I have been with my bf for nearly 5 months. I know I want to spend the rest of my life with him and I wonder when the right time is to "ask the question"
2007-12-12 02:42:22 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
now cos i'll say yes
2007-12-12 02:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, 5 months in not very long to make that type of commitment. If you ask the question now, you make push him away because of the pressure to make a decision now. This could very well be the guy you spend the rest of you life with. Just let the relationship grow and mature. Continue to tell him that you enjoy being with him for all of the reasons that you do. Tell him that you are looking for a long term relationship that at the right time leads to marriage. Ask him how he feels about the relationship and what his long term goals regarding marriage are. See if he even want to be married someday. Some guys feel honored to propose to their woman. Don't take that away from him - and the chance to be romanced- by jumping the gun too soon.
2007-12-12 02:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by truly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend married a guy after only knowing and dating him for 4 months. They'll be married for a year in Feb. Me and my fiancee have been together for 10 months and we're engaged. But we're known each other for 3 years. It'll be almost 2 years of dating before we get married. You can get engaged right now and have a long engagement. I do agree that if he was ready to be engaged he would ask you himself. Just give him another 7 months and see what he does. You never really know someone until you live with them. By the way how old are you and how old is he? Age doesn't matter but I'm curious.
2007-12-12 03:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 months is a bit soon to want to get engaged/married. I'd recommend that you leave it for a while, perhaps a year or two. Take it from someone who rushed things. I got engaged after 7 months and we were married a year later. We're now getting divorced.
Why not consider living with your boyfriend for a while first? That way you'll get to truly know each other well and will be able to decide if this man is definitely the one. You only really get to know a person once you live with them.
Also, can you be sure that he wants the same thing? If you love this guy, you don't want to scare him off, right?
There's no harm in taking things slow. If you rush it, you may come to regret it.
2007-12-12 02:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by Gemz L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others 5 months isn't long enough! Yes you may be in love&alreadyknow that he's the man for you but asking now is way too soon and may scare him off. If you're meant to stay together then you will so just wait a year or even better make it 2...that's about the right time.
2007-12-12 02:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by NightOwl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 months is not very long. I'd wait it out a little longer. It's hard to tell much about a person after only 5 months, even if you live with them. Trust me I know, because I still learn new things about my boyfriend everyday and we've been living together for over 2 years of our almost 3 year relationship.
I will tell you, since I am assuming that you are a man, that I do have a friend who proposed to his boyfriend after only 7 months together and they seem to be very happy with their engagement and with eachother. It was my friend's first boyfriend after coming out and they are very good together. They however at this point and time cannot get married in their state.. :(
2007-12-12 02:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by Meggie Smalls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think that 5 months is really long enough. Are you sure that he feels the same way about you, personally I would give the relationship about 18 months or so to make sure that you really are sure. Also approach the subject of marriage with your boyfriend and find out how he feels about it. If after a year or more you still feel the same way then do it
2007-12-12 04:24:32 · answer #7 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to know if he feels the same. I'm sure there's nothing worse than being knocked back. Also you have to know whether he's traditional. I know my fiance would have hated it if I'd asked him, as he thinks it's the man's job to ask the woman. But there is no minimum time to ask. Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee married after just 4 days of dating. My brother got married 9 months after being with his wife. I on the other hand will have been with my fiance 8 years by the time we marry, but it's just personal preference.
2007-12-12 03:23:35 · answer #8 · answered by English Rose (due 2nd May) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 08:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 months is too soon for some people. For other people it's right. It depends on what both you and your bf want.
I'd agree with the person who said discuss it with him. My fiancee and I discussed when we'd like to get engaged to someone after we'd only been dating a few weeks. I was happy to get engaged as soon as I knew the person was right. She wanted to wait until she'd known someone for a good while, and lived with them for a while too. So I knew that and waited until we'd been together for three years, and lived together for two. Plus because we both discussed it every so often, I knew she was gonna say yes when I asked ;^)
So to sum it up: talk to him. If you're both happy with the idea now: do it now!
2007-12-13 07:40:55 · answer #10 · answered by Steve-Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him about how he feels about marriage and weddings and stuff such as that... if he says he doesn't want to get married yet then just wait but if he seems interested then I would do a romantic setting like maybe a movie at home (a ormatic one) and when a really romantic part come on whisper into his ear the question... IYou might wnat to word it kind of like "(insert name) do you want to spent the rest of your life with me?" and if he asks why then tell him that you want him to marry you. and see where it goes from there .... email me what happens...... good luck I wish you the best of luck...
2007-12-12 02:47:39 · answer #11 · answered by scarred_soul_princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋