Christians - a man cheated on his wife - adultery -what is his punshiment?

Question

he says he is forgiven and has no sins even though he done this to his wife - and said to his wife god has forgiven me -

punshiment in this world and next

Answer 1

first of all his wife should hire a big guy name bubba to beat the livin hell out of him and then turn to her husband and say " God has forgiven me too "

It feels better to do it this way.

Answer 2

I can comment on this because I unfortunately was in your wife's shoes. I kissed a woman who was not my wife, lied about it repeatedly, and then became honest about the indiscretions about a year later. I have sent sought treatment for Sex and Love Addiction - it's a real thing and you and your wife might want to look into it. My wife pursued the question you had with our pastor, "Is divorce allowed by the Bible when the spouse only kisses another person." Our pastor, who I trust, said adultery is when the acts are sexual, meaning the person doing them must be stimulated sexually in some way. In other words, it is possible to kiss without sexual feelings towards a person, like a friendly hello or goodbye kiss, but a kiss with a sexual desire would be adultery. Obviously, your wife did not give a hello or goodbye kiss and neither did I. HOWEVER, a love addict can totally kiss without it being sexually motivated because their primary objective is not to have sex. It is to feel loved and they think they feel loved when someone is giving them affection. It's a yearning to meet a deep unmet emotional need they did not get as a child. Although my actions are inexcusable and totally unacceptable, they were not motivated by sexual intention and therefore not adultery. It is infidelity though no matter how you look at it. I wish you the best in your marriage and I hope your wife finds help. If I am right about it stemming from love addiction, please know that her actions were not done because she does not love you or wants to deliberately hurt you. A love addict confuses emotional dependency with love. There are 12 step groups, CSAT therapists who specialize in this field, numerous books, and recovery workshops to attend. It is as serious as a drug or alcohol addiction.

Answer 3

His punishment is already in place.
His wife has a broken heart, and her love towards him will never be the same.
He has lost the trust of his wife.
And, possibly the respect of his children.
His actions will always be viewed by others with his sin in mind.
Forgiveness is a high ideal, and available from God, but he must also seek it from his wife.
His wedding vows were made TO his wife, IN FRONT OF God.

Answer 4

If his wife decides to leave, she is justified in doing so. His punishment is that his wife can no longer trust him, he will lose any position of leadership he has in the church and he needs to repent and ask forgiveness from those he hurt directly. If I were his wife I would leave. My husband and I both feel that if the other cheats then our entire marriage has been based on a lie and the other is free to go. He knows I will leave and I know he will. We both stay faithful and flee from even the appearance of inpropiety.

Answer 5

Of course God has forgiven him ... if he repented. To repent means to go in another direction. Did he?

His punishment, regardless of God forgiving him, will be distrust from his wife, possible divorce for righteous reasons, the loss of stature from his children and his family. His punishment may also include disease which he may have spread to his wife.

Answer 6

If he has asked GOD to forgive and was genuine,then he is forgiven.JESUS paid the price for ALL of us,as long as we're truly sorry.GOD knows what's in our hearts.HE wants us all to repent and be baptized and be filled with the Holy Spirit.(no punishment required).As far as his wife that is in her hands .Have a good day.

Answer 7

In my opinion, his penis should be cut off. I'm sure a priest wouldn't be so harsh. Who am I to say what his punishment should be in the next world/life. Maybe he will be reincarnated as a woman who gets cheated on by her husband who is supposed to love her... just a thought. I happen to believe in karma, so none of the above apply.

Answer 8

His punishment is his own scarred marriage and his wifes' trust that can never wholly be restored

Answer 9

His punishment in this world would at the most be divorce, but he might not consider that much of a punishment.

If he has received forgiveness from God, then there will be no punishment in the "next" world.

Answer 10

Christians are not exempt from sexual sin. If you are such a person who has fallen into fornication, adultery, pornography, homosexuality, lesbianism, bestiality, or any other sexual deviation, then you need to stop. You need to confess your sins to the Lord and break off your relationships that lead you or tempt you into further sin. This may be hard to hear, but it is what is necessary.
The sexual drive is a very powerful one. It is so strong that it can alter a person's thinking and emotions. It can harden the heart and move us to irrational and sinful decisions. God has created sex for the marriage bed and for there alone. He wants you to be pure in mind and body, reserving the sexual union for the proper context of marriage so that you might properly honor God and your spouse. Failure to do this is to commit grievous sin. But all is not lost.

There is forgiveness in Christ

All of your sexual sin can be forgiven. The blood of Christ is too great to be defeated by your sin. Jesus paid a great price on the cross (1 Pet. 2:24). He shed His blood and gave His life and if you are a Christian, then you have been bought with a great price. You are not your own and the Lord always longs to fellowship with you (1 Cor. 1:9). All you need to know is that you must confess your sin to God and repent of it. This means you stop doing it. You are called by God to purity, not to sexual immorality.

1 Cor. 6:18, "Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the immoral man sins against his own body."
Eph. 5:3, "But do not let immorality or any impurity or greed even be named among you, as is proper among saints."
Col. 3:5, "Therefore consider the members of your earthly body as dead to immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed, which amounts to idolatry."
1 Thess. 4:2, "For you know what commandments we gave you by the authority of the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor, 5 not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God."
The Greek word for "immorality" is porneia which means illicit sexual intercourse, i.e., fornication, homosexuality, lesbianism, bestiality, etc. The English word "pornography" is derived from this Greek word. So, you can see that God desires your holiness. After all, this is why you are a Christian, to honor God, glorify Him, and live for Him.
To repeat, if you are in sexual sin, stop it, confess it, break off tempting relationships and situations, and seek the Lord. If you fall again, then go to the cross again. Never give up going to Jesus and receiving the forgiveness that you need. Never think that the Lord Jesus will stop loving you. Never doubt Him. He loves you and knows your struggle.
Then, after you have repented, see if you can find someone to be accountable to. Find someone trustworthy and have them pray with you regularly. It is so true that sometimes beating sexual sin cannot be done alone. Sometimes we need the strength of the body of Christ.

What if I don't repent of my sin?

If you are a Christian involved in sexual sin then you know that the Holy Spirit has been convicting you. If you feel no conviction then you are either not really saved or are so hardened by the sin you've been committing that you are close to God taking your life. This is the case in 1 Cor. 5:5 where a man was having sex with his father's wife and he would not repent. Paul said, "I have decided to deliver such a one to Satan for the destruction of his flesh, that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus." Rest assured that God takes this seriously. He will take your life to essentially save your soul. This is a loving move on God's part.
If you are reading this, then the Lord has directed you here because He wants you to know about this issue. If you are in such sin, you know what the Lord requires of you. If you are not in this sin, then thank the Lord for His mercy and continue to seek the Holiness of the Lord.