Ok so me and my guy has been together for 5 months but i've known him for 2 years. I recently broke up with him because I believed he was cheating. The reason I thought this was because we have broken up before and the next day he had a gf and they were walking down the street holding hands and what not. And I cryed my heart out. But about two weeks later we got back together but I never asked him about the other girl. But anyway I just feel like he didnt care about our relationship and he was loosing love for me so I ended it. But now i'm sitting here lonly and I miss him I wanna call him sooo bad so we can get back together but I want him to know he cant have his cake and eat it to. I want him to learn to appreciate me and i'm not his door mat. Its been 6 days since our brake up. should I just move on with my life or wait for him to come back to me?
2007-12-12 01:38:13 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no one dat moves on in a week is worth waitin 4 hes just gonna do it again so u shuld move on ull find some one with ur ex's highs and w/o his lows
2007-12-12 01:43:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't contact him...my advice is to try and move on...
Two break ups in 5 months (no matter how long you've known him) is too unstable.
If you beg to have him back, or wait until he comes back, you're most likely going to be in this horrible cycle of breaking up and getting back together...you'll be that couple...I think everyone knows at least one...where you never know where they stand, and you don't want to say anything about it, cause you never know if they're broken up or together at the moment...
It's not a good look...
Not to mention that's no way to be happy...think of how hurt you are right now...do you want that to happen every few weeks for years?
the hardest part is over, the breakup...now is your perfect chance to move on...give it a try at least, you may find that you didn't actually love him as much as you thought, and if you are meant to be with this person, then you "won't" be able to get over him, and you will find each other again...
Right now though, it doesn't sound right.
2007-12-12 01:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by stressed to the MAX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts, I know. And it hurts him also. That is why he needed a girl so fast after your first breakup. Because the only way to get over a past love is to find another. However it seems rather fast in his case, like she was already part of his life. If you have unfinished issues with your bf I say call him to air them out and not necessarily to get back together. If things go badly than you know that you where right in the first place. If you fall into each others arms, I think you will need to spell out the rules of the relationship better. It's killing you to sit there, there is still a chance. Call him. Good luck.
2007-12-12 02:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by SteveX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book "It's Called a Break Up Because It's Broken" by Greg Behrendt. It'll explain that you're better off without this guy, seriously.
he also recommends that you stop talking to this guy for 60 days. Absolutely NO communication for 60 days. I'm sure that after avoiding him for that long, you'll be over him and then some. Good luck.
2007-12-12 01:43:11 · answer #4 · answered by marisa_g1rl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, I know you're feeling lonely, but this guy...I don't trust him. After the two weeks, you should have confronted him about the other girl. Because now he assumes he can have his cake and eat it too because you didn't get in his face about it! The cheek! Unfortunately, some men just don't change their ways. I realize you want him to *learn* to appreciate you, but he's got to do that on his own. HE has to realize how special you are. Unfortunately, we cannot or do not have the right to change anyone else. I'm not sure, I think you should moveon.org and let him come back to YOU!
2007-12-12 01:44:32 · answer #5 · answered by PURR GIRL TORI 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Young lady if you want to call someone that will not hurt you and truly love you . Read Matthew 11:28, John 14:6 and Proverbs3:5-6. If you want a lifelong relationship make one with God your first real one. Pray and ask him to help you with these feelings that you have for this ex-boyfriend. Read Philippians 4:6-7.
2007-12-12 01:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had a suspicion about him back then. What makes this time any different? Do you now believe that he never cheated? Has he done anything to prove that? I don't see any reference to him being the perfect, monogamous boyfriend in your question, which leads me to believe that you only want him back because you're lonely, not because you misjudged him.
Trust me - if you take him back you will end up regretting it. Find someone else to play with. He's not worth your time.
2007-12-12 01:46:24 · answer #7 · answered by KB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have a real life friend on this situation.. i know its hard for her like its hard for u. But the thing is that you should have never let him cheat on you, after that you shouldn't have gotten back with him, if he really loved you he wouldn't have done that. It will take time before you forget all this but just try to go out with your friends and keep your life busy, try to smile even though inside your dying.. sorry this happened to you. Hope you get better bye :(
2007-12-12 01:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have been with someone 4 this long, it can be hard 2imagine not being with them. But if you truly can't trust him, then you would be lying to yourself and untrue to your heart by staying with someone who can't fully appreciate the caring and effectionate individual you are.
Keep your head up and realise that you WILL eventually get over him- there ARE better days (and better guys) out there BELIEVE ME!
A relationship is mainly based on trust, and without it you will be lost and going nowhere girl. xx
2007-12-12 01:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by Nika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. Life is too short. There are plenty of men who actually treat women good. If you though he was cheating, he probably was. Noone wants to be lonely but sometimes you have to believe in your morals. Stay strong and the right person will come along for you.
2007-12-12 01:41:41 · answer #10 · answered by rick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets use our brains instead of our hearts to think this one out.
I would say (being a guy myself) that if he was even a little bit broken up about you leaving him, he would be apologizing and trying to convince you that you made a mistake.
Now..if you came to me and did a little begging (sorry but true) I would feel empowered and would know that I Rule and could really do whatever I wanted if I took you back. (A Very bad thing in a relationship).
Bottom line.......Let him go.
Good luck to ya....
2007-12-12 01:47:09 · answer #11 · answered by we_are_legion99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋