I believe in God and in Jesus, I would consider myself a Christian, believing in everything, I was raised a Catholic. Anyway, my boyfriend has in the past six months become a lot more than I am, meaning attending church every Sunday and joining in groups to study and talk about God and to pray. He says that until I call unto God and jesus to help me and for God's love then we can't be as happy as we could be. And we always come back to this same situation. I do believe...but I don't know I feel like he wants more from me and bringing me down. I don't know what to tell him. I love him so much, and i know he loves me and he is truly saying this from his heart ....but I can't feel it like he does! I just can't...I have my own relationship with God, and I don't feel comfortable worshiping outloud and with other people. I dont know. Is he right to say this? What would you do...any advice...please? I feel like Im being forced into something i can't do..and then feeling bad for it!
2007-12-11 14:51:30 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You have to set limits with him and help him realize that everyone comes to Christ in their own way. Jesus never forced anyone. He offered and was patient. He needs to be patient with you and let you find your own way. Nothing he can do will make you "get it" any faster. It has to be in God's time and Yours. God knows that you are on a different schedule than your boyfriend and he needs to accept this too.
If He really loves you and he really loves God, He will understand that God does not always do things in our time. He has his own schedule and you are right on time with God's schedule for you. For you, just keep searching for yourself. Don't feel pressured. God knows you and knows that you will have to come to truth in your own time and in your own way. God is very patient.
2007-12-11 14:58:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No one can force you into anything. My advice is either seek God with all your heart out of true desire, or break up with this guy. If you can't let go of your dreams and the things you love right now and actualy enjoy what you get in it's place, then you two will be miserable regardless of what direction you choose to go. Follow him to find the most fofillment if you are going to stay together... but if that will make you miserable then you are better off breaking it off. Trust me, I've been on both ends of this one... I realy do know what I'm talking about. God bless, love you in Christ.
PS.... What makes you think that you are saved anyway?
2007-12-11 22:57:25 · answer #2 · answered by Matthew P (SL) 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that God expects us to worship in our own way. As long as we follow his teachings, then he shouldn't pass judgment on you. That is God's place.
My Mom raised us Catholic, but Dad was not one. He made a promise to her the day they married he would support her in making sure we were raised Catholic. He did too.
Mom never bothered him about it and they have been married for over 50 years. My fahter beleives but feels he doesn't "get it" from organised religion. But I do like his beleif he once told me. You should make everyday God.s holy Day and do what you know is right.
2007-12-11 23:04:23 · answer #3 · answered by reneem1954_2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you explained to him your personal relationship with God? Have you told him that you like praying in a different way?
Personally, I'd find out which chick in his little prayer groups he is interested in, because that's pretty much the first thing that comes to mind. He sees someone else acting the way he wants you to and wants you to be like her. If you don't, he will want to be with her, and not you.
Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. Being able to read between the lines is a close second.
And you can't forget compromise.
2007-12-11 22:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Pray for your boyfriend to be more understanding. Pray for direction in your own life and ask God if this is the man for you. It is very clear that if you are unequally yoked then at some point in your marriage you will experience problems. Seek God's guidance and His direction since He is the only One who truly knows your path.
2007-12-11 23:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by Curtis 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, ANY boy who would try to force you into something you're uncomfortable with is bad news.
You do what you feel comfortable with, and if he doesn't like it, too bad. If he decides he doesn't want to be your boyfriend anymore, that's okay too. Believe me, there will be plenty of others.
Your relationship with god is personal, and it's between you and god. It's not between you, your boyfriend, and god.
In the long run, what you want is to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and know that you are honest with yourself and true to your self. As long as you can do that, you will be just fine.
Hon, I hope this helps. Please feel free to e-mail me anytime and talk as much as you want. I will listen and I will write you back. Please do not let your boyfriend try to change you into what he wants you to be. If he doesn't love you for who you are, he's not the right boy for you.
Best wishes. :-)
2007-12-11 22:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by kyeri y 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People of different religious beliefs can date/marry each other.
That said, it takes a special situation and a certain understanding of where the boundaries lie between both parties to make it work. If he can't provide that, move on.
2007-12-11 22:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that maybe this isn't the guy for you. I think it is great that he is excited about his relationship with God but I don't think he should expect you to express yourself the same way he does. I don't think is it right for him to pressure you so much. I will pray for both of you. Good luck.
2007-12-11 23:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Judi P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants you to have the same joy in God that he has found. If that bothers you, things won't change the way you want. Explore the claims of his newfound faith. Then decide what way to go.
2007-12-11 23:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by Bob T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good relationship should arise out of love to Christ.
Well, what you need to do is to ask yourself weather or not you are willing to love God...
If you are not willing to love Him, either you might need to discover that love for God or you might have to consider giving your boyfriend up.
Well, it all boils down to weather you are able to live with this man and his desire for spiritual things?
You might need to talk to him about it... how you feel.
And ask him to help you along in your experience with Christ, not pushed...
Actually, it should be a good thing for the man to have a firmer faith in God, to lead the family in worship...but the lady needs be one who desires it with him.
Don't be afraid, pray to God to search your heart..
Pray to Him to show you His love for you, that you would love Him...
"Come unto me all ye that are weary and heavy laden, and I will give you rest..."
"(Love) beareth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Love faileth not..."
Just be sincere...
May God wholly bless and keep you.
2007-12-11 23:08:52 · answer #10 · answered by Jason K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋