Ok I need your help. I have this guy friend who's been acting really weird lately. He's been asking where I am all the time, calling me tons of times, asking if I can spend the night at his place. He says that he just wants to be in my arms.
I made it very clear a while back that I'm not ready for a relationship, because i'm very focused on school and work.
Well the other day we were watching a movie and I just wanted to cuddle and he kissed my forehead then told me "you know I'm your man right?? And you're my girl..." What's that about?? Does he want a relationship??
2007-12-11 18:21:50 · 22 answers · asked by *Heart~broken* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If i were you, talk to him and ask what he really wants exactly. It sounds like he wants something to tell you, either he wants to break it off with you or he find somebody else. So, just to make it sure ask him about your situation with him coz we don't have a crystal ball to predict what's going on right?
Go ahead with your doubts and you can get the right answer.
2007-12-11 18:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by hottstuff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard about that happening a lot, so don't worry that it's only you! Are these girls that you've tried to keep the romance alive with? It's hard to keep a romance going and both parties have to continuously work at it or the spark tends to fade out. Also, people change over time and what they want may be different from what they wanted when you first got involved. I wouldn't worry because obviously these women were not right for you or it wouldn't have ended like that. How about starting off a relationship and let it eventually evolving into friendship? You might be surprised at how much more long-lasting that relationship is...based on friendship initially and not romance. Anyone can have a romance, but not everyone can be great friends.
2016-05-23 04:36:16 · answer #2 · answered by cherly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously like most girls, the answer would be yes. However your more focused on your school and work right now because you want a good career. If this guy actually likes you (not just for your looks or anything more) than he will understand this. If he does not want you to go to school and persists, then he is not even worth wasting your time on. On the other side, you shouldn't get to focused on school and work that you isolate yourself from the world. But its good to know where you stand and your feet are firm on the ground about what you want out of life.
2007-12-11 18:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by Buster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think he wants a relationship...it actually seems like he thinks you two have one already. Let him know that's not what you want and if you mislead him into thinking it was that you're sorry but you can't be more than friends right now. Expect some awkwardness but if he's mature and cares about you, he'll understand. And try to avoid doing things that would make him think you're interested in him like that, he might have got the signs mixed up.
2007-12-11 18:27:11 · answer #4 · answered by Truth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop sending mixed messages . You have him over but you don't want a relationship? There was a name for that in my day! You can't have your cake and eat it too.
Asking where you are and calling all the time are early signs of controlling or abusive personalities. I would slowly cool it, and stop letting him come over. Stay on track with work and school!
2007-12-11 18:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely say yes. How did you respond to that? Since you made it clear you don't want a relationship he might like the challenge or it's been long enough that he thinks you changed your mind. Maybe you need to tell him that again or kind of avoid him a little.
2007-12-11 18:25:14 · answer #6 · answered by Heather G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That last paragraph you just wrote, pretty much says it all.
Yes, he does want a relationship (oh come on, read that last paragraph again, and tell me how many people do that just because?)
I admire that you made it clear to him that you are not ready and are focusing on school and work. That is highly respectable.
Edit: Oh snap, #3, that's right! (and more correct than my answer 0_0)
2007-12-11 18:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by niiro13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude... he sounds like a psycho and by the sounds of it he's already labeled you "his girl" without even telling you.
I would be careful if I were you when you finally decide one day to walk away from him. Any friend that is that obsessed with you will eventually will turn out into a scary stalker if he hasn't already tried that.
You need to slowly separate yourself from him unless you're into that kind of "friendship." My guy friends have never done that to me and if they ever did I would totally ditch and ignore them in a heartbeat.
2007-12-11 18:26:29 · answer #8 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's pretty obvious he wants a relationship, especially by saying "You know I'm your man, right?? And you're my girl..."
He has pretty much put it right out there on the table, it's clear he wants a relationship.
2007-12-11 18:24:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you cuddling with him? FRIENDS don't cuddle. You are giving him mixed signals by doing that. It does sound like he wants to date you though but if friendship is the only thing you want, then you have to make that clear to him.
2007-12-11 18:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by mama3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋