How can I get more self-confidence? What can I do to believe in myself?

Answer 1

This is coming from my favorite and the greatest teacher in the world, BRIAN TRACY
January 29, 2007
Building Unshakable Self-Confidence
What difference would it make in your life if you had an absolutely unshakable confidence in your ability to achieve anything you really put your mind to?

Identify Your Biggest Dream
A young woman wrote to me recently, telling me that her whole life had taken a different turn since she heard me ask the question, “What one great thing would you dare to dream if you knew you could not fail?”

She wrote that, up to that time, this was a question she had never even dared to consider, but now, she thought of nothing else. She had realized, in a great, blinding flash of clarity, that the main thing separating her from her hopes and dreams was the belief in her ability to achieve them.

Most of us are like this for most of our lives. There are many things that we want to be, and have and do, but we hold back. We are unsure because we lack the confidence necessary to step out in faith in the direction of our dreams.

Determine What You Really Want
Just think: What difference would it make in your life if you had an absolutely unshakable confidence in your ability to achieve anything you really put your mind to? What would you want and wish and hope for? What would you dare to dream if you believed in yourself with such deep conviction that you had no fears of failure whatsoever?

Be True to Yourself
The key is to be true to yourself, to be true to the very best that is in you, and to live your life consistent with your highest values and aspirations.

Take some time to think about who you are and what you believe in and what is important to you. Decide that you will never compromise your integrity by trying to be or say or feel something that is not true for you.

Have the courage to accept yourself as you really are-not as you might be, or as someone else thinks you should be-and know that, taking everything into consideration, you are a pretty good person.

Make A Plan to Achieve It
Being true to yourself means knowing exactly what you want and having a plan to achieve it. Lasting self-confidence comes when you absolutely know that you have the capacity to get from where you are to wherever you want to go. You are behind the wheel of your life. You are the architect of your destiny and the master of your fate.

Use the "Act As If" Principle
Act as though it were impossible to fail. Act as though you already had a high level of self-confidence. And continually ask yourself, “What one great thing would I dare to dream if I knew I could not fail?” Whatever your answer, you can have it if you can dream it, and if you have the self-confidence to go out and get it.

Action Exercises
Here are three steps you can take immediately to put these ideas into action.

First, resolve to step out in faith in the direction of your dreams; just do it!

Second, ask yourself, “What one great thing would I dare to dream if I knew I could not fail?”

Third, be true to yourself, to the very best that is in you. Never compromise!
I hope this helps you as it has helped me.
BEST WISHES!

Answer 2

I don't know of anything that will instantly give you confidence.. As I suffer with a really low self esteem and am really shy myself. But, like you, it only really started when I was 15/16. I didn't even go to my prom. There is no reason you shouldn't be able to believe in yourself anymore. You can do anything. Just tell yourself that you can do anything you like, anyone can! All you need to do is motivate yourself to do so. I think you should take up a hobby. I have many. I draw and animate (2D) a lot (it's actually what I want to do as a career). I also taught myself web-programming. I think when I finish a project, it makes me feel proud of myself. That I'd accomplished something. Also, having a hobby and creating something you're proud of gives you a chance to show people and impress them, so it'll help you feel a lot better when talking to people. Hope I helped, Good luck.

Answer 3

in the morning, when you brush your teeth, wash up..close the bathroom door and have some time on your own.look into the mirror and pick out what you love most about yourself, comeon there must be at least one thing that you love.think yourself unique that there isnt anyone on this earth like you.you are urself and theres no such thing as a parallel universe.so appreciate yourself your being, everyone is different and beautiful in their own way.look into your eyes and motivate yourself, tell yourself you love you and then ur able to walk out that door and look at the world a whole different way.of course one day is not going to change ur whole life, but do that in the long run and appreciate yourself be grateful to the people who brought you up, and support you and back you up. then you can love them because they made you who you are.im sure ur a very pleasant person and you will be able to find that in urself if you believe,believing is a simple word but yes it takes alot for someone to have faith in anything.but if u believe anything, its harder than believing in urself.so if u do have faith in others or religion, than it cant be that hard to believe in ur self, the only one thats your going to stick with for all eternity.so start now and love it cause you cant change who you are only except for the way you think:)

Answer 4

It may sound strange, but the first step is to watch what you say/think to yourself. I've had times in my life where I've been depressed (everyone does). During these times, I find myself having a very defeatest attitude and telling myself negative things, which keeps me from accomplishing something.

For instance, I was very bad at gymnastics in P.E. in high school. I'd tell myself that there's no point in trying to do it, because I felt that I just wasn't good at it.

I then started telling myself (over and over again) that I could do it. At that point, I worked at it, and my teacher at the end of the class told me that I was the most improved person in the class.

Sometimes, the only thing that's holding you back is what you're telling/thinking to yourself. After you start telling yourself that you can do it (whatever it was), just start working at it. You'll really improve at whatever you choose to try.

Answer 5

I recently overcame a self confidence problem. The best thing you can do is just forgot about what everyone else wants and just do want you like. Don't worry about what anyone thinks of you. People actually like to be around those who aren't obsessed with impressing them. Soon you'll be able to do anything without having a second thought.

Answer 6

I agree with ciao! Also, make a list of the things you like/love about yourself, and everytime you think about it/them, remind youself it's/they're great. If it's your body, pick a body feature you really like and everytime you look in the mirror, say "That is really cute/great/whatever." It takes time and energy to build self-confidence, but it's so great to believe in yourself.
If you think you're shy and need self-confidence to be more outgoing and less afraid of what people think, it should help that too. Tell yourself you've got nothing to be ashamed of; who cares if they judge you. Try being super-outgoing when you're around people you may never see again in your life. They can't think bad about you, and it really helps.

Good luck...I probably said WAY too much, but I hope it helps!

Answer 7

Find something that you're good at, a talent or find a good deed that you can do well, e.g. musical instrument, visiting the sick, helping people out, etc... Even if you can't find anything that you think you're good at, think of something that you can do semi-well. Work on it, practice it, and hopefully that will give you confidence in other areas. Good luck!

Answer 8

Positive thinking goes along way. If you don't do something you think is good, then it's time to change your way of thinking.

And remember, no one can judge you but yourself. You only need to impress one person. Don't pick on yourself, because you are a beautiful, intelligent, strong person, and you are exactly who you should be. Smile and remember you own it! :)

Answer 9

I read somewhere that the first thing to do is write down a list of things that are good about you. I tried that, and it helped a lot.

Also, here is an awesome site that gives lots of great advice:
http://www.mindtools.com/selfconf.html

Answer 10

i had the same problem, i made a list of good things about myself, and asked my friends why i am cool to be with and in every class i look around and count all the friends i have in that class. i am always in a better mood about myself, just remember you wouldnt have friends if you werent fun to be around