I have different spiritual beliefs. I don't follow the relgion of my family. They think that I have sinned. I think they are judging me, but apparently they are not, 'God made the rules, not them'. So they are not judging me because I broke an obvious law of God. I will not repent because I have a baby and if I repent for that sex, than I am basically saying "I should not have had this child'. This child was went to be and I am EXTREMELY offended that I am expect to repent for having sex which brought my beautiful baby into the world. I think that they are judging! But they say that they do accept me and the baby, and that I should not aruge with them, I should take it to God. It drives me nuts!!! I will not repent for the sex that brought another human into the world. My baby was meant to be. And me standing up for myself is now rebelling against god. AHHH. Am I wrong?
2007-12-12 00:47:40 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Yes, they are incorrectly judging you, and no, it is not wrong of you to feel that they are wrong.
Children are awesome, and anybody who thinks that procreation outside of marriage is wrong (when the result is positive in the eyes of those who made them), obviously has their priorities totally obscured.
2007-12-12 00:59:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
Some denominations are very strict and feel that not repenting is a continuation of the sin or are taught 'tough love'. I feel that premarital sex is a sin because it causes so many problems. If you don't than you can't truly repent for that act. That isn't to say that you should repent for having a child. No one should think of your baby as anything but a gift. Honestly, it sounds like your parents are just angry and worried about you and are showing it.
Some so called Christians annoy me soo much!! just reading these. Now I'm starting to rant...
2007-12-12 01:03:48 · answer #2 · answered by Bumblebee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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However, at that point where one partner is at the brink of abandoning the relationship, how can the remaining partner save their marriage? If you are at the point where your spouse has asked for a divorce, what can you do?
You must realize first that, you do have a choice. Often, when confronted by a crisis, we find ourselves backed into a corner thinking we have no choice in the matter. How can we change the situation when it involves another person's feelings or decisions? While we cannot, must not and in no way manipulate, blackmail or threaten our partner into changing their mind, we can actually control how we react to the situation. If anything, you must realize that you still have control over yourself. You have the opportunity to look inward and take responsibility for your own feelings and actions and even have the chance to take personal inventory of what your partner is trying to tell you. Are there points in your marriage that must be changed? If so, respond appropriately and proactively.
2016-02-11 08:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to be unhappy about your beautiful baby.
If the possibility exists. it would perhaps be pleasing to God if you married the one who made the baby with you.
The Bible shows that many people in the past led unchristian lives. It also shows Paul saying, "That was how some of you were." Thus the possibility for a turning around is present.
Repentance in this sense doesn't mean that you repent having the baby. It means that you recognize that you led a life ignoring the laws/ commands of God.
Thus repentance is followed by works of repentance. Which in this case means that you make no more babies out of wedlock, and that you do not any longer walk in disobedience to the divine laws, and that you also have good works.
What is done is part of "dead works" and we all have some things in the past that cannot be undone. In case of your baby, you obviously love him/her. Thus it would not be your wish to undo this -- but it should be your wish in the future not to disobey God. So marry and make 10 more babies if you so desire!
Marriage in God's eyes is a protection for all parties. It ought to give the children a stable economic upbringing. It should give the mother a supporting mate, etc.
2007-12-12 01:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by Fuzzy 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
A child is a true blessing from God. I think the reason that God urges us to not have sex outside of marriage is to shield us from heartache in the future. Children are a miracle and a huge responsibility. I am not saying this out of judgement only out of compassion for you and your newborn miracle. I was divorced when I was 7 months pregnant, although I did not have sex out of wed-lock my son was born mired by legal battles and bitterness. It is now 10 years later and I am dealing with the fact that my son will be spending his Christmas 2600 miles away with his birth father. It is only pain that the Lord God is trying to spare us, don't feel as if you are condemned however that you are truly loved. Repent of the sin, embrace the miracle and the gift that is God's love, understanding and forgiveness. He loves you and he loves your child. Raise your child to love God and you will forever be blessed. May God Bless you this Christmas Season and throughout the New Year!
2007-12-12 01:04:54 · answer #5 · answered by fire_side_2003 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Judging as a means of assigning punishment is wrong. Your punishment for sex outside of marriage is raising that wonderful child of yours. I have no doubt you cherish that child and think the world of him/her.
"I will not repent because I have a baby and if I repent for that sex, than I am basically saying "I should not have had this child'."
>> No you are not saying this. Just because you repent of being a drunk doesn't change the liver damage you now have as a result (I know, its a bad analogy, but it works). Just because you say you are sorry for having sex outside of marriage does not mean you are sorry that you have your child, or that you are saying you shouldn't have your child. Now, saying your sorry you have your child is another story all together.
You don't have to be sorry you have your child to be sorry you had sex outside of marriage. You obviously don't see the inherent problem of such activity (by the way, is the father still in the picture?), so you can't be sorry for the act. Let it go. If you don't want them to bug you about it, either leave them alone or tell them to back off. If you hang around them even with these feelings, and then choose to be offended, you only have yourself to blame.
2007-12-12 01:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by capitalctu 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Telling you that you they think you have done something wrong isn't necessarily judging you. We all discipline (instruct) our children to help them learn wrong from right -- when we do so, are we judging our children? Not always!
They have said that they do accept you and the baby, so you might have to take their word for that.
But you also just might have to agree that because of your different spiritual beliefs, you are going to be in discord with them on some matters, this being one of them. Likewise, they should not expect you to adhere to their concepts when your spiritual beliefs differ.
When you state, "I think they are judging," you yourself are essentially making a judgment. If you don't feel you need to repent, then no one can make you feel judged. But if, deep down inside, you wonder if you did do something wrong, then others' opinions might have more impact and lead you to feel as though you are being judged.
2007-12-12 00:58:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Ok, so essentially you are saying that you have a child without being married right? You are right that people don't have the right to point the finger at you, but you know that you are wrong (according to the bible and to society's standards) and it hurts for people to rub it in. It is something you are going to have to live with and I'm sorry but that is the way that it is. It isn't just sex when you a creating a life.
2007-12-12 01:48:51 · answer #8 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is not an issue of people judging you. You are already judged by God for you sin of adultery. You issue whether you conceived a child or not is what does God say not people. God says, "that if i regard iniquity in my heart He will not hear me". As long as you see nothing wrong with your sin you will be out of fellowship with God and will not receive His blessing in your life. The old saying is true. The end doesn't justify the means. For example, Just because you were caught or not caught stealing doesn't make it right.
David had to repent of his sin with Bathsheba even though a child was conceived. In fact Psalm 51 is his repentant Psalm for his sin with Bathsheba. Read this Psalm and you will see what God thinks which is what really matters.
We do have the right as brothers and sisters to judge according to Matthew 7 in order to keep our brothers pure. Don't just read Matthew 7:1 but read the rest of the verses and let them teach you.
The issue for you is real obedience before God
2007-12-12 01:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by hotdogg 1 · 2⤊ 4⤋
When you repent, it means that you are truly sorry for the sin you committed against God and that you want to change. The thing is, you SHOULD have never have done it. God ordained sex to be a beautiful event after marriage between a man and a woman. Sex is not to be thrown away. Your parents are not judging you, they want to point you in the right direction. Humble yourself and try to change. It's hard, but you will be so much better off. Let go of your pride and let God work in you!
2007-12-12 00:55:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋
God's word clearly states that you will be without wisdom until you confess your sins. If you do not believe you have sinned and gone against God's Word, and clearly you have, having sex outside marriage is a sin...then you will never have true understanding.
You have to go to God and ask HIM to show you the truth. We can tell you all day long what the Bible states and what we know is the truth according to God's Word...but it is up to you....to go to God and ask.
You children are not the sin...but came into the world through sin...
Babies are not born sinful, they do not have the knowledge to sin. There is an age of accountability for all of us.
Your spiritual belief is not of the true living God...or you would not have a rebellious attitude.
You have to ask yourself is fornication sin in God's eyes?
Did I sin in God's eyes?
The bigger questions is do you care that you sinned in God's eyes?
2007-12-12 01:07:23 · answer #11 · answered by ' 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋