You can do it fine alone. Make yourself up and dress to kill, and enjoy your time alone.
Since he dumped you without warning, this only comes to show that he is insensitive and you are lucky not to have invested more time in that nowhere relationship.
Don't jump into a new relationship. Find out who you are first.
2007-12-12 04:13:51
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answered by thezaylady 7
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He might either be afraid of what will happen and doesn't know what to do or he doesn't want to deal with the complications and struggles of what you'll both be going through.
If he realizes it was a mistake to break up with you, what was yours will come back to you, eventually. If he doesn't come to that realization, it was his lost.
Either way, you can do one of two things. There's nothing wrong with crying. As a matter of fact, it's best for you to cry it all out, in order to slowly clear your mind of this mess. I hope you don't think it's the end of the world, although it feels like it for now and it may take you a while before you get back on your feet. Just know that this phase will eventually end and you'll be okay again.
You said that you were trying to avoid this moment during your relationship. And that's probably why it continued to keep going until now. Although it may have ended, you shouldn't dwell on what no longer is. You guys have good memories to look back on and that's something kept in your heart. If you waste your time thinking about what could happen if you two were still together, you'll be missing out on the other things you could be doing. You're hurt, I know. And it'll be a while until you can let go. Take it slow and control yourself.
There's always a reason for everything that happens. You learn from every good and bad experience but life goes on whether you're ready or not. You need to win the game and be strong. For every good experience, there will be a bad one to remind you the feeling of appreciation. It has to balance out that way. But once you're okay again, you'll look back and blow it over. It won't be as important to you anymore.
Good luck, hun. Wish the best upon you.
2007-12-12 12:38:45
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answered by LuV 3
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I understand how hard it can be to let go of your first love. This boy will always hold a special place in your heart. It's always so much harder when your the one left. The one leaving always seems to walk away like they don't feel anything at all. I don't really think this boy will be doing that. Who knows what prompted this out of the blue split? The one thing I can tell you is that once you head to college you will be able to move on. Probably way before that, trust me!! And even though this hurts terribly right now, let me tell you, in the long run, HE is the one who will have to look back and regret his actions. Since he was the one that walked away he will have WAY more guilt, regret and sorrow when he sees that you've been able to carry on and you don't need him any more. You will be the one who comes out on top in the end and he will be crying about how he was soooo stupid to let you get away.
2007-12-12 12:21:54
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answered by dunns_kitty 3
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OH dear!! I'm sorry that you are hurting. Believe it or not, you WILL get over this in time and begin to feel better. Right now, you've had a loss and you need time to grieve and to heal. Tell the guys that who are asking you out, (be flattered that they are asking) and ask for a 'rain check' for another time. AND, if your relationship was meant to be, it will be when the time is right. There is an old proverb that says "Let something that you love go away from you. If it comes back to you, it is yours forever. If it does not, you never had it in the first place".
My husband and I knew each other as teenagers, and then due to circumstances, didn't see each other for 16 years. Then, serendipitously, we reconnected and we've now been married for 26 years!! It CAN happen!
2007-12-12 12:16:42
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answered by judithia 5
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Its hard, not to have someone for the comfort that you once had... but it will get better. I felt the same way with my ex... I was lost and confused and then i'd cry for hours... but eventually it will pass. You just gotta find yourself... without them, ya know? Find yourself again and realize you're a person with or without them... It won't be easy... It sounds like he was just breaking up with you for the reason that he's scared it would fail when you two went away to college... so, i wouldn't get back together only because it sounds like he doesn't have any faith... but i believe it'll get easier for you. Talk to me if you need a female friend to talk to... =]
Good luck... i hope you find someone wonderful.
2007-12-12 12:13:38
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answered by LoveisfirE 3
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why is that so bad? To be alone? you have friends, your pretty, your intelligent, your perfectly fine, maybe this guys a jerk and you should just let go of him. its not worth it if the guy doesn't make it worth their time, trust me i know, if i said that to you it means, i dont care. He doesn't care, trust me it will be different in college, you'll meet tons of different people. Maybe you'll find someone better.
2007-12-12 12:11:48
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answered by Anonymous
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Heh, like the Internet has any answers. It's ok to be alone for a bit, y'know? All in good time.
2007-12-12 12:16:44
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answered by Scribe 2
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HUN, other guys will come along......better men will find their way to you.........dry your tears.....everything happens for a reason
he's probably thinking about how much girls will be around and he doesn't want to missout.....he also doesn't want to hurt you
I know it hurts right now, but your wound will heal.............be excited for college and move on with your life........there's so much more to look forward to......it's all good!!!!
2007-12-12 12:13:25
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answered by Karel 5
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Well just get your mind off this guy its obvious that he was just using you untill he went off to college but try and get ur mind off him and set it towards college think of all the people u will meet. just get ur mind set on something that will better yourlife.
2007-12-12 12:34:11
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answered by Baby D 2
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it might be for the best who knows, you have time to find someone who is right for you.
2007-12-12 12:15:53
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answered by Anonymous
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