I know some people will understand my question completely from what I have written above. Probably the majority will not have a clue and I would be wasting my time if I elaborated. If my question annoys you, you must be in the majority, and if you think it is always good to be in the majority, I send you my blessings with tongue in cheek, as the expression goes.
2007-12-11 14:22:43 · 56 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
im not so i teach my kids how to think not what to think im just make him see the situation from many point of view and he is free to take which is more logic to him
2007-12-11 14:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
How can a child ever learn to think when they have nothing to think about.
So the parents starts out by teaching the child what think and believe...and later give the child opportunities to think through and find out if they have the same beliefs.
Children need a foundation from which to ask questions. A foundation of things to think about. This is started by...This is what I think or this is what I believe. Or as a (choose a descriptive noun) we believe....
Eventually they will figure things out for themselves...but don't expect kids to be more than kids...in their actions or thinking.
2007-12-11 14:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by LDS~Tenshi~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most would say it is the only way they can think of to get a moment's peace - so they can think.
You also must include the role of teachers in this process. Unless you assume they are no longer allowed to teach children things like that.
Then, think what parents and teachers working together might accomplish.
2007-12-11 14:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by Happy Camper 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, with all due respect, yours didn't teach you respect or civility. I think if parents worked a little harder at guiding their children with morals, ethics, home skills, money management, responsibility, patience, work ethic, our world wouldn't be going to heck in a hand basket now. If you never here a message from your parents, you never have the opportunity to think and decide for yourself what you want out of life. When children become 18, they are free to do what they want and how they want despite anything their parents taught or didn't teach them.
2007-12-11 14:31:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most parents don't study for parenthood and children don't pop out with instruction manuals. Love and Logic can help if you want to guide a few you know in how to start teaching how to think instead of what to think. The government wants us to teach information too not how to obtain information.
2007-12-11 14:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Farm++Happy++Mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is this "majority" that you speak of who are intent on teaching their children WHAT to think as opposed to HOW to think.
You have already nailed the answer yourself by claiming that "...the majority will not have a clue and I would be wasting my time if I elaborated...".
Exactly! People don't think.
2007-12-11 14:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by Ana 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, not everyone knows how to be a good parent. Some people do not know how to be a parent at all. I am a preschool teacher and some parents act as if their children are a burdon rather than a blessing. It is a shame but it happens. Just pray for them.
2007-12-11 14:26:31 · answer #7 · answered by help needed please 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think it's generational. They were taught "what" instead of "how", so they don't know "how". They cannot teach what they don't know. I also think that a lot of people view their kids in much the same way that I view my pets. They are cute and I love them, but I don't expect much of them beyond that. I teach them to sit on my command, but I don't explain why or when it is best to sit. I don't anticipate that they will ever look for jobs, wish to own homes, or disagree with my opinions...so I don't bother to prepare them for it. It seems that lots of people view their children only as extensions of themselves, scrapbooks of their own ideas and achievements that can be showcased for the social benefit of the parent.
2007-12-11 14:46:52 · answer #8 · answered by noname 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the job of parents to teach their children how to think. You must be very young. We all grow up and think and do what we want anyway, but at least our parents know that they did their best to teach us and train us. I send you my blessings, with tongue in cheek.
2007-12-11 14:28:10 · answer #9 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's an extension of the control that religion and society has on the parents. The parents often adopt the same basic model for their children.
2007-12-11 15:02:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. As parents, my husband and I spent countless hours talking over what we considered a wrong doing, but always listened to our children and valued their opinions. Sometimes that led to compromises on both our sides. Our kids always felt their opinions mattered. They are now grown adults, completely self sufficient, wonderfully productive people we are so proud of. I think it really helped to let them know we felt they had valid opinions and reasoning. We are very close still, and now we get to enjoy their company as wonderful young adults. I cringe when I hear parents barking out orders, and their only explanation to their kids is "because I said so." That kind of answer sure would make me feel like I was to dumb to think on my own, I totally agree with you-it's not right!
2007-12-11 14:34:11 · answer #11 · answered by debijs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋