Hey guys ! I need some advise when I was at school when I was 13 till 16 I kind of like this girl name loran and she asked me out and I didn't know she was making fun of me then she went out with this new kid and both of them use to pick on me alot and with her picking on me it really hurted me they both for 2 full yrs used to make me watch them kissing each other and use to wait outside of my house to hurt me plus his family use to pick on me and her family and some their friends then everthing went to court and thats when I won because loran and him put me inside a cell few times cause I was being picked on and I just wanted to get my own back on them and I lost 1 full year of my school but the school wanted loran to stop and him & it really as made a huge impact in my life and i'm 24 yrs old now and I still get upset of what happens and Im still full up with madness and still got a heart whats broking but you know what i'm trying to think Loran isn't worth it and she hurted me and
2007-12-12 02:36:55 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can't find it in my heart to forgive her after all this time I lost everthing in my life cause of her but same time I still got feelings for her as I seen her in town and truth is I just couldn't help me to look at her in a soft way and she looked into my eyes and I think I got mix feelings about her.However this morning I sat down and I was thinking about her and I said to myself Loran isn't worth it and that she hurted me so much and if we did get back together it will be hard for me to keep my cool so do u think I should move on cause she really Screw me and I hate her for that so i'm going to stop beating myself up over this and move on but i'm still mad of what she did and I don't think I can get over what she did to me do u think i'm doing the right thing ?. Am I really in wrong for not forgiving her ?
2007-12-12 02:37:46 · update #1
and thanks to her I got so scared of girls and women and I am more grown-up now but just can't forgive her. shoul I forgive her
2007-12-12 02:39:13 · update #2
i think if she hurted you so much you shoulded move on a long time ago. you dont need to forgived her but put a check mark behind this story and move on...i cant believe she hurted you so much
2007-12-12 02:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't think of her, she screwed ur life and u shouldn't let her influence u more. gain self confidence, don't let her influence u forver. find a girl u like and be with her. forget about Loran, u r giving her toooo much importance. forgive her or ot, u shouldn't hold grudge and u shouldn't keep ur mind busy with her, she was young and playful and now she may have changed and maybe she wants to get back at you for what u have done to her (although she brought it to hesrelf).
Don't say u have no confidence and don't pity urself, u r still young and full of life, go meet new people and enjoy ur life, Loran is just one of many obstacles u might face which u should get over and go on...!
2007-12-12 02:50:13 · answer #2 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were all kids at the time. And first heartbreaks can be hard, especially if this gal was bent on being mean about it- and from what you say, she was.
Let me give you a piece of advice: Erase her from your mind. Make her as nothing, less than a speck of dust in the air. There is absolutely no need to give this vicious female the power to hurt you. She will probably do the same to the guy she's with now- Unless he does it to her first. In which case, you will have your revenge.
Go on and make a life for yourself. Find other things to occupy your mind. Somewhere out there you'll find a lady who will be good for you, and you will be good for her.
Good luck.
2007-12-12 02:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what alot this girl put you through, sounds awful for you at the time but now you've got to either confront her or put it down to immaturity at the time. Some people just like to make other people feel as they are feeling them selfs, she may have had an abusive fatther etc, you never know.
I was bullied by girls all through infant and secondary school but it gave me strengtth for other trials of life, made me a stronger person and realised that if you don't stand up for yourself some people will use you as a door mat
2007-12-12 02:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by TRACY K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has affected you badly and I think you should consider counselling, as it has had a knock on effect, with regards to your life. You should not forgive her for what she did, she caused you years of grief and she really should be ashamed of herself but you need to let this go and move on. Also, maybe going to a self esteem class may help. You have to get over this evil little troll, she is not worth a second of your time.
2007-12-12 03:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not wrong, forgiving does not mean becoming best friends with her, she doesn't even have to know how you feel, what you really have to do is accept that it has happened and no matter how much you hate her it does not change the past. You need to look ahead and plan your positive future for yourself. Forgive when you are ready it comes over time!
God bless!
2007-12-12 02:54:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was years ago. Both of you were kids back then. People often dont realize what they have done to others until it happens to them. She will see one day, someone will hurt her just like she hurt you. Its called Karma. You need to get over it, because if you dont, The right one may just pass you by.
2007-12-12 02:41:57 · answer #7 · answered by lilLuv_2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What comes around goes around, she will get hers one day, but you need to forget about her. You two were kids when that all went down, you have changed leaps and bounds since then. If she hasn't asked for forgiveness, she obviously doesn't deserve it anyway. You need to find a new lady to give your love to. Good luck
2007-12-12 02:45:27 · answer #8 · answered by stormdog3269 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is completely understandable to not understand her, however it is difficult to judge the situation with this story. It sounds that you may have some underlying issues that should be discussed with an actual therapist as it sounds like there may be deeper problems behind this girl.
2007-12-12 02:45:01 · answer #9 · answered by willa_harper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that what she did is really wrong and she took it to far but if she relizes that she did something really wrong and lets you know how bad she feels about doing all that stuff to you , you should forgive her but if she starts to laugh about the subject and then apoligize dont forgive her and just forget about her but make sure when you talk to her about it you make sure that she really knows how she made you feel and how it still hurts you im sure she will understand and it will make her feel bad about what she did. hope this helps you.
2007-12-12 02:48:08 · answer #10 · answered by littlefaulty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋