We broke up one week ago, she wants to be friends. says that we can be friends, start from the beginning, and take things slow. She doesn't want to see me right now bc she says i still have feelings and only when i can be her friend we can see each other..
We started out our relationship really fast from the gecko, three weeks of knowing each other and have been dating. for 2 months, until last week.
It is so hard to see her as a friend than a gf.
She says she wants to be single, have fun with her friends..
what should i do?
is it the end?
this is really bothering me.
2007-12-12 04:29:02 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Really sorry to hear that man.
That being said, you're probably better off NOT being friends w/ her. Are you ready to see her w/ another guy? Kissing another guy or more? If you hang out w/ her as friends you could be setting yourself up for failure and preventing other good, healthy relationships from forming. It takes time. Ending a relationship you have to mourn like you would a deceased family member. Only you're mourning your hopes for the future w/ this person, it may take a while. Oh and one last thing, whatever you do don't mess around w/ her (I don't know where you were at in your relationship) but sleeping w/ someone casually who you used to care for is a HUGE mistake.
2007-12-12 04:38:09 · answer #1 · answered by Rupert Roo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know she means a lot to you and it's a lot more than a crush. The time you knew her before you dated her doesn't mean anything. If you don't feel you rushed things, then you probably didn't. But if she feels that way, you can't change it. You only see her as a girlfriend and nothing less. What hurts is you'll have to accept it. Being friends is truly up to you but it's probably best if you weren't friends at all. 'Cause all the while you're friends, you're the only one who's hurting when you see her. She probably doesn't feel the same anymore if she just wants to be with her friends.
The bottom line. It's going to hurt but you'll eventually find someone else. And when you do, you'll treat her like your world. And maybe your ex will see what she could've had if she cared about you enough. It simply SUCKS. But **** happens and no one's hurting but YOU. So, why is it you want to sit around and waste your time? Be strong about it. Even if it takes some time. There's no right or wrong way to go about it. The longer you're stuck in this state, the more time you're missing out on being with someone new. Someone who cares about YOU.
2007-12-12 12:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by LuV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot go from Loving someone, to friends....it doesn't work and it is to much of her to expect from you. Don't be her friend right now, let go and if it is meant she will come back to you, if not, it was not meant to be. It bothers the people more that are in love then the other person in the relationship that wants to be single. The holidays will suck, but you can get through them.
2007-12-12 12:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by spellbound1122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are going to accept it.i mean what she says is serious.u cant force her to be with you again.its better to be her friend than not to be in her life at all.it takes time to get over a relationship.trust me.why dont u go out with ur friends meet new people.itll be for the best
2007-12-12 12:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by LaShar.Baybee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll tell you what helps me get over a relationship gone awry:
Buy yourself a pack of condoms and a gallon jug of Elmer's Glue. Fill the condoms with glue and fling them onto her house at night.
By morning, your feelings for her should be as shriveled and nasty as those condoms!
Works every time!
2007-12-12 12:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well dude, first off, grow up. Act like a man. Move along. She's not interested in you. End of story.
2007-12-12 12:33:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young, just let things happen. I swear you will either work things out or find someone better in the long run.
2007-12-12 12:32:42 · answer #7 · answered by My baby boy arrived! 12/2/08 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude i hate to tell you but its over my gf did the same to me we went out for 3 months and dumped me the day before valentines day i was sick to my stomach but youll get over it i know its gonna be hard seeing her with another guy but you just try to find you another girl like what im doin lol so just try
2007-12-12 12:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by Danny M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. accept what she told you
2. yes it is the end
3. dont let it bother you
start getting out there, have your fun and find someone who is READY to date
2007-12-12 12:32:28 · answer #9 · answered by Sharon F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
heres a little saying:
when someone breaks up with you, and says"we can still be friends", is like your dog dying and your mom saying you can keep it.
just forget about her. she dumped you, and its over dude. sorry
2007-12-12 12:33:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋