I know that I'm wrong for talking to women on like, and my gf found out about, and i've done it a few times. I'm not saying im perfect, but I live alone and my gf lives 50 miles from me. I love her very much and will do anything for her. She told me that she started to talk to a man on-line, and has gone on a few coffee dates to talk, she doesn't like him as a mate but as a friend. As I said I never went out with anyone, and yes I could of, but I could never hide it from her. Right now she needs sometime to make up her mind, and that's cool. But why what I did was shameful, and what she did or doing is ok. Saying she giving a little of your medicine is not the same. She can tell me im going to talk to me anyway I want to. But she went out?
2007-12-12 02:50:21 · 21 answers · asked by napolee_nj 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People are always scared their parnter is cehating when they are guilty of it themsleves. Did she start talking to the other men when she found out about what you were doing, or did you find out she'd been doing it too? Basically what she was scared you'd be doing by chatting on line she is now doing herself. Meeting another person she really likes and wants to be with. I'd move on if I were you, she has gone further than you, you never gave in to temptation. The first opportunity she has and off she goes. She's morally weak and doesnt love you enough to resist.
2007-12-12 03:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by Wonderwoman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having coffee dates with someon she met online is suspicious. Maybe its just not the way I would go about doing things, but for most people its odd. Does she not have any other friends she can talk with, why does she have to meet someone on the net. Its suspcious and dangerous sounding to me. Also, its JUST 50 miles, unless your 14 it shouldnt be that big of an obstacle to overcome. Less than an hours drive twice a week for each of you, if your willing to put in the work, is not a valid excuse for a rift in the relationship.
2007-12-12 10:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by burg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is because your alleged girlfriend is building up a cadre of boy toys to be wrapping around her little finger.
It is NOT wrong for you to talk to women.
Even if you were married it would not be wrong for you to talk to women.
It isn't even remotely close to wrong for you to DATE other women while dating this girlfriend.
She just doesn't want you to do so because the more men she can control the more she winds up appeasing her genetically founded subconscience.
In other words it is NOT abnormal for her to do exactly what she's doing.
Immature, yes. Abnormal, no. Wrong: you are the only judge for that.
Before you continue calling her your girlfriend, however, perhaps you should put her to this little test:
Love, true love, is where your concern for another person's health, welfare, happiness, and safety is equal to or greather than your concern for your own.
Can you say that about her?
Can you say that about her feelings toward you?
If not, then it is not really love that you or she is feeling, and you would do well to begin to identify it for the emotion that it really is.
2007-12-12 11:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Robert G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just the way that there mind works. I've heard this one women say once that if her boyfriend kissed someone else it is cheating, but if she were to kiss someone else it isn't cheating. Many people can't see past there own noses. They have some belief that what they do is OK, but if someone else were to do the same thing then it is wrong, selfish and neglectful. If she is going out on dates with this guy then it is not OK. She has to be able to talk to you and you have to tell her that.
2007-12-12 11:00:11 · answer #4 · answered by Escape 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong for both of you to do if your supposed to be in a commited relationship. I would probably be upset if my bf was talking to other girls online. But, she is no better. It is suspicious that she is meeting this guy at all. If they are really just friends then she will want the two of you to meet and get along together.
2007-12-12 11:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she only lives 50 miles from you why don't you go see her. Take her out. Satisfy her needs. Sometimes women just need a men to be there for them.
2007-12-12 10:58:10 · answer #6 · answered by Sergio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she would not have done it if you wouldnt have been talking to other women but now that she feels she got you back it will probably end , but if you two feel you need more company then a long distance relationship just isnt key neither of you should be needing to talk to other people if you're bored dont go online and talk to other women , women are manipulative and coniving and i wouldnt trust mine online talking to women either ive broken up with one over it . if you're bored call her, text her. email her, send her an e card, send her flowers to her house, drive to see her, do anything but talk to other women its just trust out the window
2007-12-12 11:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and she are talking to others on line in a flirtatious way yet you are in a committed relationship you are both doing wrong, but not just to each other. You are being deceptive to the people you are flirting with. It is always wrong to trifle with someone's feelings.
2007-12-12 10:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by Fafeom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darlin, dump her - clearly she has insecurity issues. You need to find a partner that you can trust and also allows to have some freedom. You sound like a very nice person, who deserves to be happy, and not feeling miserable and guilty all of the time.
2007-12-12 10:57:17 · answer #9 · answered by shez_a_maneater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing you two need to have a face to face talk about where you want your relationship to go. if it is going to go any further then both of you need to learn to trust each other, because without trust there can not be a relationship
2007-12-12 10:58:48 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyes3535 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋