Ugh, I can't kiss the guy!?

Question

I went to see this guy (we like eachother) the other day and he gave me a hug when I was about to leave and he well..moaned (not like a sexual one but like a relaxed moan) or something..I rubbed his back while we hugged and then we talked for about a minute, then I gave him another little hug and our head backed up and we were litterally like 4 inches away from eachothers face and we kinda stared for a few seconds and I don't know why the hell I did not kiss him!..I just said 'I will see you later' or something. Of course he works there and there were cameras on him I am sure and co-workers were around but...ugh..thats not why I didn't do it, maybe cause I wasn't sure that is what he was thinking too. I hope it was tho. How do I attempt the 1st kiss without it being a quick 'im shy' smooch cause I have a fear that is what I will do..

Answer 1

You're not ready.Period.

Answer 2

I'm not completely sure you want to. Or do you? If you do, make it more romantic. A public place is a real turn off to me. The last think I'd attempt is a smooch, even asking a date, in a place where everyone could watch as I might get rejected. Geez, it just gives me goose bumps thinking about it.

Invite him over for, or go out for, dinner. That will be a more romantic setting. Tell him to go dutch if you like and he can choose the restaurant.

Answer 3

Go on a real date, talk, eat, and have fun. After you have spent a night with him you will be dying by the end of the night to give him a kiss. Wait untill the perfect moment, either when you are both really close [like you were previously] or when you or he is about to leave and head home. Make sure you wait untill the end of the night though so you leave him wanting more

Answer 4

you probably just really like this guy and want the kiss to be special. plus you are probably nervous because a lot of people base how much they like a person by how well they kiss.... just relax take a deep breath, and just wait for the next time.

Answer 5

Kofi Kingston!

Answer 6

1. Don't talk too much; he might get annoyed, but slowly get closer to him as you converse.
2. Chat the boy up. Establish a sense of trust between the two of you, perhaps by telling him a secret about you that no one else knows [just make sure it isn't a secret that may turn him off or make him feel awkward or disgusted by you], or just by talking nicely to him. Just don't say anything that may make you seem like a slut
3. Flirt. Smile a lot, touch your hair, do whatever you think will let him know that you're interested and are happy around him. Hopefully, it will make him more comfortable and want to be around you more often.
4. Be forward about your feelings for him. Definitely don't play with his mind. Many guys aren't too good at reading body language, so make your intentions clear without coming across as desperate.
5. Break the touch barrier. The first step towards kissing is touching. Make any excuse to touch his arm, his hands, or his face. A lot of guys love holding hands. Hugging is encouraged!
6. Find the right moment. This is something you will feel when you know it's right. Often times this is after a nice evening and it is winding down.
7. Start slow. If he's too shy to make the first move, give him a peck on the cheek and slowly work your way to the lips when you feel the time is right.
8. Afterwards, say nothing and wait for the reaction. If he is surprised (or terrified) take no enemies, and kiss him again. If he is pleased, ditto. If he is angry, then abort the situation- no one would like someone to keep on trying to kiss that person if they're uncomfortable. You should be mature enough to step back. Otherwise, move on to the next step.
9. Pull back and look down, then look into his eyes. If he liked the kiss you'll most likely kiss again.
10. If this continues for awhile, maybe you should try moving onto a more passionate kiss. Then kiss him one last time touch his back!
11. When you're done, laying down is one thing to do and not talk.
12. Don't start making-out with him right after you two's first kiss.
13. guys like kissing theres no doubt. Sometimes you have to make the first move to break that awkward silence.


* The first few times that you kiss him make sure that it's not in front of a whole bunch of people--especially people that you or he knows. A lot of people are uncomfortable kissing in front of others, yet enjoy it in private. Secluded areas are an excellent place to make your move!
* Smell great, wear perfume but not too much.
* Don't wear lipstick or sticky lip gloss that will make them worry they are getting it all over their face. Any simple, flavored lip balm will do nicely, especially Lip Smackers Dr Pepper, Strawberry, and Watermelon flavors. Lip Smackers has a nice sheer color, it isn't sticky, you can get it at any drugstore and it is very kiss friendly!
* Listerine pocket mist and strips (silent) are great ways to zap the bad breath fast. Drink water too.
* Don't smoke cigarettes, as some men don't like that, and try to avoid alcoholic drinks. Brush your teeth regularly for the best effect, and just to be safe, always carry a breath freshener (chewing gum, mints, etc.).
* Don't make a mess out of it. Not the first kiss. It may be unpleasant for some people.
* Make yourself available, but don't attack him. Let him know that you're ready but allow him to go in for the kill.
* Most guys want to kiss you. If you think he wants to kiss you, but just is too shy, go ahead and move in.
* This might not work for all boys, but you could try asking him if you can kiss him. Give him lots of hugs first and start by asking if you can kiss his cheek. It might seem a bit weird but it does work!
* Make sure that you both are alone so that it's just the both of you and when you kiss it will be a little more romantic. Even if you haven't kissed before make it seem as if you have.
* If you both feel that you are ready or are looking for an excuse to kiss, you can play games such as Skittles, where you and your partner pass a Skittle back and forth between each other's mouth using only your tounges.
* While kissing, if in the right position, touch his face.


* Make sure that if all you want to give is a kiss, you make clear that is all you are going to give. Set your limits.
* If you want to show passion in your kissing do not eat the person off like a rottweiler - major turn off.
* Accept rejection. If you are more mature about it, they may start to like you and change their mind.
* After you kiss don't act all happy and peppy, thats a turnoff to some guys. It shows them you really haven't kissed a lot.
* Don't act depressed or sullen after you kiss; it just might send the wrong message across.
* Don't use a kiss to let a boy know how you feel about him. As romantic as it sounds to start a romance with a bang, if he isn't interested in one, or if there are reasons he isn't taking the initiative with you, you might end up causing some problems for yourself.
* Don't do anything you don't want to. If he pressures you to do something you don't want to, he probably wasn't the right ONE.
* Make sure that you don't drink milk or take any liquid medicine right before a kiss, because it may leave a bad aftertaste in your mouth.

Answer 7

Wait til he's not at work. You know, in a more comfortable, relaxed setting.

Answer 8

Just look him in the eyes then close your eyes. Move your lips on his lips. And now you two are kissing.

Answer 9

just make sure you get to a private place, and make out there, it usually just comes naturally, dont rush or anything. make sure you are comfortable first with yourselves, so you wont get nervous and shy.

Answer 10

first practice w/ a orage, or with a mango. jaajjaja.....not seriously, just let your mind and body flow with the guy, if he knows how handle it, he'll know what to do.

And don't forget to practice w/ the orangest or mangos......jajajjajaj

Answer 11

It's better to just go for it.
MOST likely he wanted the same.