I fell inlove with my best friend..........?

Question

ive been thru this for years.....ive been keeping what i feel for about 8 years.....i love him......but i never had the courage to tell him that....all he could see from me is his bestfriend whom he treats like a baby sister since he never had one....hes in a relationship and ive gone out with him and his gf....and i was treated like a baby sister who has no one to take care at home so his elder brother took her on thier date... he treats me like a baby though were of the same age...he even calls me "baby"....kisses me in my forehead like a child....and he spoils me....gives me almost everything i ask from him.... thats why i fell for him .....im happy being treated that way....but when reality strikes me....that im just his DAMN BESTFRIEND>it really hurts... im 22 and never fell for someone else.... i want to find someone whom i could turn my love to....but havent found the right one yet...or should i say have not found the one who could surpass his impact in me..help me to forget him

Answer 1

I won't say I know exactly how you feel, but as I read your lines, it's very similar to my past life. I was in love with my best friend for 7 years... and never had the courage to tell him, because I was afraid that I loose him if I do tell. I'm 25 now, in a relationship about one and a half year, and i'm very happy. My boyfriend is the real one, and the best friend is still a good and close friend, but nothing more. Looking back to the past, I really tought that my best friend would be the perfect for me, but that feeling mostly came because he was handsome, and he treated me as a special someone, and i fell in love with the idea that he would be the perfect for me. The other thing I realised is this: I did'nt tell him about my feelings, because somewhere deep in my heart i knew that he doesn't feel that way - the excuse that I was afraid loosing him came from the very strong feeling that in my heart I know what he feels is not the thing I'm hoping for.
I could encourage you to tell him about your feelings, but I think maybe others will do that, so I wrote this down to tell another point of view. In my case the best friend didn't have any girlfriends, so that was a plus thing what was a possible reason that I clinged to him so many years (and probably i was a helpless romantic fool)... but your best friend already choosed another girl. Meeting with others can be a starter for the cure. Try to spend less time with him, and no time as a third member on their date... I know how hard it is in the beginning to keep a distance, but I really think that your feelings will change with time.
I really wish that you soon find your special someone, who can replace your best friend's place in your heart. And after that, you will feel about him the same way as he feels about you, and he will really become a friend.

Answer 2

Your in a tough place. I had a best friend that I knew began to want more than the wonderful friendship we had. I just didn't feel that way about him but he was my best friend and I didn't want to lose that relationship. He finally married someone else and the loss was horrible but I wanted the best for him. Since he's in a relationship, don't make any moves and appreciate your friendship. If you make a move on him, you can damage your friendship forever especially since he has a gf and feelings for her. If they break up, you might try something subtle to see if he responds. Just remember when you make that move or if your friendship moves on to something more and then doesn't work out, you will probably lose your friendship forever. Good friendships are hard to come by. You do have a dilemma. Lots of luck with whatever you do. I suggest you look around for someone else and just have a good time for now. . .

Answer 3

hi! this is a little hard. i don't know your best friend & i'm not sure if it's right to tell him all your feelings. if u tell him, he will be surprised or would change or avoid u & might affect your friendship. we're not really sure if he feels the same. u said that you've been keeping this for 8 years ( that's sooooo long. )

it's not also that easy to find & love someone because you have feelings for your best friend & u cannot escape that feeling. try to ask him sometimes (as a joke), what if i fell inlove w/ u? let him answer so that you'll have an idea whether to tell him or move on.

good luck to u!

Answer 4

I beilieve it is very rare for men and women to be just friends for that long. There is always feelings on one side or the other. At some point he will realize the stability you've given him and I bet he has some feelings for you somewhere other that "a little sister" Listen to Usher's song. You got it bad" or Vanessa Williams " saved the best for last". They both are about this topic.

Answer 5

U count ur lucky stars for what u hv. He is ur good friend and cares for u. so dont spoil it by giving a tag of relationship. U cud depend on him for all the advice u need in ur life and he is mature for his age. So try to find urself a good friend and ask ur "brother" to chk out if ur future friend wud be good for u. dont mess ur life. u hv a long way to go

Answer 6

dont push yourself too much while trying to forget him.. just take it easy.. one day, you'll wake up and you will realize, you care too much for him that you dont want to ruin him and his lovelife/family life, so then your psyche will keep shouting at you, to let go of him happily, for you didn't lose him, at least you loved him, and that is enough- to see him happy with his own life..

i'd say stay away from him for now.. give it couple months, 4, or 6? you will still love him, but then, by thta time, you will be more objective in reasoning-that it's for the best, and realize that love is sacrifice,...

Answer 7

Try to move out from your best friend's social circle and learn to meet more people so that you can easily forget your best friend. Life is too short for knowing only one person in your life. You need to see that you can find better person out there..

Good luck!

Answer 8

well I think you should stick to him as her baby :), you don't know how time will change, if he already has a girlfriend it is not going to help you much, you might even end up losing best friend.

The only other thing you can do is walk away from him completely and slowly slowly you will forget him but it will be really hard process.

Answer 9

Well...... As long as he sees you as his sister it's never gonna happen. Just cut yourself off from him for awhile and not talk to him. Try to hang out with other friends and if that doesn't work hit me up I can make some time for you.

Answer 10

KIll him and his g/f. Simply put