........Then what is the meaning of my relationship with my lover, a repetition of him trying to soothe me from my constant depression and getting stressed out from failing to do so?
2007-12-11 18:42:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relationships _can_ be fun, but they do not have to be.
There is some form of commitment in relationships. He also cares about you, so he is doing his best to try and be there for you in your state of constant depression and stress.
I think the core of a relationship is caring and loving the other person.
The fun is almost like an extra (of course it's best to be happy in a relationship). It definitely should not be the core...at least for a relationship that is desired to last.
2007-12-11 18:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by niiro13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is the best way not to have a future. First you must know what you want. Are you looking for a good time, a partner to have fun with or a trip down the aisle to happily ever after? Once you decide that you can better tell what to do here. It is always best to live in the now and enjoy what is now. If you are ready to settle and go the shoes and rice route I think you need to look elsewhere or light a fire under him and see what happened. Either way that means you must be ready to leave him. If you want to be with him and that is all that matters then stay with him, forget the future and enjoy now. It is up to you, what do you want?
2016-04-08 22:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not always fun. They should be constructive and enjoyable for both of you. My bf is depressed, too, I've my own half-solved painful issues... but we help each other learn. It's a slow, sometimes painful, often difficult process, but with each other's support it's absolutely worthwhile.
However, there should be more than learning. You should be able to unwind with each other, just hang out and act dumb if you want. If you're at a point where you're both hurting each other too much, talk it over and decide wether it's worth it, or if you'd be better off separately.
* If you're depressed, you'd do well to seek professional help and/or a support group (even if only online). It's your beloved we're talking about, not a shrink. Both of you should understand that.
2007-12-11 18:50:38 · answer #3 · answered by ms_dr_heart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are supposed to be fun, but anyone who commits to a relationship knows that they have committed themselves to the other person through the bad times as well as the good. Take comfort that your lover is willing to stick through the rough times in hopes of sharing the good with you again in the future.
And for both your sakes, please see a doctor. Your depression can stem from any number of causes, be they hormonal, dietary, illness, allergy, or chemical imbalance. Even if you've recently faced a tragedy, there are normal and non-normal levels of depression. Please seek help and I hope for the best for both of you.
2007-12-11 18:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by JonnyTruant 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well would you stay with someone that was boring and never wanted to do anything?
Of course there so suppose to have an element fun. But it looks to me like you need to see your doctor if your constantly depressed and stressed out.
2007-12-11 19:04:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you've answered your own question.
Constant depression would be the key phrase here. This might be difficult but your words lead us to believe that you might want to look in a mirror.
He's trying to help but isn't able to help you with your constant depression.
2007-12-11 18:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learning how to interact with people strengthens your inner self and helps you see who you really are and what you want(need) in a life mate. Relationships grow and change and eventually end. They are simply learning experiences... maybe it's time to move on, you sound bored!
Good luck Kiddo!
2007-12-11 18:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by private 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The whoel point of a relationship is to be with someone you enjoy being with. If that consists of fun in your eyes then yes.
2007-12-11 18:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by Jackie C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes they are supposed to be fun and loving. If you are just taking "soothing" from him constantly, I'd say for his benefit, let him go.
2007-12-11 18:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by *MoMmYofTwO* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it,s called frustration, depression can be a difficult thing to be around, be patient with him & sorry but grateful he,s stuck by you, when some guys would,nt.
2007-12-11 18:49:09 · answer #10 · answered by CatGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋