poverty and war zone. Blessings
2007-12-12 10:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by jenny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like Gumby's answer of exercise. There is also get some sleep and make sure you're eating right.
I know we believe different. Some of my answer I'm hesitant to share, because I don't want to be offensive. I'll share this though. A long time ago, I broke up with my girlfriend of three years and I felt really alone. After a lot of prayer, God answered me why we broke up and the feelings of loneliness vanished right then. That was interesting to me.
Time helps also. Know that this will pass.
2007-12-12 05:14:27 · answer #7 · answered by MikeM 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to what some others may tell you, that contentment and fullfilment you are seeking comes only from the Lord. He's calling you to a closer walk with him. A little more time in prayer, fasting and the Word will help move those feelings into perspective. They'll also help you heal from the old relationship and put you in the place to be ready to receive from God, the relationship He desires for you and with you.
2007-12-12 05:01:23 · answer #8 · answered by Virtuous1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I suppose all single people go through that more often than happily married people. It may mean that your future spouse, wherever they are, is going through a similar time of stress. Why not pray for that person, and to have faith that when the time is right, it will work out. Then do as the other people here have said, more service, exercise, etc. Or do you have a move coming up, by chance?
2007-12-12 05:24:47 · answer #9 · answered by Cookie777 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
In my town we have a rather large psychiatric hospital that has a therapy group for female survivors of sexual abuse. It meets twice a week for two hours each time. Most people who go to it are in situations similar to yours -- on disability, have trouble with social situations, etc. It works according to ability to pay, and nobody is turned away. You might try checking with your local psychiatric hospitals or your local mental health association. I think in your situation a therapy group run by a licensed therapist would be best because the therapist can keep control of how people treat one another, and it would be a safe environment in which you could learn and practice new social skills.
2016-04-08 22:50:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to "fill the void", but when I'm feeling like that, I volunteer at the local homeless shelter. It makes me appreciate what I have so much that I forget about the void I thought their was.
They have more than serving food. I've helped remodel, painted, and watched the kids while the parents went to find employment.
Just don't go to an animal shelter, because it will just make you more sad :(
2007-12-12 04:46:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋