To all the spiritual folks out there...is there a way I can access wisdom in choosing the right path? I have loved him one-sidedly for so long, and we have been close, and yet, he says we can only be friends and he doesn't want a relationship and I should move on. He doesn't feel ready. I am getting the vibe he will never be mine, and yet I am also getting the vibe that there IS a slight hope here.
I am conflicted whether I need to keep trying single-mindedly until the end (perhaps until he has a GF or gets married) or should I let him go and start seeing other people? I am really afraid to do the latter - coz I feel I wont be doing justice to the new man, plus, there is a big chance I will lose the guy I do love.
If I don't reach a conclusion to this, I will go crazy. I am living in a whole lot of pain every single day not knowing which way to go. How do I know what the right path is?
What would you do if you were in a bind, seeking an answer?
2007-12-11 18:20:51 · 5 answers · asked by ? 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Tocca,I've been doing this with you in Y7 now for awhile.LET IT GO!You need to realise when done is done,you're like a poker player with his last dollar in the pot,refusing to fold your' pair of 2s.IT'S NOT HAPPENING.And who's loss is this?? c'mon YES!HIS!He passed on having a wonderful,intelligent,beautiful,devoted soul-mate!I wanna call him an idiot,but maybe he is'nt.Some people,for many,many reasons,wont or can't be paired up!Maybe he won't be happy 'till he nails all the Pussycat Dolls.Maybe he's one of those people that likes to nomad around,and never be tied down.Yes,Tocca,I used the term 'tied down'.What's bliss for some is agony for others.He's probably like that,that's all.It's the oldest line in the book,but...it's not you.it's him!
Listen ,Kid.STOP talking to him for a couple of weeks!Make a resolution,you really need to be _(you never dropped his name)-free for a little while!Seriously,he knows you have feelings he dosen't.If he's not a total [bleep],He'll understand when you say you'll talk to him in Jan.Get AWAY from the immediacy of talking to him every day,and get some perspective.
Dam*it,I HATE saying this,but I like you:talk to a therapist.You're beginning to lose your' handle,and you've known the score for a while now.You're becomming obsessed.
LET IT GO.
Try your' best to have HAPPY HOLIDAYS,Hon.
2007-12-11 19:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ouch... unrequited love.
Take the guy at his word and move on.
You can't change him, only your reactions.
What we think, affects our emotions, and determines our actions. It's time for a new game plan.
The change will do you good.
Who knows, he may even reassess his relationship with you.
Don't count on it though.
When in doubt, read the instruction manual... the Bible.
2007-12-12 02:34:07 · answer #2 · answered by Bill Mac 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. If he is not want to commit to you, you should find someone who will. There are many paople in this world. You don't have to be in a hurry. If someone is right you will just know.
2007-12-12 03:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by shooter581103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise you cut loose and move on, there is only heartbreak to be had by pursuing someone who is clearly not interested
2007-12-12 02:26:26 · answer #4 · answered by Diane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Consult the divine.
You may not be sure of their existence, but they will show you the way.
2007-12-12 02:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋