How can I forgive him?

Question

You see there is this bus driver that says that he is my best friend and yet he speaks to me so rudely. Its not what he says but how he says it . Does anyone have any suggestions about how I can show him I forgive him without going over board but by being sincere to him and being a good chritian towards him???

Answer 1

I think you should sit down and speak with him..tell him how it hurts your feelings...and tell him its okay though...because you know hes really your friend! Or something in that nature...I think you should make him a gift or buy one depends on how close you are to him.....just always remember to never let your feelings get on your sleeve...this is how I am with a teacher of mine..and I came to find out even though she spoke so rudely...she said she was like my mom..and she loved me as her child....and she always took up for me....its just sometimes...people have a certain manner how they grew up speaking to people...they may not even realize they are smarting off!!!..Just always be sweet to him...and invite him to church or to shows or something...just lend a hand...and most importantly pray for him....if you do that...he might have a change in heart and be the sweetest person...thats what happend with me anyhow!!!!
I truly hope this helped you!
<33Tosha Davis!!

Answer 2

This applies to every situation: when someone hurts you, you must forgive them so that you do not poison your own soul with anger. That being said, forgiving does not mean becomming a doormat, or allowing the person to do the same thing to you over and over again.

When this person speaks rudely to you, say, "That seems rude to me and I don't like it when you speak that way. Please do not do that again."

If this person continues to speak rudely to you, you need to quit putting yourself in the situation where he can talk to you. If he tries to talk, smile and say, "I'm sorry, but I don't have time to talk right now." Then move on.

Be kind, honor yourself, and remember that people will treat you how you allow them to treat you. This doesn't mean you have control over what someone else says or does, because you don't. It means, you have control over what you say and do.

Best wishes, I hope this helps. :-)

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I see that lots of people have suggested giving him a gift. Let me assure you that if he gets a gift for being rude to you all you're teaching him is, "continue to be rude to me, you'll get more gifts." People do what works. When being rude stops working, he'll stop doing it.

Answer 3

Don't expect change from a person who is set in their ways. They might respond if you say that you are offended by his trashy mouth - some people are insecure and think that they are making points when all they are doing is being offensive.

Forgive him for you, not him. You don't even know if he will accept forgiveness, he could throw it in your face. So forgive him so that you won't carry a grudge against him. If he receives your forgiveness, then maybe you will be friends. Otherwise, you are forgiving a stubborn man.

Answer 4

If you stop thinking of him as your friend and stop engaging in conversation with him, it will be harder for him to hurt you. He can't be rude to you if you aren't around to be rude to. I think you should be a good Christian towards him by not giving him the time of day. Some people need to be loved from afar because being a Christian does not mean you have to a doormat.

Answer 5

I think you are being a good Christian toward him. You can't really change a person from being rude with anything you do,,,but God can,,,just pray for him and try not to take his comments in a personal way...he may have a bad home life or obstacles in his life that make him that way...love him with the God love inside you..It is easy to love a lovable person who is nice to us,,,the test comes when we must love those who are not so nice.

Answer 6

I drive a school bus. Drivers are required to keep children sitting. It is very difficult. It is easy to get angry at the rowdy kids. He probably means that his being strict is for your own good. You said it is how he says it. It will all be in how YOU say it. Just talk to him in a friendly tone. He will get it and it will mean a lot to him, even if he keeps talking strictly.

Answer 7

I was going to work for a First Student Bus company & they are rude people there. Not very nice.

The best way is to say your good morning & good night to him being pleasant. Why would a 40? yr old person want to be your friend.

That's creepy
for me. Didn't they do a criminal check on those drivers before they hire him?

Answer 8

Smile when you speak and everything should be fine. Did you tell him that he offends you? Some people just don't know how to use tact. Being a good Christian is forgiving, but if he doesn't know he is offending it will continue. Good luck!

Answer 9

Some people are blissfully unaware of just how rude they are being (New Yorkers come to mind), so try asking him if he is aware that he is coming across as rude. Chances are he doesn't realise and may "pause for thought".

Answer 10

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