Is this just a myth. In the book "HE'S JUST NOT THAT IN TO YOU ". The author says that IT IS A MYTH. He says if a man is in to you, he WILL CONTACT YOU, IF HE IS SHY OR NOT/
WHAT DO YOU THINK??
2007-12-11 15:39:36 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a very shy person and I have trouble calling after the first couple of dates. after that it usually doesn't bother me any more
2007-12-11 15:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by jon s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More and more often, men are being told not to be to pushy. Especially after the first date, men do not want to seem smothering. I have several female friends who have trivialized the term "stalk" by using it to refer to a guy they went on a date with and then the guy called them.
Popular media is filled with images of women checking her answerring machine with 10 messages all from some guy with whom they had a miserable date, with the point being what a loser and/or creep the guy is. I know one phone call or voicemail to say, "hi, I had a great time last night" is not the same thing, but it sure can feel like it.
This fear of coming on too strong and ruining a good thing combined with the good old fashioned fear of rejection can make calling a girl after a date a terrifying experience.
Also remember that every phone built in the last hundred years can both send and recieve calls.
2007-12-12 00:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by dbr_story 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many men, including me hence the fact that I am interacting with someone online rather than at a singles bar, are very shy. Sometimes it comes from fear of rejection - yes guys can be as insecure as women. We just do a better job hiding it. So if you like him and felt chemistry, seize the day! It's the 21st century and you get to be on top (pun intended).
2007-12-11 23:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by inpoetry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No self confidence. This guy could of taken every advice from anyone (including not calling right after the first date but waiting a few days to call back).
He probably just got some bad advise.
OOOPS!
2007-12-11 23:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by ........Frank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a shy person myself I have never dated but i have gotten girls numbers but was always too shy to call them even when they would tell me to. If I was on a date I don't think I would be able to call a woman after, she would probably have to call me.
2007-12-12 12:20:35 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Myth and minor speculation. It isn't true in my case, because I haven't really ever felt the need to call after a date... maybe that's why I don't have a girlfriend anymore. <--- Lol.
2007-12-11 23:43:08 · answer #6 · answered by Amo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think it's true in some cases (but not all). My older brother is the shy type and although he liked this girl so much, he was just too shy to follow up on her despite me telling him to do so.
2007-12-11 23:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know for a fact, a self proclaimed friend of mine didn't follow up after a date: for no reason.
he went out with this girl. had a good time. liked her. but then just like didn't follow up. no reason. he just shrugged it off but i think i could tell he got nervous and didnt want to chase her like a pathetic tool. maybe he was afraid she wasnt too into him.
but he did say he liked her. just didnt call her afterward.
2007-12-11 23:43:24 · answer #8 · answered by Village Bing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each person is different.
2007-12-12 00:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mario Vinny D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
agree
2007-12-11 23:42:57 · answer #10 · answered by Prophet 1102 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋