How long should I wait?

Question

I was with this girl but we became friends when she got back with her ex, he was jealous and torn us apart and now shes so mean to me. I have tried for a month to get her back but no luck I wont give up because she means so much and I care about her and I now once at least she felt strongly about me. How long should I wait until I send that text tellig her how much she means and how us not even talking hurts me so much, she has told me before to just go away and leave her alone but I know that someone inside her she has a place for me.

Answer 1

damn man this is tough.. i am going thru the same stuff right now.. u gotta let her know whats up.. its what u do after u tell her thats crucial though..
let her know how u feel, then u gotta leave her be..let her know that you can make it on your own and that you dont need a girl to make you happy.. when she sees that you care about her but still have the balls to leave her alone she'll see that you really care about..im not saying that shes gonna get back wit you, it'd be nice if she did. but eventually she will let you know how she feels.. it just really tough cuz shes hiding all her feelings from you... shes scared to move on from her ex..and until she realizes that you are a better guy for her you'll just have to wait...good luck bro
peace

Answer 2

She's with the other guy because he's got more than you. While you're staggering around being too sensitive he's doing things you probably have no idea of.

Wishing and hoping never goat anyone back, or as Leonard Cohen once penned: "A man never got his woman back by crawling on his knees...."

Hey boy, take the lead here. She's got no place for you while she's doing the other guy. Who knows, maybe she's using him to slip it in with some other dude, or even some other woman.

Your way behind on this one; pick it up or sit it out. Don't assume that she has a place for you..... other than in the past.... which means she already doesn't think about it (the past) and if she does, it's some vague memory she doesn't rally want to deal with. I'd say she's having too much fun- something you couldn't provide.

It's all about actualizing your own potential- not being a whipping board for some chick who has dumped you.

Answer 3

Hi,
The best and wisest thing you can do is to leave her to her ways. If she has any feeling for you, she will come back. If not, you know you should not wait for her.
Remember. You may feel many things about her. But she has to feel for you. The more you put pressure on her, she will only resist it more. Understand that. Also, I feel you have a lot of feeling of hurt, jealousy, self doubt or maybe even some kind of unhealthy competitive spirit to try and get her back or make her atleast accept your hurt. It is quite natural when someone leaves a person. But, dont become its victim, you only will suffer. More and more you try to do it, more and more she rejects you, more and more you get hurt. You had some nice time once, dont spoil those memories or feelings. Just keep away. If she feels for you, she will come back. Or else, move on.
How long you should wait is bsed on how much you love her. If you love her so dearly, you can wait your full time. But dont be a fool to spoil your life like that.
Make sure you dont get into blame games or abusive sessions. It will hurt you more.
Take care. You will do fine. And some nice girl will love you sometime. All the best..

Answer 4

I can sympathize as I am in somewhat of a similiar position. Except I was the one that ran her off with multiple breakups and now I want her back. I have asked her if she no longer loves me but she will not say. I have asked her to tell me to go away and leave her alone. She said she was done with us but still wanted our friendship. Sounds like you and I have the same kind of woman, but mine just seems to be a little nicer about the whole thing. I would say it is time to give her up, she obviously does not want you in her life and is probably afraid it will cause her trouble with her new boyfriend. She evidentially cares more for him than she does your friendship, so do you really want that type of person as a friend anyway?

Answer 5

Just drop it dude - you have been told by her - if she thought that much of you she wouldn't have gone back to her ex and dropped you like a brick.

She would have made it clear that you were a friend not a threat.

You are heading for a whole lot of hurting if you persist in chasing the matter

Answer 6

This is a tough one... you're actually setting yourself up to get hurt honey. I realize you have strong feelings for her but if the feeling is not mutual, then you can't expect to get the reply that you're looking for. If she has the same feelings for you then she wouldn't allow anyone to come in between you two. Evidentally there's more to it. If you want to tell her how you feel then do it but just expect the worse that way you won't be too disappointed when it don't go your way.....good luck.

Answer 7

if she really cared about you then she wouldn't tell you to go away. just leave her and move on, because you're only annoying her and driving her away even more.

Answer 8

Walk away bub! plenty more fish in the sea, So go fishing..

Answer 9

Do you really think she is worth all the wait?

Answer 10

I think u should tell her, otherwise it might b very late my friend.......