Am I wrong? Or are my parents just blowing this out of proportion?

Question

So, theres this guy that I've been txting for about 7 months
now. I've never talked to him on the phone, or met him.
Last month he sent me a nude picture of himself. He's also sent me one before this, about 6 months ago.
And my mom found the second pic 2 weeks ago in my phone.

Now...I'm 16, and He just turned 18 2 weeks before he sent
the second pic. My mom ended up calling my dad over to talk
to me about it. And then my dad called the police when he
found out that the guy was 18. The cops showed up at my house , AND a detective. They opened an investigacion cass. The police took my cell phone for evidence. And they said something about him being put on the sexual predators list.

My parents are now checking my history on my laptop.
I can't have a cell phone anymore.
And I'm not aloud to stay home alone anymore.

But...The problem I have is them doing this to him.
It's not like he's an actual sex preditor. He's only 2 years
older than me.

But...Am I wrong here?

also, I know that he's really 18. Because my friend knows him personaly.

Answer 1

wayy out of proportion.

Answer 2

Ok so I dont buy a couple things here:

He just randomly sent you a nude pic of himself? or where you guys doing something that warrented this picture? Did you send him any pictures?

I dont buy that this guy just randomly sent you a nude picture of himself, Im 18 and my girlfriend is 16 and we currently live together with my mom and the first time me and my girlfriend got to the point were body parts were shown i was freaked out worried shed think thing or say stuff or anything like that (first girl to see me naked and we where dating for a year before hand have yet to have sex and wont till we are married the situation was a shared shower ;) ) So what im saying is if he really is 18 he wouldnt have sent the picture unless the situation called for it. In which case if he just randomly sent it then your looking at a perve and the neccessary steps have been taken.

If it was a warrented situationthen its a boyswill be boys situation although hes 18 as someone stated earlyier we all got to school together.

Answer 3

Normally I'm sympathetic toward 18-year-olds when the law comes down on them for being with someone just a year or two younger. In this case, though, it makes me uneasy that he's sending nude pictures to a younger girl he's never seen. You could be 11 years old for all he knows. He's probably not a sexual predator... but then again, he might be, and it's the cops' job to figure out the answer, and your parents' job to protect you from possible danger until it gets straightened out. I understand why you're angry, but I think it would be better if you go with the flow with your parents' restrictions until you find out more about this guy and what kind of person he really is.

Answer 4

No you are not wrong!!!

I totally dont even believe in this crap that parents have been doing regarding a 16 and an 18 year old... both ages go to high school together, so unless all of a sudden high schools are going to ban 18 year olds from attending high school then it shouldnt be a CRIME to talk to an 18 year old or even have pictures like that sent...

honestly he shouldnt have sent you nude pictures but being called a sexual predator is retarded... people with a 2 year age difference meet and date all the time... the fact that you are only 16 ok maybe you shouldnt date someone 2 years older until you are 18 yourself but that should be no reason to flip like that... maybe there is information that you didnt put on here that might turn my opinion, but there should have been a different course of action such as meeting with the boys family and working something out, trying to see if he is a sexual predator before pressing charges....

Answer 5

You should have told your parents the first time he did that,and it would not have happened again. You don't know how old he really is,or if that's really him in the pics, could be some 50 year old perv down the street from you! To many sick, and twisted people in the world today. The next time he may have asked you for pics and they may have ended up on a website somewhere. Just because a friend says hes 18 still doesn't make it right to send you those pics. He can still be a perv at 18

Answer 6

A boy of any age should not be sending nude pictures to you, especially one that is 18 years of age. Why did you not tell him that he could be caught the first time. This sounds like a pervert, at the very least. You should be glad that your parents loved you enough to save you from any harm, physical, mental or emotional that this sick person may have ended up causing you.

You do not really even know this guy, so don't worry about what happened. Just take a lesson from this. ANY man sending you perverted pictures like that is sick. You are only 16, and not a consenting adult. That is considered pornography, plain and simple!!

Answer 7

Ok of course your parents are going to freak out because you are there daughter and too young to be getting nude pics of your guy but in my opinion i feel sorry for this guy. He is still a kid himself really. Its sad when guys get screwed over by stupid technicalities like when there birthday is. Sexual predator? thats a little harsh. I do not think he had anything illegal in mind when he sent you those pictures. he is just an 18 year old boy who now has a bad blemish on his record that will follow him for a long time. Not really fair but i guess thats the way the law works and even when it seems harsh we all have to live by it because it does protect innocent young women and children that do get hurt by sexual predators every day.

Answer 8

Carolina, I know this may be a hard pill to swallow, but a guy sending you nude pics of himself is innappropriate. I think your parents love you a great deal, and they are reacting to what they think of as a percieved threat. They don't want some dude touching you. I know your parents probably don't appreciate how you feel about this person, and that you may feel isolated. That sucks. But if you parents didn't care about you, then what? How would you feel then?
I knew a girl in high school whose parents didn't care about her at all. She ran at all hours of the day, went with whatever guys she wanted, did drugs, drank, smoked..Now she's got 4 kids, almost no education, broke, and living in a dumpy old farmhouse. You don't want to be the girl living in the dumpy old farmhouse, wishing your parents cared more about you and led you in the right direction. They may have gone a little overboard, so sit down and talk to them both when things calm down about how you feel. They may drop the charges or ask the judge for a lenient sentence.

Answer 9

You said yourself that you've never spoken to nor seen this young man yourself.Its so easy to lie and misrepresent ones self to another when you're not face to face.
What if your parents are right what if he turns out to be some 50 year old guy who is indeed a child predator.Would you hold it against them for protecting you to the best of their ability?
This world now adays with cell phones and internet make it so simple for child predators this is paradise for them.
What if he is only 18 and he is still a child predator?YOu just don't know now adays.And that scares the crap outta me because I'm a parent.And to be honest I'd do what they did because my daughter is the air,the moon,the stars,and the sun she is OUR world.If harm ever came to her from a child predator I don't know what we'd do.
You're a teen you have a right to be angry at the injustice you feel in this situation.But what if?And that's what your parents are asking what if he is a psycho and you didn't know until it was too late?Your parents don't want you to be a statistic in a horrible way please try to understand that.And realize that some day you may thank them for keeping your innocence as in tact as they possibly could...

Take Care,
M.G

Answer 10

a similair thing happened to my daughter. only diff was she met him once thru her friends cousin. he 18 she 16 also. the only reason i did not call police was because i knew his mom. i did take it to her and she in turn got him professional help even his own mom could not be certain he was not a perv. she had no reason before this to believe he was but that doesn't mean he wasn't. how do you know it is not a 40 year old man pretending to be 18? he has zero right to send you nude pics it is so very wrong on many many levels. your parents did the right thing. if he can be so indecent to send a minor a picture like that that there is something wrong with him. he needs help and now thanks to your parents he will get it.

Answer 11

the guy does sound like a weirdo...how did he even get your number? and to be randomly sending a nude picture around is sketchy. If the police believe an investigation is neccesary i would say leave it up to them. He will be punich according to his actions...which is only fair. As for your parents they are trying to protect you, because maybe they thibnk you dont realise the seriousness of what happened to you. Im not accusing you of being naive, but things can happen im sure you know. If you want them to stop checking your laptop history...tell them that you are now responsible enough to know what people to avoid. and if they dont respect that...you can always erase your history.