What would you do if someone (30yrs old) moved all the way across the world to be with you and then treated you rudely and borderline abusively. (Think unbelievably abusive name calling, etc.) Would you ignore them until they acted like an adult? This is what I've been doing but he just insists everything is only my fault. Anything else I should try? Is this a lost cause? He just keeps writing online (especially yahoo answers) that he came here but *I* turned out to be a loser/liar/fake when it's really HIM that has been acting like a 2yr old?!
Anyone want to talk some sense into me? :(
2007-12-11 15:33:30 · 6 answers · asked by sublime 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi Loli
I have followed your posts for awhile, from questions about the baby to questions about 'the guy'....he's an idiot. Turn, run the other and don't EVER look back.......
2007-12-12 00:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by rudy2tute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, this is beyond all my areas of expertise.
I've no clue which of you is right and which is wrong, and I am basically reacting to what you say. If you are being treated rudely and that is unprovoked, then he is wrong and you are right. If any of that is based on your actions you could share the responsibility. I can't tell if there is abuse, but if there is, my advice is get as far away as you can as soon as possible.
From what I have seen your survival isn't a lost cause but just about everything else is.
You are in a dispute which is clearly emotional for both of you. When we think out of emotion we don't necessarily speak as accurately as we do when we are thinking from logic. In his view you are wrong. In your view he is wrong.
You seem to be asking for reconciliation when both of you should be seeking an escape route.
It doesn't matter whose fault it is. If he is a threat to you, or you are a threat to him, both of you need to disengage and find other people or interests.
I have had you as a contact for a while and have never had reason to doubt you are a genuine person with real concerns. I know you well enough to care about your safety and well-being, and based on that I say get this dude out of your life and you get out of his.
Hopefully he got a round-trip ticket.
2007-12-12 00:44:34 · answer #2 · answered by Warren D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds lijke a bit of domestic violence.
leave him.
If it gets nasty call th cops. Don't force yourself to live with him if you are not happy. Sometimes things just don't work out.
If oyu really don't want to try talking to him.
But otherwise just leave him. It's not worth it. Nothing is worth losing your happiness and self respect, not even a guy.
If he says your a liar/fake/loser then that means he's not happy either. Leave him, you shouldnt put up with someone like that.
His loss.
2007-12-11 23:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell him you have found some that dont want to change you & likes you 4 who you are. do what ever it takes to get rid of him other wise he will not grow up he is who he is he isnt going to change
2007-12-11 23:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lost cause is not the word, try self mutilation of the soul... regain your esteem ...and fire his ***
2007-12-11 23:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by john w 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
find some one else
2007-12-11 23:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋