i've been brought up in Christian values and thus, believing that pre-marital sex is a sin..but i don't know why..can someone make it clear for me..it will be greatly appreciated:)
2007-12-12 02:44:59 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Seems like everybody is missing the point here. A lot of folks have gotten parts of it right, but they miss the one big connection we really need to know about.
Several have quoted Genesis 2:24, which is good, but they’re only scratching the surface. Is anybody aware of the fact that the “one flesh” the writer is speaking of is far more than just a physical connection? Actually, it’s a spiritual one as well. In other words, when you have sexual relations with another, you are joined spiritually. Not like two separate objects being “glued” together, as it were, but actually becoming one entity, with no discernable separation or boundary between one and the other. You and that other person, whether intended or not, by that one simple act, have become one spirit. That we treat it casually, with no intention other than the pleasure of the moment, makes absolutely no difference.
Just like the relationship He desires us to have with Him, He wants us to have that same unconditional relationship with somebody of the opposite sex. The two become one, and to play fast and loose with that violates to whole concept. Really great sex between two people committed to each other is absolutely awesome, and anything other than that commitment cheapens it, to say nothing of the trying to deny that spiritual joining/merging.
2007-12-12 05:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by bruce d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well even though I am not Christian or religious in any way. But I can explain logistically why pre-marital sex is risky. How would you feel if you were born by accident just because your parents were just being **** partners that ****** too much? You would feel unloved and unwanted. How would the accidentaly born child feel growing up without a stable family structure? It would be difficult and awkward. How would you feel if you were born by accident and your parents are not prepared to or don't know how to properly raise a child? Then your life will be a state of living hell. There is always the risk of accidental pregnancy during pre-marital sex and it is the best interest of the child to be raised in a stable family structure. Marriage (or at least some informal vow of commitment) insures the stability of family for the childm and a stable family structure that guarantees Mom or Dad would stay and never leave him/her is essential for the mental health and well being of the child. Im not preaching against pre-marital sex, Im just saying you have to be careful. If you ever do engage in it at least wear proper protection and do so with caution.
2007-12-12 11:02:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the Bible was written, some of the things called sins were so for social or health reasons. For example- premarital sex: Should a womwn have it, she could be subjecting herself to censure, an out-of-wedlock baby (subjecting the child to social ostracism, humiliation and the like) possible illnesses, and so on. A man had similar chances to take.
Another example (to further clarify) was food: Certain foods were not to be eaten. This was in order to help prevent salmonella and the like. {note that once food prep had improved, and cooking methods better, this restriction was later lifted- the new covenant}
And alchohol: Jesus drank wine, but you'll notice that moderation was cautioned. We are all aware of the problems associated with drinking too much.
Many 'sins' of this type were labeled as such in order for Gods' followers to have a smoothly running society and fewer ills to deal with. None of these things (or their results) have really changed, so they remain as 'sins'. (except for the food one) Does that help?
2007-12-12 10:58:59 · answer #3 · answered by iamsuranovi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
God tells us that the marriage bed is to be kept pure; that those who practice premarital sex are condemned. It is not God's design that we have sex like it's a sport, or just because it feels good. Sex is the binder that holds two people together. I can promise you that if you do not wait for marriage, that you will bring the memories of past lovers into your new relationship. The primary thing here is that God forbids such relationships outside of marriage, and that should be enough for you. But the results of disobedience are unwanted pregnancies, abortion, AIDS, VD, etc.
"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral" (Hebrews 13:4).
Additional: as for the one that said unmarried sex, per se, is not adultery, I might point you to Jesus' words about that too:
"But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart" (Matthew 5:28).
2007-12-12 10:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are two answers to this - the first is historic. In the days before DNA fidelity was the only way that men knew which kids were their's. This mattered because of property rights. So societies did not work unless all procreation took place within marriage. Most (all?) societies were tough on adultery and fornication and many Christian values reflect what is needed for communities to work.
Today STDs are rampant so I have advised our kids to be very wary. Luckily they are all happily married now
2007-12-12 10:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You said that you were "BROUGHT UP" in Christian values... but did u believe and trust those Christian values? More importantly ... are you saved? Unless you get to that point of total salvation and rendering of your heart to Jesus then it will be a bit difficult for you to understand why pre-marital sex is a sin.
You've got to trust God at His Word and know that because HE said it.... then it is so!.
2007-12-12 10:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by ARIZONA 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In God's eyes & in the Bible, sex is equal to marriage...which is SUPPOSED to be forever. If you have sex before marriage, it can cause lots of trouble in your marriage. What if you got a STD before marriage,...from someone you thought you loved...someone that didn't turn out to be what you were wanting or needing??? What if you got pregnant & had a child by someone else??? It happens all of the time, but it does cause trouble. Then you have to deal with your "baby's daddy" forever & so does your husband. What do you think would go through your husband's head if he knew you were not a virgin? I'm sure it hurts him to know that someone else has been with you. Sex isn't just an act of pleasure. It is a knowing of someone, a very intimate sharing of yourself. Society has turned it into such trash. God was only looking out for us...trying to protect us from harm & pointless hurt in our marriages. Hope this helps.
2007-12-12 10:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by ashlynmadelynmommy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is a sin because God purposed it between one man and one woman in a deep, spiritual union. When you consumate a relationship you become "one flesh" with that person, uniting you with them. When you enter into another consumated relationship with another person then you would be commiting fornication and/or adultry.
(1 Corinthians 6:9, 15-19)
2007-12-12 11:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a sin.
As seen here:
Genesis 2:24 (New International Version)
New International Version (NIV)
Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society
24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
Sex is the most intamate form of expression that there is. To have sex anywhere outside of marriage simply cheapens it.
I would suggest that you read this:
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AkC2y6UyOWqME5DtDL_2KCzty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20071008091810AAp60YT&show=7#profile-info-ctDQXBbhaa
2007-12-12 10:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Whoa... talk about weird. I was JUST about to ask this.
I have the same question! You can't say "Thou shalt not commit adultery" because sex before marriage is not adultery, that would be cheating.
So yes, where exactly in the bible does it say one must be lawfully married?
Edit: To the first response, the "real purpose" of sex is to reproduce.
Edit:" Genesis 2:24 (New International Version)
New International Version (NIV)
Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984 by International Bible Society
24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh."
And so you MUST be married to become one? Wouldn't that just be love?
Having sex with someone you truly love is not taking away anything from it. You're only missing being legally bonded to eachother.
2007-12-12 10:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by Reptilia 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋