would you date and maybe move in with someone?

Question

says they dont want to be married..and maybe never will because those papers are ownership papers.. and they have never seen a couple last other than his or her parents

Answer 1

The paper itself isn't all that important to me, I moved in with my b/f (who said he didn't see himself ever married) and lived with him for 10 years before we got married. The actual marriage lasted only 7 years. I'm happily divorced now.

Answer 2

Depends. Do YOU want to get married someday?

If not, then it probably is fine... but be careful. If he is against the "ownership" aspect of marriage, then there is a 90% chance this is a code for his lack of commitment. Don't be surprised if he cheats on you or drops you when he's tired. But that is not necessarily true. You need to have a long, serious talk with him to determine how he really feels about relationships and you, specifically. Commitment is still important, marriage or no marriage.

If you DO want to get married, then you will be making a big mistake and will be wasting both of your time. I would dump the guy now and save you both the trouble of a lot of heartache later. It is highly unlikely he will change his mind later... unless you have a good job and he doesn't. Then he'll suddenly be interested in the paper, because that will get him on your health insurance plan. ;-)

Whatever you choose to do, good luck!

Answer 3

Personally, no.

If I was looking for casual dating, more someone to have fun with than to get serious with, possibly. But I would never move in with someone I was not definitely serious with, and so... the answer is no.

Moving in with someone is a huge commitment to undertake in itself. If this person views marriage as a term of ownership and you are already second guessing if you are comfortable with that, perhaps you should rethink moving in.

Do what feels right for you. If you can put up without having a marriage and are comfortable with just having the commitment you promise between you, go for it! No one says you need papers to prove it.

On the other hand, you don't sound comfortable. If you feel you need a lifelong promise, then don't settlle for less.

Answer 4

No. Someone who believes that one of their parents owns the other one and thinks that only mom and dad can stay together is messed up in the head.

If divorces happen, then why are marriage contracts "ownership papers?" Obviously, either person can end the contract, so who owns who? Does each partner own the other? If so, then what's the big deal? Can we say fear of committment? Would you move in with someone that said "I dunno, I might want to kick you out some day when I'm in a bad mood."

If his parents could do it, why can't he or she do it? Our parents teach us more about relationships than anyone else in the world. And if he/she is so sure it is impossible to do, why would they let anyone live with them. By that reasoning, dating will always end in heartbreak, and the only reason they would let someone else into their life is if they thought they could get physical satisfaction from them without getting any emotional commitment.

Don't get me wrong, I'm all for physical satisfaction, but I can give that to myself. I get with people for emotional satisfaction, and for me to get that, there has to be commitment.

Answer 5

Their parents gave their hearts to each other and therefore comes the "ownership papers".
If your partner, or you won't commit,
then maybe you don't have their heart.
Living together is not like having a Life together.
Accept nothing less, you deserve it!

Answer 6

we are different from each other. What you like, maybe I dislike. What they believe maybe I don't believe. What you know maybe I do not know. Yes and NO. Yes, if I like the girl and I want to start a new life and to develop a great love with her. No. If it is for the sake of flirting. Papers are just papers. We bound not by that but by our hearts. I jst want you to know that legally, I'm not married. But I fully dedicate myself to someone. It means my heart, my soul is already own by this person. I give it voluntarily. I can marry in the church or in the judge office, but the time I gave my heart, I will never give it again. it means my love and my willingness to sacrifice for the sake of other is already owned by someone. She can marry other guy, why not. But the string attached between us can never be broken. Only death. The deal, i love you and I will show you this love not through physical contact but through the help that I can give you. I will not and I can't marry her but my willingness to help and to sacrifice for her is totally different. Love can be shown not only through bed or through wedding but also through one's sacrifices and help for the beloved.
I can and I will date someone. But as I've said, if I like the girl. And I have the intention of going in to a new relationship. (take note, the first woman I love is my heart's owner.)wedding is an acceptance of the society that both of you are legally married. Modern world is now under purification. We are ctually making many new values which are agaisnt our conscience.

Answer 7

I share the same view of the man in this story. Marriage these days are only good for females they benefit males in no way. If divorce should happen which over 50% of marriages fail and roughly another 25% would fail but kids are involved you would get half of everything. It doesn't make sense for a guy to get married anymore. Unless you sign a pre-nump. Or make more money so you lose half.

Answer 8

I might or might not.....

There's a very broad field of answers for this question, anybody can come up with sad and love stories because of the situation you're presenting.

It should come down to one thing, communication, if the couple didn't had it before living together, they'll hardly do it afterwards, unless they get use to each other, but as I said, very broad theme to come to a single conclusion.

Answer 9

You two should talk about your future and see what each of you want out of the relationship first before you consider moving in together. So I guess the answer to your question would be no unless you two are somewhat on the same page, but who knows he could change ( cross your fingers if u really want it to work between you guys)!!

Answer 10

I don't like papers also.... marriage is not to be controlled by a paper . However, it may be ok to get such papers to keep the legal rights for the children in the future