I have been dating an amazing girl for 4 months, and I love her dearly. However, recently she has been considering turning to a right-hand religion, and, as a Satanist, I find the praying to some deity for forgiveness instead of trying to fix things yourself weak.
If she does decide to become Christian, Catholic, or whatever, I don't know if our relationship will work...there just seems to be too much difference.
What do you guys think?
2007-12-11 15:20:58 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
religion doesn't really matter..
2007-12-11 15:24:14 · answer #1 · answered by ♠ jhun ♠ 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I guess it just depends on how you guys argue. Do you forgive and forget easily, or hold grudges?
A good relationship means being able to understand the others point of view; kind of hard to do between a satanist and a christian....
Knowing from experience, religion causes too much tension.
But if you guys are doing fine now, even with her just leaning that way, you must be doing something right.
If you know the reasons for her changing her belief, then you have a small glimpse of what's in store for the future.
I hope you find what is best for the both of you.
2007-12-11 23:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by earthlover7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've know some couples who were Jewish and catholic, some who were even atheist and Jewish and they've managed to work it out. All depends if you guys communicate and how much you really do love her.
Personally I'm not familiar with the Satanist religion so I can't and won't say anything since what i do know is probably going to be bias opinion. One thing though that I do know about Catholics is that they do not pray just to be forgiven but to be shown a way. And if you sit on your butt all day it won't happen but if you go out and fix things yourself you'll realize you knew it all along and praying was simply a way to help you see it, (sorta like meditation).
Also I think (not sure) but it's said in the Bible somewhere that in order for Jesus to help you, you've got to help yourself first.
But really religion or no, it's all in how you feel about her and if you two are willing to really give it a shot. Ciao and good luck!
ps. all humans have flaws and we must embrace them in order to aquire self-knowledge and become better. Just some friendly advice to be taken or not ^_^
2007-12-11 23:41:38 · answer #3 · answered by sunsetcheetah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way I can answer this question. I don't know the dynamics of your relationship with this girl, your and her commitment to each religion and what exactly a "Satanist" believes other than the one thing you noted about prayer as a sign of weakness.
I think you and she should have a serious conversation and decide whether the difference is insurmountable.
Good luck.
2007-12-11 23:38:18 · answer #4 · answered by A.Lee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, from what I've seen, it usually isn't a problem, even if greatly contrasting relationships. Despite how much it *seems* that it will be an issue, in the end, few couples devote much of their lives to religion.
I'd say, keep getting to know her. She may be what you're looking for; it's better for you to spend more time with her and realize that she's not what you want, than to risk losing what would truly make you happy simply because of a difference between the two of you.
I think that if the two of you really make each other happy, the difference in faith will make no difference.
2007-12-15 01:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
praying for forgiveness is an attempt at righting wrongs. And the body tends to feel what the mind wants to believe, confession typically leads to the same spiritual high as the physical righting of that same wrong (which would also typically be a part of that forgiveness).
I don't know. It really depends on your personal views on the subject, but in my opinion it'd be weak to end a relationship over the potential religious friction.
2007-12-11 23:31:35 · answer #6 · answered by Joe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..... I am not sure how a relationship between a Satanist and a Christian would work. I have heard of stranger situations working out. Most strong relationships are built on accepting each other as they are. I am not sure that would be a selling point here. Your apparent honesty would be a strong point. I wish I could be of more help.
Hang in there.
2007-12-11 23:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by Bye Bye 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her as dearly as you say, then it will make no difference, because all paths lead to the same thing, and that thing is love.
Be prepared to face some flack from others in her religion if they find out that you are a Satanist. I presume she already knows that you don't sacrifice animals or do blood rituals, or whatever else makes people wary of Satanists.
Good luck!
2007-12-11 23:29:24 · answer #8 · answered by Chantal G 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on you. How much you can tolerate her different beliefs., or practice of religion. If you really love her, love is not selfish, and let the other be and do what she believe, is respect and love.
If you are not able to tolerate differences, that will always exist in every aspect of life. Then you are not prepared to such a relation, not yet.
2007-12-11 23:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by nikkita 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think a Catholic (or any other Christian) and a Satanist have any future together. Get out.
2007-12-11 23:25:12 · answer #10 · answered by Jay 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Definitely not. As long as both of you don't cram your religion down each other's throats then you'll both be fine. Lots of couples have dealt with the same issues during dating/marriage. You just need to give each other some religious breathing space.
2007-12-11 23:28:50 · answer #11 · answered by robot heart 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋