I just found out a few weeks ago that my boyfriend was spending more time with some other girl then he was with me while we were still dating.. and he left me for her when I still loved him deeply, I'm still devistated and I don't know if I should move up with my mom or stay here and go to the same highschool as him.. what would be better for my sake ?
2007-12-12 02:19:09 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You SO deserve better, do you have alot of friends where you are? Because if you do, then they will be hurt that you left. Also, you can't run away from the problem. Hes an ****** and you can't let him know that he hurt you. Dress your best, fix your hair and throw on a smile, the more you smile and tell yourself your happy and over him the more that you'll begin to believe it.
Hes not even worth the move. Stay put and stay strong.
2007-12-12 02:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Say, Forget About Him, Why Give Your Heart To Someone Who Obviously Didn't Care About How You Feel. Why Waste Your Time On Someone Like That. There's Plenty Of Other People Out There, That Will Be True To You & Make You A Lot Happier, So I Say Why Let Him Have Control Over You And Move Schools, Stay There, Start Dating And Act As If It Means Nothing To You. Why Give Him That Benefit.....
2007-12-12 02:27:12 · answer #2 · answered by Not Always Sure 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Moving can be traumatic too. You would have to adjust and there would be new difficulties. Sometimes moving is good. If you have friends there you would not have them either. Ultimately what you have to deal with is your heart. You also need to focus off of him and what he is doing and focus on the fact that you are valued and you are loved.find activities that you are interested in and develop your talents. This guy was seeing someone at the same time as you and he is now with that girl. What a poor and immature and trashy way to start a relationship . That guy is not going to treat her good. As soon as he gets tired of her he will go to someone else.You can meet someone new. In time your feelings will fade and you will be over that guy.You will meet someone who is honest and kind and he will sweep you off of your feet and he will be better looking too. If you think living with your mom is better for more reasons besides that loser guy then move . Don't leave a good place just because of this problematic mean stupid guy. He is trying to put you down but don't go down. Ignore him,be strong and be happy again.
2007-12-12 02:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should know that high school relationships have a shelf life of only three months. I know you feel like you "love" this person deeply, and maybe you really did. But typically people at this age do not know how to have real relationships with deep emotions such as love. You may have been extremely attracted to him and could have been a strong liking.
Don't worry so much about him, I've seen maybe one couple last through high school, the rest grow older, grow more mature and move on to find people they are more compatible with. You will find someone else so don't waste your time dwelling on this guy who obviously didn't care about you as much as you did him, and who obviously isn't mature enough to sustain a long term relationship.
Is this someone you'd want to stay with?
2007-12-12 02:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't move unless you really wanted to.I would just move on with my life if I were you.And I know it's easier said than done but if someone doesn't want to be with you then let them go.I think women tend to try to hold on to something when it's already gone.He wanted to be with that other girl for whatever reason.Don't be bitter about it because there are other guys who would love to have you as their gf.Your ex obviously didn't recognize how special you were so he made a decision with his head and not his heart.And I must tell you this.If you're still in high school,you aint missing nothing from him.You will probably have a lot of guys to come and go throughout your high school life.You're young.Forget him.Live your life to the fullest.He'll come crawling back and when he does say this: "Sweetie you're just not what I want anymore."Then walk away with your head held high knowing that you'll make it without him!?Good Luck sweetie!!
2007-12-12 02:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by sweetie23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay where you are. Don't let anyone control your emotion. There'll be some other boys come along. Don't make him think that he's the only one on the face of the earth. You're young. You'll go through a few more boyfriends before you find someone you truly love. That's just part of life.
2007-12-12 02:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by Phoenix 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why move????? Stay where ur at, get over the lost and keep it movin. Sounds simple I know, but its really hard to move on when ur heart is broken. There's no quick cure for a broken heart, it heals with time. Doesn't matter if u left and went to the moon... still going to take ur heart with u. The answer to ur question is simple but hard, give urself time..... it eases all pain and move on.... its over, ur the only one that's in it, hes gone so let him go. Get with ur family and friends and check out all the other fish. Happy hunting!
2007-12-12 02:27:28 · answer #7 · answered by pokvet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's painful to see the person you love walk away from you, but you're still young. You'll fine someone who would respect, love, and honor you and won't be looking for any other woman because he'll truly care/love you. So I guess move on with your life. Take 1 step at a time. Enjoy your life/youth. Find hobbies to occupy and distract you from thinking of him. Goodluck!
2007-12-12 02:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by Alessandra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay at the same school, and find someone else. It will be difficult at first but give it time...and see her leave HIM for someone else. Running away from your problems and pain is not the way to go - in school or in life. Now is a good time to start with that lesson.
2007-12-12 02:23:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should stay where you are if you have friends, people who care about you and like the school, etc...
Don't run away over a boy...I know that love can hurt, and that heartache is one of the worst feelings, but you have to be strong, and show him that you're better than he is...
Running now would only make things worse for you in the long run, it is far better to learn now while you are young that running is never the answer and that facing your fears and hard times will make you a smarter, stronger, and better person.
2007-12-12 03:05:29 · answer #10 · answered by stressed to the MAX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋