2007-12-11 14:11:26 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I guess that you should just wait a week to see if you have more feelings with her.
If you feel that you still don't like her, then I'd advise you to make a sorry "break-up"
You should say that its not her, but how you just lost feelings; tell her the truth too.
2007-12-11 14:16:19 · answer #1 · answered by Andizzle Foshizzle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are losing feeling let her know you don't think its going to work out. Be thoughtful of her feeling and try to let her down easy. But staying with her if you don't really want to is not doing her or yourself justice. In time she will get over it and meet some one who cares about her.
2007-12-11 22:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by Shooter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like everyone else, I'm going to have to say: You have to tell her. Not just for her, it's in both of your interests. The longer you wait, the harder it will be for you because the longer you put it off, the less you're going to want to do it. It's a procrastination thing: You aren't going to do it until you have to, and just like procrastinating when doing a project, the end product won't be as good as it should be. You're going to end up hurting her more than you would if you told her now.
And from experience, I know this: The longer you stay with someone you don't like anymore, the more you're inclined to cheat. When you don't like someone, you start liking some else. And if you can't break up with your girlfriend but you like someone else, well, that's when cheating is born. It won't seem like a big deal to you because, well, you don't like her anyway, so it's like you're already broken up. But if she likes you, it's not going to come across like that. You'll hurt her, and seeing her hurt, even when you don't like her like that, is going to hurt you.
So break it off with her. Be nice about it, but don't sugar-coat it. The last thing she wants to hear is "You are super super awesome, and you deserve someone just as awesome as you are and I'm just not that person. You're kind and funny and wonderful, and I just can't match up to that. It's not you, it's me. But I want to be friends :)" You're breaking up with her, it's going to hurt no matter what you say. But don't be mean about it, be truthful. Tell her that you just don't have those feelings anymore, and it's not fair to both of you if you pretend you do. Tell her that you hope you can be friends some day, but that you'll wait until she's ready. Tell her that you're sorry.
I'm sorry if that's not the answer you wanted, but it's the best one. All I have left to say is: Maybe take a week to think about it? You don't want to break up with her tomorrow morning, only to wake up the next day realizing you still love her.
2007-12-11 22:25:35 · answer #3 · answered by blonde_tornado2002 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to her. Don't be dating someone you don't really feel anything for. Maybe you can work it out, maybe you won't. You can't just pretend to still care about her. That will hurt even more than breaking up. She will feel betrayed. Explain your feelings, find out if you can rekindle your relationship, and if you can't then walk away. That's better than living a lie.
2007-12-11 22:16:30 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. Phyliss 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be honest wiht her it may hurt at first but in the long run you'll both be better of...or just get some distance you know the old saying...absence makes the heart grow fonder...unless your just thinking the grass is greener think again because its not! Ask my X hubby..he'll tell ya!
2007-12-11 22:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by dawnO 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be honest. The worst thing you can do is lead her on when you all dont have mutual feelings. It may hurt her now but it will benefit you both in the end.
2007-12-11 22:14:36 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
break up with her now before her feelings get even stronger. before she starts thinking of getting married and having ur baby. this is the best thing to do. end it now. it will be harder on the both of u if u wait.
2007-12-11 22:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by PRINCESS DI 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont lead her on it will hurt her worse if you keep the relationship going. you should break it off with her unless you think you could develop more feelings for her again..
Good luck=]
2007-12-11 22:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by Baby girl 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you still think there's something to salvage, try just taking a break. Tell her, of course. But if you feel it's just time to move on, do it.
2007-12-11 22:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by madagascar82 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well you should tell her becuz if she finds out on her own she will be really hurt tell her you think of her more as a friend! By the way this is a girls opnion.
2007-12-11 22:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by mnalovesjesse 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋