My bf and i have been together for 3 months and yesterday he told me that we should start having sex but i told him that i'm not ready yet. Can you tell me how long it took for you to star having sex with your bf or gf??...How many months?...I just wanna know your experience...and also tell me how much time you spent with your partner before starting to have sex..thanx
2007-12-11 18:15:09 · 16 answers · asked by Elena_Jolie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in a similar situation within my relationship at them moment. I have not had sex with my girlfriend and love her more than you could imagine. We had a conversation about sex very early in our relationship which took much of the pressure out of the guessing game of whether one wants to do it or not. It is not like we are never going to have sex....or that we are necessarily waiting for marriage...it is just a special even and should be treated thus. Since we are very open she will tell me when she is ready....and even though things get steamy from time to time (remember you can do other things besides have sex) it will not happen until she is ready. I want to wait until then too because I truly care about her and want it to be perfect. Be open and honest...and if your opinion is not respected then you have some soul searching to do about your relationship.
2007-12-11 18:43:51 · answer #1 · answered by Nate B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I met my gf when I was 17 and we waited a whole year. We are now married and have been together for 12 years! We were each others firsts and lasts! Why is jumping into sex so important. I think its best to wait until you know you love each other enough to stay together and have a good relationship. What if you have sex and a child comes into the picture-are you guys ready for that? Untill you are, I would hold off! Never let a guy pressure you into doing something you don't want to-and this is comming from a guy! There are good guys out there, make sure the one your with is one of them!
2007-12-11 18:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by jimmethun@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been dating my boyfriend for almost six months and we have not had sex yet. Everyone is different with when they are ready to have sex. If you are not ready to have sex then you should wait until you are completely sure. I can tell you from experience that if you are unsure about the decision when it happens that you will have doubts down the road. Whether those doubts entail wishing that it happened with someone more special down the road or just that it happened at a latter point in your current relationship, you want to be sure and not have doubts and worries. If he really cares about you he wont try to pressure you and he will wait as long as it takes.
2007-12-11 18:42:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give into the pressure, do it when you are absolutely ready. Sex for no reason, and when you are not ready is overrated, and you may regret it later. I was with a GF for a year before we both did it for the first time (on our anniversary). We spent every day together. But everyone is different. You will know when you are ready. Just don't compromise your feelings.
2007-12-11 18:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous_dude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your not ready then don't do it. if he loves you he can wait. if he can't wait I think its time to find someone else. don't ever feel pressured into something like that.
believe it or not i'm a guy. personally i'm waiting for marriage before i have sex. I think it should be between two people that truly love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together. in any case you can't really know someone in just three months. i'm glad you've waited this long, a lot of people can't.
2007-12-11 18:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by Sleepyguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually was with my fiance now for almost 5 years when we started doing it , (he also was my 1st time time) Because i wanted to wait till i got married but the mood came and the time came and it just happened. If he really loves you and everything he is going to understand that your not ready. And he will wait untill you are.
2007-12-11 18:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by `_LAYLUUH 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends on how you feel about him....just wait until you are ready....the girl i dated for 3 years took 1 year for her to be ready...the girl i just dumped about a month ago, we went out for 5 months and it only took 2 weeks i think....if he really likes you, he will be patient to wait and should respect your decision.....guys want it all the time, so whenever you are ready, he will be ready...he may be sexually frustrated, but like i said, if he likes you, he will wait for you to be ready
2007-12-11 18:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by Wal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry no experience, never got courage to speak about sex. Play it hard before giving away, guy will most probably walk away afterwards. Intrest will wane after sex, I have seen lot of guys like wise.
2007-12-11 18:22:45 · answer #8 · answered by gentleman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 months
2007-12-11 18:18:02 · answer #9 · answered by cry_wolf 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know that you asked the guys, but i need to add this. Any guy that will not wait until you are ready, does not love you, or care about your feelings.
2007-12-11 18:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋