I had the best time of my life in my early twenties.
I traveled.
I loved.
I drank.
I did crazy things.
I lived wildly and passionately.
I enjoyed college.
I lived in the moment.
When I see these young people pushing strollers I feel sorry for them. I feel like they've missed out. Let's face it, when you have children your free time is GONE daddy GONE.
2007-12-11 15:44:59 · 32 answers · asked by b down 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I gotta agree with yeah. I live with my g/f and we both agreed to not even talk about marrage for another 5 years, let alone a kid. She has a friend our age (21) who is married and has a kid and every time they come over they always look like they never even have time to even sleep.
Live while your young. Leave the responsibilities for when your older. You should make sure your life is where you want it before creating another...
......man u sure pissed off a lot of mommies with that question.....sorta makes yeah think if they really mean what they say??
2007-12-11 15:58:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 9⤋
Some of us have reasons to have children earlier in life. I am 18 and my husband is 21 and we are currently trying for a baby as I had to have surgery when I was 15 to remove precancerous cells from my cervix. Reproductive cancers run in my family and have caused every woman on my mothers and fathers side to have a hysterectomy. And after my first surgery the doctor told us there was a chance it would come back. My tests have not been very good since then and so after my husband and I got married in June we recently decided to try for a baby after the doctor told us we might not be able to have children if we wait until after I finish college. So now I am working towards my nursing degree and trying to conceive my first child. You can do all the things you listed above ( except actually drink while pregnant) and have chilldren. Children are gifts and they make your life more meaningful. Don't feel sorry for us. I know some young people don't choose to be in that situation but more than you think do choose it. I would rather enjoy time with a child i brought into this world than have free time. Thats my story and opinion.
2007-12-11 15:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by jandkedwards 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am about to be 24 with a 13 month old daughter. She is my life. I would much rather be able to talk about her reaching milestones than how much it took to get me wasted.
Bringing a child into the world and raising it to be happy and healthy is more of an achievment to me than anything else in this world.
I lived the crazy life and it wasn't all it was cracked up to be in my eyes.
My crazy days are spent chasing a little girl and my passion is that same little girl. I can look back on every picture of her and remember that exact moment. The pictures of my "crazy" nights I look back on and thank God that I now have a purpose to my every day.
So do not feel sorry for me. Since she has come into my life I finally have something to be proud of, some meaning and sense of accomplishment.
I feel sorry for the people who can not respect all of us parents out here who are actually raising our children up right.
2007-12-13 11:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by Meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that is your opinion!
I am 19 turning 20 and my partner is 23. We have a little boy on the way and it was planned! We both feel as though we have done really all we wanted to do and for me that was mainly hanging out with friends, drinking and partying, going to concerts. I dont like travelling, i finished scool and started working when i was 15 and i have a really good job and so does my partner.
I was doing most of that stuff at 16 so now it is just boring now, ive been there and done that, now we want a family together. It is actually really exciting to be bringing a baby into the world that is apart of both my partner and i and it shows our love and commitment to each other. We are really happy and cant wait to meet our baby boy.
Geez, it's not that bad, it is actually a really happy time in a couples life when they bring a beautiful baby into the world!
I guess really i feel sorry for you, that you see it that way. A baby is a gift not a burden, unless you are stupid enough to be having unprotected sex when you are not ready for a baby!
2007-12-11 15:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I traveled, and still travel.
I loved, and still Love, but Love even more now.
I did crazy things, don't want to do them anymore.
I lived wildly and passionately.
I hated college
I lived and still live in the moment,
and I sure hope no one feels sorry for me pushing a stroller because it's the best damn thing that ever happened to me.. there is nothing in the world that beats having children. and when you have them young, you can enjoy all those things later when they are grown up.
I was young when I had my children, but I am still young ,and as my children grow up, I am young enough to know that I will be around for my grandchildren and my great grandchildren, and I am young enough to enjoy things with them, like running around and doing fun things with them, practicing hockey and soccer. I was 21 when I had my first, and I'm 27 now. And I'm SO glad that I have had my children and don't have to feel sorry for the 40 year old women who dont have it in them as well as a 20 year old to be able to push the stroller and run around in the backyard I am not tired out, as an older person would be. I have lived my life, and am still living, with a heck of a lot more living to do, and I am excited to say that I will be around to see many more generations of my family, and enjoy them all while I'm young and healthy.
I've done the drinking and the drug scene, and believe me I am NOT missing out on any of it, the best high there ever is in the world, is the god given gift of your very own child.
Please don't think were missing out honey, because the truth of the matter is.. youre missing out!
2007-12-11 15:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by Butterfly 3 · 6⤊ 1⤋
see the difference is when you have your kids young then you have enough energy to spend your best years with them and have the energy to run around with them and play games. i will get my time to travel and all that other stuff. i dont know why people think that when you have kids your life is over. my partner always whinges because we never do anything and i wont leave my kids with a babysitter. you still have a life and enjoy life you just actually get to remember most of it because your not always smashed out of your brain. kids make your life better and trust me ive done the party thing when i was younger and it aint no where near as good as having kids. your the one thats missing out. i dont understand why people dont have kids in there early 20's
2007-12-11 18:17:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people have diffrent priorities. Dont drink and live more responsibly. This is who I am (im 24) I have a one year old and couldnt imagine my life any diffrent. I have a great life and can go out if I want to, most of the time where I want to be is with my family. Im not missing out on anything, just hang overs and more mistakes.
2007-12-11 15:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by ♥windi♥ 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am very happy for you.
I am 21 and pregnant with my first baby. I am very happy that I am pregnant; I don't feel sorry for myself at all. My husband is 25, so we are both young enough to play with our children and have fun. We can still be "cool" parents, cause we're not too old. I've had fun, done the "live it up" thing. Now, I've fallen in love with the man that I want to be devoted to for the rest of my life. I always knew being a mommy and a wife was what I was made to do, and now I am living my dream.
I've traveled, i am so in love it's unbelievable, I've done the drinking and I'm over it, I've done crazy things and will continue doing them except now it will be different cause it's crazy things with my kid, I can live wildly and passionately while still being a wife and mother, I am going to college one year after my baby is born, and I always live in the moment, like it may be the last moment I have...
So, what exactly am I missing out on?
2007-12-11 15:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mikey's Mommy 6 · 12⤊ 1⤋
Because that is me. Not you.
My children are my greatest accomplishment and reward. Better than any other thing I've experienced.
Looking in those little eyes and seeing them learn things and say things for the first time is amazing.
My time is with my children because that's what I want. I don't want to be out every weekend/night getting drunk.
I traveled, I drank, did crazy things, but I GREW UP.. something I don't think I EVER could've done without them!
2007-12-11 16:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Guess what.. I drank, I loved, I got wild, I travelled and I am 22 and a PROUD new mom. I have experienced both and it is sad that you feel sorry for us. You really should not have an opinion until you have a child. Life is nothing until you bring somone into the world. I feel sorry for you to have not grown up yet!! I feel like the partying was a waste of my time compared to what I do now.
Enjoy your partying now because when you get old and decide you want kids you will kick yourself in the *** for not having them sooner. My child will be grown up before I hit 40 and that will leave me free time to enjoy more traveling and fun with my husband. I feel sorry for those who have kids later in life. You just don't have the same amount of energy as you do in your 20's
2007-12-11 16:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by Alexandra 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Im 25 with a 16 month old baby. I've travelled, drank, sky dived, had a handful of long-term realtionships, loved school - finished a straight A student, and have a happy fulfilled life. I'm getting married in 7 weeks to the father of my child who I have been with for 5 years.
Now, i spend my days at home with my son and I have finally found what true happiness is.
I pity you for having such a narrow mind. Not everyone feels the same way as you.
Next time you have the cheek to make such a derogatory remark, keep it to yourself. How rude.
2007-12-11 16:08:17 · answer #11 · answered by Stacey H 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋