I know the two are separate issues in court. HOWEVER. let me just explain the situation. he dumped me as soon as i got pregnant. then was not there. She is four months old, he woudlnt come to the hopstal to see her has not came by to see her NOTHING. I tried to call , no answer. I am pursing child support he went down to the child support enforcement agency and demanded a paternity test. At this point, it seems likely to me if i drop the case, he would just walk away. IT seems his main concern is not paying. I really dont watn him in our lives. Do you think if i dropped the child support case, he would likely disappear and go away from our lives?
2007-12-11 17:40:07 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Mr. Bezo - you are completely ignorant. Do you think I planned to have the father of the baby dump me after i became pregnant? NO. In fact, we had ' the talk " and h esaid having a baby togheter and marriage is what he wanted. it was much to my dismay what happend. if you just want to get self ritchous and put people down, then dont answer the question. espcially when you are full of ignorance and hate.
2007-12-11 18:26:13 · update #1
Its a tricky situation when custody and child support is involved. It's very possible he is just trying to get you to stop the child support. My sister had twins and her boyfriend dumped her when they were 2 days old. He had nothing to do with them and didn't see them for close to a year. After that he found a girlfriend who wanted to play "mommy" and decided then to come into their lives. Fast forward 3 years and he is now married to the girl, my sister is married to a marine. My sister's husband gets critically injured in Iraq and she leaves the kids with my family while she is at his side as he goes through surgery after surgery. His wife has a baby and discovers she is being laid off due to a company closure. They also realize that if he stops paying child support and my sister pays him instead that she can be a stay at home mom. While my sister is at her hubby's side he and his wife go to court for emergency custody... the judge decides to overrule the old custody order and grant him full physical and legal custody... the only reason he had was that at my house they were sleeping on air matresses. After 3 terrible days and many calls to local news stations, and a few new stories, he finally agreed to give the children back on the condition that she not leave the state again without his permission!! I know this was long and didn't relate to your situation completely!! Men suck so good luck with yours!!
2007-12-11 17:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle R 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You cant get full custody because she is still an involved parent .No judge would take a child away from a parent unless the parent was unfit. If you want to get your support lowered. File for a review of child support, claim that you are about to be homeless or whatever and ask for 50/50 custody. The more you see the child the less you have to pay.
2016-04-08 22:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not, DO NOT, drop the child support case, you and your daughter are due it. He hasn't been there thus far and for the azzhold to want custody, well, lets just say you can fight that. Are you doing the child support thing just to keep him in your life, WRONG REASON. Child support is just that, to financially help you when it comes to the things your daughter needs, then on the other hand, your daughter doesn't need him in her life and neither do you. Get your child support, raise your daughter up right, without "that father" and it will be okay. God Bless.
2007-12-11 20:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were going for child support so you were wanting SOMETHING in your lives. Did you expect that he wouldn't question or have the right too? Not excusing him but........think about the reason why all of a sudden you don't want him around. Just because you drop the child support issue, it doesn't mean you are done. He could pop back in your life after a few years and decide he wants to try and be daddy . For free.
Just because he disputes paternity doesn't mean he wants to come around either. Mine did the same thing and I didn't see him for 5 yrs...I was different tho...I wanted them to see each other...different story...so not judging...
Take the money for your daughter...she might want to know her daddy later.....you might have different thoughts later
But if you are hellbent on cutting all ties then make sure you have him waive paternity or else he can always sneak his way in somehow....lawyer up hon!
2007-12-11 18:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by emtalex 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like he would. Can you afford to not have the child support? Will you always be able to afford not having it. Even after she is in school and needs school clothes and lunch money. He can always come back and decide to push for custody of some kind. Some guys do that, though, just to be an *** because they have to pay. My sister in law finally started getting the child support her ex had been neglecting to pay. All of a sudden he started pushing hard for custody...and got it. She sees her son every other weekend now.
2007-12-11 17:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by ladybug 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must finish it. Get the paternity test and then you can either go for child support and the possibility he will want a relationship with the child or ask that he sign away his rights to the child. You don't want this to come back and haunt you 10 years from now when he gets a hankering to know his child.
Please think about what is best for the child.
2007-12-11 17:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will need the child support. Don't drop it. You won't have to worry about him wanting custody or anything. He is not that kind of guy. Not the responsible type. Don't let him get away with not helping but dont be a ***** either. You have a child to raise.
2007-12-12 00:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he'd likely just leave you alone.. but you can persue the child support issue at any time.. if you drop it now and he insists on seeing the child, then he NEEDS to contribute financial support.
people seem to think that child support is about punishment or something? I think the majority of mothers put the child support to good use... kids need all sorts of things -- a roof over their heads, running water, electric, shoes, etc...
some people's main concern is not paying!!
don't even bother calling him... you are only stressing yourself out.. leave it alone... and hopefully he will disappear never to be seen again. does your child really need a father who does not want to take responsibility for it?
2007-12-11 17:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Paying child support has nothing to do with "being in your lives". You never have to see him. All you do is get that check in the mail each month and deposit it. Its as simple as that. If he wants a paternity test, then let him have it. HE can pay for it. If he's NEVER been in your child's life, didn't sign the birth certificate or anything like that, then if he did file for custody, its highly unlikely that he would actually be awarded any significant time with your child.
Good luck.
2007-12-11 17:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think he would definitely just disappear if you dropped the child support case. But, it took two to make your baby and he needs to be responsible. Keep going after child support. You'll need all the financial help you can get. Babies are expensive. And, I don't think he'll try to get custody. Even if he does try to get custody of her, I seriously doubt the courts would give it to him - after all, he abandoned you, hasn't been there, has shown no interest in her.
2007-12-11 17:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋